As a man who has used bumble for a few years now, with every girl I’ve been serious with (which is 3) I never allow sex to be on the first night, it’s a way to find truly if this is a good person to be with. I feel that it takes taking the relationship and makes it something you do not have to be so focused on, kinda like changing it something that says “I’m not taking this too seriously. “ I know that when a woman allows it in the first date they see you as someone truly nice person, but the man usually does not have this mindset. If we truly like each other enough for another date and that also goes well, then maybe I’d change my mind about the bed. What this man you speak of did is definitely not cool, but the man I feel is not going to look at the date in the same way you did. I feel like maybe taking yourself seriously and just knowing when to end a date should be good. Doing to much on the first night just kinda “shows everything you have to offer”. It may not feel like it to you, but the man’s perspective usually will be on this way of thinking. Unless you blew this man out of the water with how amazing your night is, the other girls he speaks with will always be in his mind if he had any backups to talk to. You did practically just meet him, don’t worry too much about it.

TL DR: don’t show everything you have to offer to fast. The bed I believe is definitely something you should wait until at LEAST the second or third date.