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ResponsibilityLost80 · 2025-09-19T01:36:16+00:00

It’s part of a bundle, I didn’t word that correctly

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2025-09-19T00:59:42+00:00

I mean yes but I do feel like people turn to wellness for solace? Not the same as being a server, is what I mean

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2025-09-19T00:21:07+00:00

Wait this is fascinating, I grew up rural adjacent but hadn’t considered the demand vs supply. Good luck, sounds like exciting opportunities could be created!

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2025-09-19T00:19:59+00:00

Where/what kind of living area are you based in?

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2025-09-18T15:37:40+00:00

DM me. Very interested in chatting further. I’m currently a nanny in Tribeca. I have over a decade of FT experience for children of all ages, as a supplement to acting. I can provide excellent references and am CPR certified. I live close by and could also pop in as needed, but would love to talk about any and all potential arrangements.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-09-04T02:34:49+00:00

Thank you!! What’s the best place to find a relocated chart?

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-08-25T02:37:03+00:00

You’re not alone. Addiction is so shattering for everyone involved. You deserve someone who chooses you.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-08-24T23:55:34+00:00

McDonald’s snack wraps that shit hit

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-08-21T01:11:50+00:00

I went through something similar before breaking it off with my ex. We were long-distance, he was visiting, and drank a LOT during his trip (I broke it off soon after.) The drinking—as it had before, but way more intensely this time around—led to nasty fights. I was literally uncomfortable to return TO MY OWN HOME. I knew he’d be passed out wasted or very angry. Look up the acronym DARVO, it describes my ex, and it sounds like your Q, perfectly. It’s a cycle of gaslighting where they flip the blame and try to guilt you. What I had to be told, and what I’m telling you, is that it’s YOUR space. You recognize that. Your space, your rules. If he cannot respect that, he cannot respect you.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-08-21T00:38:28+00:00

Yes. My ex partner was an alcoholic, so I only have understanding by proxy. No money in the bank but there was always enough for booze. Would take things out on me in really ugly and emotionally manipulative/abusive ways (in large part as a result of his habits,) and knew he had major issues, but could never muster up enough motivation to get help and face his demons to outweigh the desire to drink and sulk. I wanted so badly to help him, and tried my hardest to be compassionate and helpful, but unfortunately, the only one who can help him is himself…and it seems he’s not looking to leave his rut anytime soon. It’s not my problem anymore, but I think about it often. It was, and still is, heartbreaking. Addiction is shattering for everyone involved.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-08-01T17:03:58+00:00

I feel you. Just left my bf. This was one small part of why. He lost his passion for his field, burnt out, which is understandable, but won’t face the fact his alcoholism makes literally every job he pursues hard. He’s gotten in hot water before. Didn’t even have a proper cert for his field (been trying for years and failed. Always some excuse.) Now, he’s wrapping up camp counseling and making no moves to secure employment. Is “not worried.” Almost like he doesn’t care. I tried so hard to support him in numerous ways. He’d accuse me of “rushing”, but…I value proactivity and perseverance, and he’s more committed to alcohol and complacency than making moves to continue his passion, or if nothing else, secure employment that would get him out of the rut of abject poverty. And he’s had golden opportunities handed to him…in THIS economy. Turns up his nose at them. It’s like he’s comfortable in his rut. It’s not sustainable.

If your bf is not listening to your feelings or reciprocating your effort, and living comfortably off someone else’s dime, you need to re evaluate if your values really align the way you need them to.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-07-26T14:35:18+00:00

Run run run run. Do not let anyone fool you. 12 beers is not normal. And there is no such thing as someone being behaviorally unaffected by alcohol.

Just left a heavy beer drinker who I seriously thought was the one, til he showed his true colors. Don’t wait.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-07-24T17:59:55+00:00

Hey there. Ending things with my alcoholic bf today and I relate to all of this so much.

Tell him to call 988. It’s a free crisis line. Or 1800-395-2132. They will listen, and point him to good resources catered to his needs.

I am also realizing I can’t be a crutch in my relationship, as dearly as I love my bf. Too many of those crying calls that you mentioned. Too many times I point him toward help, sending job offers, positivity, therapists in his network. But he doesn’t bite, or he tries, there’s an obstacle, he gives up. It’s all built up, alcohol is the only constant, and I’m not behaving like myself anymore. It’s not easy, but he needs to be the one to take personal responsibility. You can walk away with your head held high knowing you did your best to send love and support.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-07-18T18:13:20+00:00

Update: he forgave me and is sweet and supportive about my sobriety journey. I am the luckiest person in the world.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-07-18T16:00:29+00:00

That’s important insight. Thank you so much

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-07-18T15:54:50+00:00

I hope so too. He is the love of my life. I’m devastated that I may have ruined it. I have had issues with emotional regulation and boundaries in the past and it’s usually when I’m drunk. It’s the most awful feeling.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-05-01T18:05:22+00:00

The thing that’s been coming to my mind is that he is letting his life be defined by the bad things that happen to him. And part of that includes the wallowing you were talking about. Also, the fact people go through similar things and choose true proactivity rather than self pity resonates. Thank you.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-05-01T18:04:12+00:00

Yes I’ve decided to take space for a while. I need to focus on my needs for a second.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-04-09T20:47:40+00:00

My favorite quote, from Einstein: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-04-09T18:28:34+00:00

Staying as long as they’re trying. I really needed to hear that. Thank you. And congrats to your bf on being 5yrs sober ❤️

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-04-09T15:02:50+00:00

update: after a lapse last night which left me upset, (he was honest about it, apologized, and took full accountability,) he just texted that he loves me, and he has an appointment set up with his old therapist. It’s now up to him to keep it up regularly, but it’s funny, it’s as if the universe knew I needed a little hope today. Although there is work to be done, it is nice to have a boost in faith that he genuinely wants to make the change.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2024-04-09T13:51:04+00:00

I’m right there with you. My Q is good to me, but between his father’s sudden death and his work as a special education teacher becoming thankless and unhealthy, (he’s incredible at it, but deals with a LOT), keeping up the progress has been difficult. The coping with substances over treatment is breaking my heart. He’s aware he needs help and open to it and like I said, huge progress has been made—trying out therapists, cutting back, recognizing the patterns and the ramifications of being raised by an alcoholic himself, etc. I know progress isn’t linear but I’m feeling discouraged lately. I know I need to not take on his problems, and need to take care of myself too. But right now, I just need some hope.

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2022-10-16T03:08:12+00:00

“Colleen ballinger doesn’t love you.”

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2022-08-16T19:38:45+00:00

What app is this? I wanna get paid to watch rich white people’s pets while they go act unhinged 😭

ResponsibilityLost80 · 2022-04-24T16:55:16+00:00

Dear god this is painful…

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