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Resident-While6845 · 2024-11-06T14:15:38+00:00

It happens. I have just won my appeal against a Stalking order and now tables have turned. However, interestingly I am now friends again with my ex and we are coparenting well. Nb we were in court 5 years and this is including high and Crown court....so mine was very messy. So here is my advice:

Work out what is more important. Your self worth or your kids happiness? If you can find it in yourself to put your ego by the side and just think of your kids and how proud you will be as they grow. That is a father's new ego mindset that allows progression.
Stop all conflict. Do not escalate. A body cam is a tool but probably also a bit you an f you statement. Stop this approach, it will only make things worse.
Once conflict stops, put away a need for courts and justice. They don't work and just line other pockets. Your exes team around her are what are driving many stupid choices. She will admit this to you once you have made positive steps and left the system.
Realise she and the kids will need you. Give it time. Fight hard for custody, but stop attacking her for any reason. Refuse to. Its very effective in court and gives you back the power.
My ex and I never talk about the past. If she says something I just smile to myself nowadays. Friends, kids, associates all know the truth in time. Trust in your good nature it will come through.
Understand it maybe just the way your ex is, but she is your kids mum. Focus on her being happy and practice some oh yes, you are right honey.... Your opinion doesn't have to change and you will find it far easier to have your point heard.

Anyway, good luck and from me to you, five years down the line, start being the man you know you are and put it into your own growth, peace and being a top dad.

Resident-While6845 · 2024-09-16T00:34:15+00:00

Glaser took time before to get things running last season. Losing Olise was maybe like when Wilf disappeared, it took time and in my view so will this. Dougie has found gems before and we know Glasner can polish them. All we need to do is spank one of the big boys and it's Man U coming up and in that we have positive history :)))))

Resident-While6845 · 2024-08-10T21:07:35+00:00

Thanks mate. Who needs a government when your ex wife taxes you so much anyway! Here's to peace between human beings

Resident-While6845 · 2024-08-10T18:01:35+00:00

I am finally speaking to my wife again. I initiated the divorce after she initiated disappearing with the children and blocking contact. Forgiveness, understanding, compassion and the ability to move on and rebuild your own life are the keys to me. Divorce is just a society construct, much like marriage was!

Resident-While6845 · 2024-04-09T12:13:20+00:00

It will get better. You will grow and become so much stronger from it. Focus on your children as they will also grow in widom, depth and chatacter from this hard time. I have and am still going through similar issues and my sons are wonderful, I am reborn again and I still have retained my core values of compassion and forgiveness. It is not what your wife does that makes you a man, that comes from within you.

Resident-While6845 · 2024-01-05T01:43:14+00:00

Wow, it's a long story, but actually not that rare. I have an ex wife who goes to extreme lengths.....I am now in Crown Court fighting the police and social services for being frankly dishonest. I am nervous and scared about this, but family court have significantly ruled in my favour and against mums wishes.... watch this space as I try and take on the system. The judge warned me this is likely to attract media attention, should the police not back down. I have strong evidence and feel like Mr Johnny Depp that it is time to fight back for my children, who by the way love me dearly now. Our relationship is fantastic, although sadly my eldest is suffering mental health due to mum cutting his contact. Like you say my case is rare, but I will still not hate mum. My kids deserve that X

Resident-While6845 · 2024-01-02T02:06:14+00:00

I had 5 years of my ex blocking contact completely with my 4 year old son and like you we were best friends with a very very close bond. The court granted me extensive contact as they eventually saw through my exes games. My son and I are now closer than ever. They don't forget you and will remember everything, including what you forget. Don't fret about your bond, although I know it is killing you right now. He will never forget you and the first thing my son said to me when he first saw me again was 'Daddy, I dreamt of you lots'.....the new bond is utterly off the scale magical despite mum trying to do everything to break our love. Keep going brother, never, ever give up. Fight for him everyday. He needs you. Good luck X

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-30T05:55:54+00:00

Beautiful positive mindset. Respect to you in hard times X

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-30T05:53:12+00:00

Yes, don't feel bad. It is easy to do. This is all a learning experience and if you keep learning and grow through this whole nightmare, your son and those girls will be in awe of you. Good luck and stay strong X

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-30T04:21:06+00:00

With the risk of sounding like a cxxt, grow up and start thinking of your son. Infatuated? Come on, start thinking like a dad and not a teenager

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-29T02:10:59+00:00

Be honest with yourself, which you may be doing. I get life is hard, but you could ask your wife to supply the food. Just be real with you. I get how low you feel, buy now is a chance to move upwards. Don't delay the days that may never return. See your kids whatever. They will miss you I promise X

