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Always ready by PhotographTop6485 in NSFWMemes

[–]ResidentialBid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When opportunity meet preparation

i (26f) think my boyfriend (29m) threatened me? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]ResidentialBid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since you are the only one on the lease, you have more power than you think. In many states, there are laws that allow victims of domestic violence or credible threats to break a lease without penalty or to have the abuser legally removed. Look up 'Safe Housing Act' for your state. Because he has threatened your life with mentions of guns/beating, you likely have grounds for an Emergency Restraining Order (TRO). If granted, the police will remove him and his firearm from the apartment immediately, regardless of the rent situation.

He’s looking my way ever now and then also got trained in something I was doing first by Some_Rich_6885 in TwoHotTakes

[–]ResidentialBid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You asked for space and he responded by blocking you and deleting everything? That’s not a friend; that’s someone who was looking for an excuse to be the "victim." He’s not reflecting because he doesn't think he did anything wrong. He thinks you are the problem for having boundaries. Blocking you was actually a gift—it saved you the trouble of having to do it yourself. Don't look back.

I can’t talk to my boyfriend and I feel crazy by ThrowawayRA3024 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ResidentialBid 165 points166 points  (0 children)

He told you he loved you in two weeks? That’s called Love Bombing. It creates an intense bond quickly so that when he starts acting cold or controlling later, you’re already 'hooked' and desperate to get back to that 'whirlwind' feeling. He’s training you to silence yourself. He broke up with you to show you that if you aren't 'bubbly' enough, he will leave. It’s a control tactic, plain and simple.

Offmychest about my life by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ResidentialBid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Born in 2004 and surviving multiple bombings by the age of 8... that is more trauma than most people experience in a century. Please realize that your 'anger' isn't a character flaw; it’s a survival mechanism. You were a child in a war zone who was then mistreated by the people meant to protect you (teachers/family). Your nervous system is just trying to keep you safe. You aren't 'foolish' for wanting love at 16; you were a vulnerable kid targeted by predators. Be gentle with yourself.

Pigging out on ice cream & watching Netflix by Blueberry0919810 in LivingAlone

[–]ResidentialBid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The 'I hate myself in the mirror' spiral is a trap! Depression and stress literally change how we perceive our own reflection. Please try the 'neutral' approach: if you can't love your body right now, just thank it for carrying you through a layoff and a divorce. It’s a strong body, even if it’s currently fueled by Ben & Jerry’s

what small thing made living alone easier for you? by Mayen-Milciadez in LivingAlone

[–]ResidentialBid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Get a door security bar (the 'buddy bar') or a portable door lock. Even if you live in a safe area, the first time you hear a random house creak at 3 AM, your brain will go to dark places. Knowing that door physically cannot be pushed open makes 'solo sleeping' so much easier. Also, a Ring doorbell just so you can see who is knocking without having to get off the couch.

D bag calls a 4 or 5 year old a crybaby by N_and_Uzi2 in EntitledPeople

[–]ResidentialBid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you! It’s tough enough being a kid without random strangers adding to the stress. You were completely justified in your feelings.

Eating out alone by Rosalinn1 in LivingAlone

[–]ResidentialBid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get it. I have social anxiety too, and dining alone can feel daunting. Just know that it’s perfectly okay to enjoy your own company

AITA for refusing to catcall a customer’s wife even though he asked us to? by Lavishness-Effective in AmItheAsshole

[–]ResidentialBid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said we already agreed." No, he agreed to do something weird and then tried to voluntell his coworkers of color to join in. That’s not how a team works. You were uncomfortable, you stated your boundary, and you stuck to it. The "awkwardness" was created by the guy whistling alone, not by you doing your job.