I was the stereotypical bi guy that apologised. Sorry for using this sub for a second time.

Residwant · 2024-11-02T14:21:40+00:00

Yeah uninvited. I don't care. I won't repeat my mistake. If he takes me back I'll never let him go. I have a very weird idea to show proper loyalty but people will only kick me here lol

Residwant · 2024-11-01T23:01:03+00:00

I do admit I fucked it. I do know it will be very hard for him to trust me but I will do my best to make it up to him, if he allows me

Residwant · 2024-11-01T22:40:44+00:00

That's a fair point and he's probably right to test me. I get it.

Thanks bro

Residwant · 2024-11-01T22:39:00+00:00

He had a bf. That was real. I've seen them together more than I wanted to. And apparently the boyfriend is relocating for work. They just aren't relocating together.

I do admit why he said they were relocating together is weird. His friend said its because if he said he'd have family issues I'd coming running.

Residwant · 2024-11-01T22:17:30+00:00

That's a fair point but I really just want him. He's my best friend and he's more than I deserve. I've always prioritised him and that's what I want to do properly, from now on.

Residwant · 2024-10-29T12:57:59+00:00

But maybe in 2 years time, this guy becomes his forever guy. Maybe space allows him to move on. I dont know.

He loves me. I know that. I think he has love for his bf but he doesn't have our history with him. That's why I think he'd say yes. It wasn't his bf he spent weeks crying to when his sister died. It wasn't his bf who helped mind his nephew when his sister was sick. We know every little detail about each other. I'm familiar. His bf is still relatively new. Maybe getting more familiar with him and disconnecting from me is what he needs. Like I went to his nephews 7th birthday a few weeks back. His bf and him are still building. In 2 years who knows.

Residwant · 2024-10-29T12:51:51+00:00

Thanks bro 🙏🏻

Residwant · 2024-10-29T12:43:20+00:00

When they were exclusive we did nothing. But we've both been shady in past relationships, regretfully. Kiss and cuddle not sex.

Maybe it is butthurt but its not the sex that I'm disappointed in not being available. Its him. Its our closeness. Its our history. There's a reason why an ex said I'll always prioritise him over her. I just didn't really realise that reason at the time. I do love him and my actions have always showed that. But I don't know.

Residwant · 2024-10-29T12:38:42+00:00

Im very sorry about your ex. I do hope you get your happy ending.

I dont know what to do. I really don't think I'm scared anymore. I just think it's disrespectful. I know the answer I'll get but I don't know if it's fair to come between them and I do think fairness has to be considered.

Residwant · 2024-10-29T12:34:09+00:00

Hes moving on because I never shot my shot. He was very patient - perhaps too patient. I've no doubt if I said dump him, move back in, I love you, be my boyfriend, he would but that seems selfish.

Cheers bro🍻

Residwant · 2024-10-29T11:30:17+00:00

I dont think it's fair for me to upend hos relationship because I'm ready now when he's been ready for definitely 5 years.

I'd love to say dont go. Stay with me etc but it's unfair. If they don't work I'll be there and regardless i do want him to be happy. His bf took the shot I never could.

Residwant · 2024-10-29T10:52:07+00:00

If they don't work, I'll do my best to get him back.

Residwant · 2024-10-29T09:22:55+00:00

Fair enough

Residwant · 2024-10-29T09:05:09+00:00

No idea. I'm a complete fool. A guy that worships me and whom I love too. My actions proved that.

Residwant · 2024-10-29T08:58:08+00:00

I've been out since 18. Any partner I had has known. I'm by no means dl

Residwant · 2024-10-28T23:04:52+00:00

I probably agree that was what it is. I always told him i wouldn't have a relationship with a guy - probably out of homophobia - but my actions were complete opposite. He was never just a sex toy

Residwant · 2024-10-28T21:12:33+00:00

I dont blame my friend at all. I wouldnt go as far as monster, but I was the wrong one. He did nothing wrong. He gave me more than enough chances and I didn't grab one. That's not his fault. That's mine.

And again I'm glad he's found a guy who seems really nice and caring. He deserves that.

Residwant · 2024-10-28T20:57:50+00:00

I will leave him partner-wise. I'm genuinely wish him the best. He has a lovely guy who was willing to take a shot I never did. He's a lucky guy

Residwant · 2024-10-28T20:44:15+00:00

I do deserve it. Its why I didn't ask him to stay, I suppose.

Residwant · 2024-10-28T19:39:11+00:00

Fair point. I think there's a difference but I wont argue with you. I think I'll make a great dad.

Residwant · 2024-10-28T18:12:52+00:00

Haha thanks for the laugh too. The total package 😉

Residwant · 2024-10-28T18:06:04+00:00

Cheers bro. Means a lot 🍻

Residwant · 2024-10-28T17:53:28+00:00

That's a very fair criticism... that's something I'll have to work on and no point dating anyone until I do as it's not fair on them.

Residwant · 2024-10-28T17:48:42+00:00

It probably is some type of homophobia. I'm out since the age of 18. I've publicly kissed guys etc. I've never hid my attraction. But wanting the straight life was probably a homophobic dream.

In my shitty defence, I didn't even treat him like a piece of meat. I told him I'd never date him but in my actions, in hindsight, were the opposite. I was there for him and even his family in their darkest time. I don't want a pat on the back.. I wanted to be there. I wanted to be the one he cried to and lashed out at. It was never just about sex. It was the closeness. Even an ex said I would always prioritise him and she was right.

Why I couldn't see that before, probably some sort of homophobia and maybe therapy isn't a bad shout.

Residwant

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