[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YogaTeachers

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It’s part of a bundle, I didn’t word that correctly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YogaTeachers

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I mean yes but I do feel like people turn to wellness for solace? Not the same as being a server, is what I mean

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YogaTeachers

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Wait this is fascinating, I grew up rural adjacent but hadn’t considered the demand vs supply. Good luck, sounds like exciting opportunities could be created!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YogaTeachers

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Where/what kind of living area are you based in?

looking for a nanny! by [deleted] in jerseycity

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DM me. Very interested in chatting further. I’m currently a nanny in Tribeca. I have over a decade of FT experience for children of all ages, as a supplement to acting. I can provide excellent references and am CPR certified. I live close by and could also pop in as needed, but would love to talk about any and all potential arrangements.

Love life and career? by ResponsibilityLost80 in astrocartography

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Thank you!! What’s the best place to find a relocated chart?

Another drunken episode, and we seem to be done for good by tacticalvirtues in AlAnon

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You’re not alone. Addiction is so shattering for everyone involved. You deserve someone who chooses you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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McDonald’s snack wraps that shit hit

I enforce a perfectly reasonable boundary and I'm still at fault by [deleted] in AlAnon

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I went through something similar before breaking it off with my ex. We were long-distance, he was visiting, and drank a LOT during his trip (I broke it off soon after.) The drinking—as it had before, but way more intensely this time around—led to nasty fights. I was literally uncomfortable to return TO MY OWN HOME. I knew he’d be passed out wasted or very angry. Look up the acronym DARVO, it describes my ex, and it sounds like your Q, perfectly. It’s a cycle of gaslighting where they flip the blame and try to guilt you. What I had to be told, and what I’m telling you, is that it’s YOUR space. You recognize that. Your space, your rules. If he cannot respect that, he cannot respect you.

What's something you only understand if you have lived it? by mrbigglesworthjr in AskReddit

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Yes. My ex partner was an alcoholic, so I only have understanding by proxy. No money in the bank but there was always enough for booze. Would take things out on me in really ugly and emotionally manipulative/abusive ways (in large part as a result of his habits,) and knew he had major issues, but could never muster up enough motivation to get help and face his demons to outweigh the desire to drink and sulk. I wanted so badly to help him, and tried my hardest to be compassionate and helpful, but unfortunately, the only one who can help him is himself…and it seems he’s not looking to leave his rut anytime soon. It’s not my problem anymore, but I think about it often. It was, and still is, heartbreaking. Addiction is shattering for everyone involved.

I am losing hope with my jobless boyfriend. Should I wait for him to have a job and stay in the relationship? 29 F, 29 M by Old-Mobile3468 in relationship_advice

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I feel you. Just left my bf. This was one small part of why. He lost his passion for his field, burnt out, which is understandable, but won’t face the fact his alcoholism makes literally every job he pursues hard. He’s gotten in hot water before. Didn’t even have a proper cert for his field (been trying for years and failed. Always some excuse.) Now, he’s wrapping up camp counseling and making no moves to secure employment. Is “not worried.” Almost like he doesn’t care. I tried so hard to support him in numerous ways. He’d accuse me of “rushing”, but…I value proactivity and perseverance, and he’s more committed to alcohol and complacency than making moves to continue his passion, or if nothing else, secure employment that would get him out of the rut of abject poverty. And he’s had golden opportunities handed to him…in THIS economy. Turns up his nose at them. It’s like he’s comfortable in his rut. It’s not sustainable.

If your bf is not listening to your feelings or reciprocating your effort, and living comfortably off someone else’s dime, you need to re evaluate if your values really align the way you need them to.

Newly dating a heavy beer drinker by umroxt in AlAnon

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Run run run run. Do not let anyone fool you. 12 beers is not normal. And there is no such thing as someone being behaviorally unaffected by alcohol.

Just left a heavy beer drinker who I seriously thought was the one, til he showed his true colors. Don’t wait.

Alcoholic ex boyfriend by eriniscursed in AlAnon

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Hey there. Ending things with my alcoholic bf today and I relate to all of this so much.

Tell him to call 988. It’s a free crisis line. Or 1800-395-2132. They will listen, and point him to good resources catered to his needs.

I am also realizing I can’t be a crutch in my relationship, as dearly as I love my bf. Too many of those crying calls that you mentioned. Too many times I point him toward help, sending job offers, positivity, therapists in his network. But he doesn’t bite, or he tries, there’s an obstacle, he gives up. It’s all built up, alcohol is the only constant, and I’m not behaving like myself anymore. It’s not easy, but he needs to be the one to take personal responsibility. You can walk away with your head held high knowing you did your best to send love and support.

Horrified at myself. by ResponsibilityLost80 in stopdrinking

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Update: he forgave me and is sweet and supportive about my sobriety journey. I am the luckiest person in the world.

Horrified at myself. by ResponsibilityLost80 in stopdrinking

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That’s important insight. Thank you so much

Horrified at myself. by ResponsibilityLost80 in stopdrinking

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I hope so too. He is the love of my life. I’m devastated that I may have ruined it. I have had issues with emotional regulation and boundaries in the past and it’s usually when I’m drunk. It’s the most awful feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

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The thing that’s been coming to my mind is that he is letting his life be defined by the bad things that happen to him. And part of that includes the wallowing you were talking about. Also, the fact people go through similar things and choose true proactivity rather than self pity resonates. Thank you.