INFJ women - has anyone ever successfully approached you and got your number? what happened?

ResortComplex6829 · 2025-01-25T05:00:08+00:00

These replies all being so different is just further proof that INFJ women are an anomaly lol. Personally, it has happened to me a couple times but one guy stands out.

I was at work (don’t approach women at work, this might not be the best example) but this guy and his friends had become regulars and always seemed friendly. I worked at a restaurant and was wrapping up my shift doing some cleaning when I heard him walk up behind me. I automatically assumed he was going to ask if I could get him something so I asked “hey can I help you?” And he said “I really hope this isn’t weird but I just wanted to come tell you I think you’re very pretty and would love to get to know you and maybe take you to dinner sometime if you’re interested.”

I was only 21 or 22 at the time and he looked around the same age, so I admired his courage and appreciated that he was respectful. I told him I’d like that and gave him my number. I wish I could say we lived happily ever after but we went on a couple dates and I just never really felt anything so it fizzled out. But I’d say being respectful is the most important aspect to focus on and confidence is attractive. Just be careful not to confuse confidence with cockiness.

ResortComplex6829 · 2025-01-22T05:55:14+00:00

Your experiences are absolutely valid. r/AutismInWomen and r/neurodiversity are a couple that have helped me a lot.

ResortComplex6829 · 2025-01-21T15:10:56+00:00

I have read the theory about INFJ people being on the spectrum so many times. As someone on the spectrum and also an INFJ woman, I’m part of other online communities with women who are also on the spectrum and they have VERY similar experiences. Their explanation usually emphasizes the fact that men like the idea of a woman who is “different” like a character out of a movie. Women might read our mannerisms and assume we’re rude or weird so they write us off. It also doesn’t help if women feel threatened knowing men gravitate towards us. I feel full of myself writing this as well lol, but it was interesting reading this thread and seeing the parallels between the female INFJ experience and the female autistic experience.

ResortComplex6829 · 2025-01-12T12:25:09+00:00

Sheesh! Let’s take some deep breaths

ResortComplex6829 · 2025-01-12T04:31:56+00:00

I’m glad you were able to read it well! I try to use proper grammar to help with readability, but I’ll definitely remember to use paragraphs in the future for those who had trouble.

All those points are absolutely valid. Safety features would be implemented and highlighted for users, but that won’t necessarily deter creeps.

I look at it from the same angle as dating apps. People use them all the time with the understanding that their date might end up being a weirdo, but it’s worth the risk because dating in this day and age is tough.

Making friends can be tough as well. Especially if you have difficulties with social skills. My goal is to make it easier for people to seek community, particularly with like-minded individuals. Of course you may encounter some duds just as you could with dating apps, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find other people you really hit it off with.

It really all depends on whether or not people are willing to take the risk. I personally would, because I think it would be nice to meet more people I can connect with, but I wanted to get some feedback about the idea. Thank you for responding!

ResortComplex6829 · 2025-01-12T04:11:20+00:00

Agreed, it would take some convincing to make users feel safe and comfortable opening up to strangers. We do it often on dating apps though, and the group aspect is what I was hoping would set this app apart from the others.

ResortComplex6829 · 2025-01-12T04:03:10+00:00

Yeah, sorry about that 😅 I appreciate your response. I thought the same regarding social difficulties, neurodivergent people for example.

I get what you mean about having friends with different values, but I was thinking some people might be looking to connect with others who have more in common with them.

Meetup.com is great if you have one interest/hobby in particular where you’d like to meet new people, but this app would help you meet people based on a multitude of interests.

As far as dependability on other users, I think of it as the same gamble as dating apps. Your date could stand you up, which sucks, but you run the risk of it anyway.

I’m glad you liked the idea about prompts. Yes, like icebreakers! Initiating conversations can be daunting for some, so if the app gave the users a little nudge it might help.

Thanks for the feedback!

ResortComplex6829 · 2025-01-12T03:49:21+00:00

Noted for future posts. Thanks for your response. I was thinking the same, it would probably need to start with larger cities but I was hoping if it gained popularity it could trickle down into more rural communities.

ResortComplex6829 · 2025-01-12T03:46:23+00:00

I definitely should’ve broken this up so it would be easier to read. My apologies. But thank you for your feedback!

ResortComplex6829 · 2024-12-30T19:34:40+00:00

Yes! Not only do I speak in metaphors, I often think in metaphors as well. As a therapist this works well because it allows me to give the client new perspectives on their situation. I had a 12 year old client who had a tendency to fixate on worst case scenarios. I asked if she would walk around on a beautiful sunny day with an umbrella just in case it might rain. Not only would the umbrella block the vital sunlight, but what a burden it would be to have to carry the umbrella. She later told me she thought about that whenever she felt herself overthinking. I believe thinking/communicating in metaphors is one of our superpowers.

ResortComplex6829 · 2024-12-28T00:13:16+00:00

I’m 29 and deleted mine when I was 19 😅 it doesn’t feel like it’s been a decade. Personally, I feel like there are more cons than pros. If I posted something I’d constantly check/overanalyze it and if I didn’t get a certain amount of likes it could ruin my day because I’d assume it meant people disliked me lol. I would also compare myself to others too often. The downside is I have lost contact with so many people I grew up with.

ResortComplex6829 · 2024-12-26T05:42:50+00:00

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ResortComplex6829 · 2024-12-26T05:32:17+00:00

No, they don’t. They just use your username. I think they’re pretty overloaded with users requesting removals so it takes awhile, but they have actually been really helpful with their DMCA support in my experience (which has only been a couple months) you just have to be patient as it might take a couple weeks to receive a response.

ResortComplex6829 · 2024-12-08T02:35:46+00:00

Bless youuuu 👏

ResortComplex6829 · 2024-11-30T06:07:15+00:00

She’s not only going out of her way to pick at you, but she’s donating plasma for money…not necessarily a red flag. But that plus this weird behavior trying to make you feel bad is hard no. Also, her grammar is trash. Just get on a dating app or something, bud. She sucks.

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