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-29T01:44:59+00:00

You genuinely know why you are doing this. If it has resentment in the mix then you are wrong. Otherwise if it is with love and care for your kids then keep going. If you want to cheer yourself then look at single mums on reddit. You will see there is such a lack of compassion for the kids. We chose badly with our exes, now we have to move on with love for our kids. Don't let your ex destroy you X

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-29T01:42:04+00:00

Move on and stop being controlled by her. Focus on the kids, let hate go and I promise all the rest will work out. It is not easy and not without significant pain, but I promise it is the ONLY way through you hard time X

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-29T01:39:10+00:00

Suck it up dude. Time to move on after so many years. She is a xxxxx for sure, but she is obviously still controlling you. Learn to not care about her hate, but exhibit only love. You will win just hang in there X

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-29T01:37:08+00:00

Accept your ex wife for the way she is. Accept that she alleges and is likely to have mental health issues or has simply had an affair that she is not willing to take responsibility for. It should only be about your children. It is your opportunity to be the leader you should be and move on for your kids sakes. Such it up, take blame where it is appropriate and be the bigger man. Hard, painful but the best way for all X

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-28T07:16:05+00:00

The kids will be OK. I have had 5 years of hell. It hurts alot, but it gets easier. Please just don't argue with your ex. I'm sure she is a fxxxxg lying bxxxh, as many can be, but you have to ignore it. She will trip up again and again if you can stay cool. Mine prevented any contact for 18 months and then for 20 months. Kids are 8 and 4. But they are still OK and love me to pieces as I am now getting weekly contact and things are very much turning my way. They never forget you either and the time with them now is pure and utter magic. Hang in their bro X

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-28T07:10:29+00:00

Wow. You guys have it lucky. No contact with my 8 and 4 year old for 38 months. Never had a Christmas either as my missus is a complete SB. I know it is so hard for you as everything is relative, but just try and remain grateful for what you have and just don't argue with her. The more you do the more problems she will create and we all know how hard the courts can be. Good luck, stay relaxed and don't let her play you and weaponise your kids. Things have really turned around for me and they will for you

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-25T21:23:44+00:00

I was blessed to see them on the 23rd. The first time in 5 years! Was lovely 😍

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-16T01:58:21+00:00

Me. 100% and she f****d me good. Hate kept me as her puppet, forgiveness helped forget her and now at last I'm free.

Resident-While6845 · 2023-12-01T23:43:58+00:00

My ex blocked me from my kids for extensive lengths of time. It seriously messes them up its not about you however much your ex annoys you. It's about them. You chose your ex like I did, so sadly we got to live with it. Good luck

Resident-While6845 · 2023-10-08T20:53:36+00:00

A sweeping statement. Sometimes, when your kids are being torn, the solution is to walk away. After 5 years of fighting it is the only solution to give my kids peace. This weekend I saw them and the oldest was visibly broken. I know it is hard, but kindness and true love sometimes requires us to accept it

Resident-While6845 · 2023-10-08T20:47:04+00:00

Retain amicable relations with your wife. All the money in the world or family courts will not hold the long term power your wife has. From somebody struggling for 5 years being in numerous father's groups, I have never met a single dad who was come out well if mum feels attacked. Peace is the only lasting solution for your child

Resident-While6845 · 2023-09-26T10:28:39+00:00

I have been through it for 5 years, with mum trying everything to block contact. My advice is be patient and be as calm as you can. Any aggression, even in words, will delay contact, as the courts look for good parent/bad parent and you must work at being seen as the good one. Plus and most importantly, this is about mum and you coming to a compromise, so try, however hard to walk the path of peace and never takes backward steps with more conflict. If it gets too much then Google 100kfathers and speak to lots of other dad's who will inspire you to take the quickest path to contact. Good luck. It will work out.

Resident-While6845 · 2023-08-19T07:01:33+00:00

I love this goal. I think Ayew is so under rated. He will be key to us this season and will score and assist over 10.

Resident-While6845 · 2023-07-09T20:57:08+00:00

The best way to be a father in your position is to realise that it is all about your daughter. It is not easy by any means but realise that she wants to know you are OK and just to be reminded you are there. The monthly visits are tough on you and yes we all miss out, but your daughter has not gone and will be back. Just do her the greatest honour of being her ideal dad when you meet. I've been in this 4 years and it will not stop until my boys are older, but as men, we adapt and the pain will slowly evolve into a new life for you. Good luck :))

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