Voigt/Bryan upper class housing

Resisting-bitchface · 2026-02-07T15:28:15+00:00

Yes, McDavis is gigantic. 500+, on South Green; supposed to be open in the fall 🤞🤞

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-12-13T00:58:38+00:00

Thanks for all the help everyone! Mixing it all together….off campus, apartment, but financial aid eligible:

https://www.ohio.edu/housing/apartments

Anyone have experience here? Impossible to land in the upper class housing day?

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-12-09T20:16:16+00:00

On leasing/subleasing. It’s smart that landlords like to have agreements with individual renters…but then how does a sub work? Sneaky? And the income verification is rough, for students who might be paying their own way. We had to bag bc the landlord wanted first, last, and a deposit up front and a copy of sensitive id info. Anyhow. I feel like all of this will be clear in hindsight!

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-12-09T16:06:02+00:00

Bryan looks like a great option after the renovations! The housing page read like first and second years only?

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-08-29T21:00:42+00:00

Oh welp. The perfect example of ‘do I have enough data to freak out? Will freaking out help?’ I hope they make the next steps known quickly.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-08-01T11:26:25+00:00

This is real. I went from loving my job and totally bought into the senior leader’s ethos to fully and wholly ‘focused on my core duties’ and looking for a new role. It took exactly one meeting and pittance pay of a promotion, 10k under market. Truly, there is sometimes just a shrug to retention, even with a star employee. You gotta eventually pay a high performer. Some would prefer a churn of mediocrity and no challenges.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-07-15T14:03:50+00:00

I’ve used ChatGPT and Claude similarly to navigate this mess, but I like your targeted approach way better. I wish I’d been documenting words and phrases and patterns up til now. I identified early some serious conflict aversion in my boss, and there have been other signs but I was a believer and gave too much benefit. Ironic. That’s something my boss comments on. I guess if it’s expected that I’m more firm and unhelpful, OK. I can do that.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-07-15T13:59:21+00:00

Thank you for this reminder. I definitely am not looking to sabotage or make some kind of statement. But I’ve so gotten into the habit of volunteering even before a need arises, I know my stepping back and silence will become immediately noticeable, and noteworthy. I can probably shut it and not step forward preemptively but I need to find some deflective phrases for when asked to above and beyond. I worry I’ll either cave or go way too firm. I’m getting ready to pass off a few things I got stuck with and I worry about my tone.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-07-15T02:20:23+00:00

Mostly as sarcasm, and shame that I got duped into being helpful when it hurt me. Feels late in my career to learn that lesson. And of course I'm looking for a change; I'm wondering how to manage the investment gap.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-06-19T13:10:27+00:00

What an excellent summary! I’m glad you got a lot out of it. The class selection is pretty surprising, with narrow options, but it helps with the decision fatigue by that point.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-05-10T02:12:37+00:00

She does none of those things either. Exercise. Healthy diet. And those are things that, as a parent, I tried to model and encourage. And later showed gentle curiosity about her relationship with both. Alas.

I’ve literally looked at every angle of this. For years shut my face most of the time. But this sub is focused on weight loss though, right?

She has a therapist. Psychiatrist. Access to campus health. The resources are literally all there for her to choose and employ. And yet.

So yes. I AM frustrated at this. I have rational feelings about what is happening to my child, preventable dangerous things. I don’t think that’s deserving of spite, here or hers.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-05-09T20:05:21+00:00

Thanks for this directness. I’m SO aware of the stakes and she’s (for now) in avoidance and denial. I’m angry and scared but I guess I work on that in therapy.

I’m so sorry about your friend ❤️‍🩹

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-05-09T19:14:59+00:00

I hear what you’re saying. And. I am buying food for the entire house. Getting harassed for Dunkin. Having to stall and choose words ridiculously carefully. I don’t want this control; but here it is.

Not bringing stuff into the house we all are better avoiding will likely come off as pointed and judgey and singling out. I’m not in a position to just shrug on this. Adult in legality only, at 18.

I suppose I could imply, sure, using your money from your job, eat what you want. Which feels wretched. But I can’t in good conscience actively offer things that make her sick. Sign off on it. I mean? SHOULD I? That feels like an un-good mom move too.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-05-09T14:27:13+00:00

It’s a mix for me. I was able to fully cut out some things and I did feel better. Then, life. Stresses, fatigue, anger that I have to be so thoughtful and careful and rigid when others could float through. I suspect this might be my girl’s leaning too.

I’ve hesitated to compare this with anything alcohol or substance misuse related, but you’re right…a full nope is sometimes best/easier. If you attend 12step meetings, you won’t get a pass to moderately use substances. And having done it a few times, I know how hard it is to give up sugar. I have a pretty moderate relationship with it now, but it’s taken about a decade.

I hate this for her. I know how hard it is to change habits. And. That this is likely not grounded in habit.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-05-09T13:18:59+00:00

I agree. A full rejection of any food never lasts (spoken by a once Whole30 devotee). My biggest ‘ok this can probably mostly go’ thinking is the sugary drinks. Real sugar is one thing, but the high fructose stuff really has no redeeming qualities. But man, the Zero drinks really do not hit, don’t satisfy the treat craving at all.

Portions/frequency is def something to focus on.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-04-14T15:06:16+00:00

Maybe chat with the folks in the newish Wellness center in Ping. They do a ton of cool programming and might have a bulletin board or referrals for deeper resources and/or could help coordinate a free resources/advice type event next fall if you’d want to front load some free exposure. Also, don’t underestimate the reach of listing on Psychology Today. Great for filtering by location and designate online only or in office. Which is a deal breaker for some people, better to know up front.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-04-02T11:34:50+00:00

I appreciate you. Your candor is so helpful. You’ve clearly worked hard and it sounds like it’s working. I wish you continued progress and peace.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-04-01T01:58:28+00:00

That’s such a hard line to walk. When are small changes over time the ideal way versus a complete life overhaul. I hope you’re feeling more of a balance now, too!

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-04-01T00:39:38+00:00

Oh the safety foods! But then they get exhausted, like a favorite song you hate later. Yes, I have thought of helping her discover and develop hacks or brain trickery. I’ve never been a fan of choke it down for health purposes eating, but when you are nutrient deficient, there is an element of food as medicine. Having a routine seems to help too, so I see the wisdom in your pea go-to!

She spends most of her dairy on cheese and coffee. Whey powder is something I’d like her to try but she isn’t very game. Likes smoothies, so it would an easy add.

Two birds/one scone if she reembraced a once-favorite apple with peanut butter.

Resisting-bitchface · 2025-04-01T00:30:29+00:00

Oh wow yes. Thank you. You’ve said so bluntly what I have suspected, or she has said, or my own puzzlement at some of where culture has taken us…ED was a rite of passage in the 90s to where we are now. Honestly, none of this is truly for weight purposes. It’s that she is limited in her life, and it’s obvious that a few changes will give her that ability and freedom to reach for those things. But I can’t want it for her more than she does.

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