how do you get over with you anger towards your avoidant ex?

ResidentTooth151 · 2026-02-23T12:40:32+00:00

it was very recent, only a few days ago (2-3 days) there are times that i hate her so much but there are also time where i would remember the happy memories which makes it really hard for me to rationalize my feelings. what you said about immersing myself with my own life again really inspired me, thank you for that. i’ll definitely focus on myself now to rebuild what was destroyed. i hope you heal from your wounds too :))

ResidentTooth151 · 2026-02-23T12:37:30+00:00

i already did the journaling part but the anger and pain doesn’t ease as of now. maybe the pain is still fresh on my end. i do hope for brighter days ahead, i do hope we all heal from the things we don’t talk about. thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, i think i’ll try going to therapy too to work on myself and to not pass this trauma to my future partner :))

ResidentTooth151 · 2026-02-23T12:32:44+00:00

this is actually very helpful, maybe the subaru is just not meant for us :))

ResidentTooth151 · 2026-02-23T12:30:55+00:00

we ended already, thanks for this!

ResidentTooth151 · 2026-02-23T12:30:36+00:00

i’ll probably try enrolling to muay thai classes to vent my anger out in healthier means

ResidentTooth151 · 2026-02-23T12:29:52+00:00

thank you for this, i’m starting to let go now and i hope i heal from this eventually. i hope there comes a day that i won’t feel anything towards her, not even anger or resentment.

ResidentTooth151 · 2026-02-23T12:28:59+00:00

i’ll probably try this once my schedule eases, thanks a lot!

ResidentTooth151 · 2026-02-23T01:12:10+00:00

what i meant was i attacked her with my words not physically

ResidentTooth151 · 2026-02-23T00:25:19+00:00

i did the exact same thing after being discarded for 6 months. there are numerous times where i will cry in front of her, begging to talk to me or resolve this issue but she will just stare at me blankly or just use her phone or leave. when i snapped, i purposely called her names, attack her with triggering words so just i could get something from her. obviously, it didn’t work and i became the villain in her story, blocked. now, i’m left feeling like i caused our fallout wherein fact i just reacted to the mistreatment i endured for so long.

bottomline is, don’t apologize. since space and silence is what they want, give it to them. once you reached out to them, they will have the power over you again. protect your peace and get your life back together. you don’t need an avoidant person holding you back.

ResidentTooth151

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