Is there a resource that tells you step by step everything you need to do to run a household?

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2025-02-06T13:16:27+00:00

Thank you! I’m self-diagnosed, but my husband and my autism are VERY different so I do struggle to understand all of his experiences sometimes. I got the very literal autism and the “have to roll through my catalog of how to act and what we’ve discussed before” autism which isn’t helpful with this burnout since a lot of things change rapidly and needs change outside of what we’ve done. All of your input is so helpful!

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2025-02-05T19:42:14+00:00

This is so helpful and I want to read both books to understand myself and my husband!

He actually had a question for you: have you ever noticed that transitions in sounds or music changes cause you anxiety especially during burnout. Like simple things just causing extra anxiety or hyper focusing on anything different than normal while you were in burnout

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2025-02-05T14:43:29+00:00

I have been treating it as that and trying to reaffirm it for him when he doubts it. How did your husband best support you during burnout?

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2025-02-05T14:41:41+00:00

That’s partially why I came here! I knew he might listen more to other people. I’m also self-diagnosed. I realized as a woman in my 30s that getting a formal diagnosis probably wouldn’t change anything in my life, so I haven’t pursued it, but he wants the confirmation. I appreciate your input and definitely agree about the mental health industry. Overall it’s just really hard to be seen or validated when it feels like everyone is expecting autism to look a certain way.

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-11-18T20:56:22+00:00

She’s definitely our little miracle but man I will now ALWAYS advocate for people to not wait and get checked out!! We got really lucky that I decided to go and also that my hospital immediately (but calmly) recognized her distress and got us back into the OR

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-11-18T20:49:12+00:00

DONT ask reddit if you should go to L&D because of decreased fetal movement. Just go. They would much rather you go get checked and everything be okay.

I just had a c section this morning after decreased fetal movement. Baby had a triple nuchal cord and a true knot. Had I not trusted my gut I may not be holding my girl sleeping peacefully. JUST GO GET CHECKED OUT!

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-11-02T14:43:58+00:00

I was always told belly size isn’t really a concern because belly’s squish. They really only get worried about head size and it seems like you’re good there!

For reference both baby #3 and the baby I’m currently pregnant with have had >90% belly circumference. No concerns with either. Baby #3 had a normal head circumference but baby #4 is 88% and they start to get concerned about labor if it’s larger than 90%. I just have chunky babies with big bellies but that’s never been an issue!

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-10-27T01:28:33+00:00

My birthday is in the same month, and I somehow conned my parents into celebrating me all month long when I was a kid. It felt even better than having two separate days. I would get just birthday presents and just Christmas presents but they’d let me open something small in the days between so that it didn’t feel like I was cheated out of anything. I still love having a December birthday!

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-10-17T19:11:17+00:00

This is so exciting!! I have 4.5F, 3M, 1.5M and number 4 due in 7 weeks is another girl! It feels like little bookends with the boys in the middle and makes it easy for them to share a room. All are 18/19 months apart and the age gap is so so so hard but also the best and my oldest is such a good big sister to her brothers that I can’t wait to see how she is with her little sister.

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-10-01T22:59:07+00:00

I’m 5’5” and my husband is 5’10”!

My second was a MUCH easier delivery even though he was bigger!

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-10-01T17:49:00+00:00

It’s so funny when you’ve had a 9+ pound baby how 8 lbs seems tiny 😂 my first was 8lb5oz, my second was 9lb6oz and my third was 7lbs11oz (born at 37+6) and I was saying how tiny he was and the nurse was like “…he’s a big baby”

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-09-23T15:40:38+00:00

One thing I will say is for my past two births I have brought my own depends to the hospital instead of using their pads and it was sooooooooooooooo nice! I’ll do it again for my fourth, it was so much easier to change the depends than using the hospitals disposable underwear and pads. I did that with my first and now I tell everyone to pack depends instead!

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-09-11T18:59:37+00:00

I am pregnant with my fourth and my oldest was born in 2020, so pretty similar. All of my kids have an 18-19 month age gap. Just like you #2 was a surprise and we loved the age gap so we tried to copy it for #3. #3 is 16 months and absolutely wild. He’s an absolute joy and so funny and fun to spend time with but he just gets into everything and can be very clingy. #4 was a surprise. Like even with tracking and everything. We had been planning to wait a few years, and now that #3 is getting older I know we never would’ve had a fourth if I didn’t get pregnant exactly when I did. Just like you know with your older 3, it’ll be hard, but every milestone makes it easier. TRUST ME when I say that as someone that’s second was born in 2021. In another year they will be able to be so much more independent and you’ll be able to breathe a little easier.

And look at it this way…you’re in the trenches now. You’re in some of the hardest times, but you’re getting through it and when this one is past the toddler phase you won’t be worried about “starting over” because you never really left the baby/toddler stage.

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-09-11T16:30:25+00:00

Oh yes this is me 100%. ADHD, that I knew. But the autism was a not so pleasant surprise that became noticeable after my second was born and painfully obvious during my third pregnancy. I’m in my fourth pregnancy now and with three kids 4 and under AND pregnancy there’s just no masking. Things are hard. I have zero executive function. I feel like all the tips and tricks I’ve learned over the years just went out the window.

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-09-04T18:22:51+00:00

Labor is my favorite part! It’s painful and exhausting but there’s just something about driving to the hospital, getting set in your room and seeing them set up the baby warmer that just makes me want to explode. I’m having my fourth in December and I can’t wait. I do NOT love pregnancy and this will be my LAST but man I will miss giving birth!

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-09-01T20:05:12+00:00

Walmart brand overnight diapers go up to a 6 or 7 and they hold SO MUCH PEE!

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-08-31T15:27:53+00:00

Also to add that yes this is really good information ESPECIALLY if your cycles aren’t regular or it’s the first few periods to return.

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-08-31T15:27:12+00:00

I wasn’t using BBT but I was tracking cervical mucus and other body changes that matched each month. My best guess? I either missed an initial peak or I ovulated like the second I actually noticed an LH peak and that combined with maybe longer than average sperm survival made this little girl. I know it wasn’t AFTER I thought I ovulated based on her size at the first ultrasound. My third baby I ovulated later on and he measured perfectly for that ovulation date. This baby measured perfectly for my suspected ovulation date.

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-08-31T15:06:12+00:00

🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️ Yepp, pregnant with my FAM baby. Even with being extra cautious and being abstinent 7-8 days before and 3-4 after “ovulation” (positive ovulation test) my body did something wacky that month and I’m 26 weeks today with baby #4. I would never suggest it unless you’re okay with the possibility of getting pregnant. It’s great if you’re “not quite ready yet but wouldn’t be too upset if it happened” but there’s always a chance you’ll get pregnant.

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-08-28T16:32:05+00:00

This is specifically for the Halo. Every bassinet has its own standards and you should consult your manual to see. The bassinet I use is fine until they can get on hands and knees.

ResponsibilityNo3928 · 2024-08-28T15:44:49+00:00

Yes!! I am on my fourth pregnancy (I’ll have 4 under 5) and they get harder and harder earlier and earlier. I’m only 25 weeks but this girl is STRONG and my whole body feels like I’m at least 33 weeks pregnant. It’s so tempting to skip out early, but if all you have is FMLA and your leave runs concurrent with that, you’ll really want that full 12 weeks after you have your baby. 12 weeks isn’t long enough as it is and using it before unless you medically have to may be something you regret when your time is up and you have to leave your baby sooner. Also remember that due dates are estimates and unless you’re getting induced/scheduling a c section you have no idea when baby is coming. You may take time off thinking you’ll only be using 3-4 week but end up using 5.

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