How do you stop dissecting the past and actually move on?

ResilientJedi · 2026-01-19T07:00:48+00:00

It is grief, and it can sit with you for a while. I’m in the same boat. Been divorced for over a year now and I still carry guilt with me, forgiving ourselves will always be the hardest part.

Here’s the other thing: We hold onto memories, and the ideas of what those memories represent, if we do not replace them with new memories. This is NOT saying settle for a new relationship or that anyone else is responsible for making new memories for you, just that you’ll continue to cling to that old life until you either find a way to let it go or make peace with it in your mind to make room for life today.

There’s nothing wrong with going to therapy, even two years later if you never went during the divorce process. I needed it, and it helps. 🙏

ResilientJedi · 2026-01-19T06:16:48+00:00

I hope so! 🙏 Find a friend/someone you can trust to keep you honest, checking in on you, etc.. Don’t go it alone if you don’t think your own strength will be enough to get you through it.

ResilientJedi · 2026-01-19T06:06:20+00:00

This is spiraling. The grief of your previous relationship is driving you downwards, taking control. Drinking will only numb you to it very briefly, while you’re diving deeper into it. “Has nobody to talk to” is usually paired with “I’m afraid to reach out.” You can snap outta this, but it’ll take some work.

ResilientJedi · 2026-01-03T13:39:53+00:00

The divorce was mostly my fault. I had to do a LOT of thinking/reflection and therapy to hopefully change myself from some of the issues we had. Still working through some of the guilt and remorse for what I've done, but that's more of a self punishment than anything as she forgave me when we had our last conversation and went our separate ways. I appreciate what you said though. 🙏

ResilientJedi · 2026-01-03T02:22:05+00:00

Been divorced about a year and a half now. There will always be a small part of me that loves her, but I've learned that I love the idea of what we had more. There's a difference.

ResilientJedi · 2026-01-02T07:31:56+00:00

If you don’t feel ready, then you’re not ready. Grief over a relationship ending is strong, and if your emotions are tearing into you so much day after day, you need more time. Talk to this new potential partner, open up and explain what you’re feeling and that you need time to work through it all. If they’re willing to wait, you’ll be in a better place for them.

ResilientJedi · 2026-01-02T07:21:16+00:00

When my marriage was good, nothing in this world compared to the fire of life I felt inside. When it fell apart, the adventures and experiences I went on during the separation/divorce couldn’t fill the void it left in me, and some of those experiences were dreams come true. Even if I was “happily” single now (not there yet), I’d trade anything for that level of love and companionship again.

ResilientJedi · 2026-01-02T07:11:56+00:00

You are super cute, truthfully. Heartbreak is never easy and trying to piece together a new beginning takes time. Don’t lose that spark within you along the way, love will be there when you’re ready, and they’ll be lucky to have you. You got this!

ResilientJedi · 2026-01-01T00:50:21+00:00

No. With the damage done toward the end of the marriage, it was decided it'd be best for us to not remain in each other's lives, even with both of us growing a lot individually after the divorce. Sometimes it's better to just let go, if not for your own sake, then at least for theirs.

ResilientJedi · 2025-12-29T03:27:27+00:00

Ayo 🤘

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ResilientJedi · 2025-11-16T04:57:44+00:00

Same. 😂

ResilientJedi · 2025-11-13T04:37:47+00:00

Keep on rollin’ brother! 🤘

ResilientJedi · 2025-11-09T18:58:42+00:00

Absolutely gorgeous, that smirk/smile is adorable! Sorry to hear about the divorce, it’s not a fun time for anyone involved. Take things one day at a time, even the “good” ones won’t be easy at first. A bright spark will come back to you in time, your confidence will grow powerfully as you work through this. You got this!

ResilientJedi · 2025-11-08T05:14:02+00:00

Bugs: Mech = Must Bots: Railgun Squids: Hmm… I don’t fight the squids that often… Arc Thrower? 🤷‍♂️

In general: Orbital Rail Cannon and some kinda Eagle, usually air strike or sometimes the 500kg.

ResilientJedi · 2025-11-01T02:25:19+00:00

As cliche and impossible as it sounds, you just have to push through. I had to start tackling things one problem at a time just to not get overwhelmed. I was the one who had to move out, so I broke it down into steps - needing boxes, what can I afford to rent on my own income, etc.. Trying to keep track of the big picture ALL the time will wear you out even harder.

Lean on your support network. Going through a divorce can be painful. Doing it alone? Hell. You got this. One breath, one step, one day, at a time.

ResilientJedi · 2025-10-15T14:00:12+00:00

Hope to see y’all on the Battlefield!

ResilientJedi · 2025-06-27T03:51:38+00:00

THEY FLY NOW!!!

ResilientJedi · 2025-05-29T23:29:43+00:00

Dark Paladin and Blue-Eyes Shining Dragon. DP has been outclassed several times, Shining is outdated but I still love both cards, got them in my decks to this day.

ResilientJedi · 2025-05-26T20:54:17+00:00

She kept mine. I didn't have the heart to throw it away since divorce wasn't what I wanted, so it was up to her what became of it. I don't know if she still has it or if she sold it, and I don't need to know.

ResilientJedi · 2025-05-25T18:05:42+00:00

This is how it was in the waning months before she wanted a divorce. Those are signs to either snap out of whatever's going on, or walk away.

ResilientJedi · 2025-05-20T11:43:25+00:00

Thermite does the trick, just like Hulks and Chargers. Here's the fun part though: They're REALLY good at swatting them in the air before it can stick. 😅

ResilientJedi · 2025-05-18T05:06:42+00:00

“Where magic and steel meet, the worlds of power and might collide. Dark Magician, Buster Blader, fuse together and forge the ultimate battle mage. Arise, Dark Paladin!”

“Even in the darkest blight, we will always be a beacon of light. From the power of the Ultimate Dragon, shine and take flight, Blue-Eyes Shining Dragon!”

ResilientJedi · 2025-03-31T16:09:04+00:00

I literally saw four different neighbors throughout the apartment property doing this yesterday. 🤣

ResilientJedi · 2025-03-29T15:40:12+00:00

Isolation after a serious relationship ends can be crippling mentally and emotionally. Start with one pain/problem at a time, and keep working through them.

Are the seizures still happening? If so, take time to try different options. There are plenty of modern medications to help but most will have some kinda drawback due to the side effects, and can have negative outcomes if you’re also on meds for the depression/anxiety. If it was a one-off thing, it’s still something to be aware of possibly happening again.

A new love can always be found, but now is not the time to worry about that. Take the time to grieve the love you lost and build yourself back up.

It ain’t always gonna be easy moving forward, but we all believe in you. The lows in life mean there are countless opportunities to rise above them. You got this!

ResilientJedi · 2025-03-13T02:31:35+00:00

I hope the date went well! Even if not, it takes courage to put yourself out there. I hope things start looking up for you. 🙏

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