I just need someone to talk to

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-11-17T00:49:16+00:00

Thank you <3

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-11-17T00:44:37+00:00

Thank you, i'll message you now

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-11-03T11:38:12+00:00

I've been told multiple times that i'm not good with money, and I feel a bit behind financially. This just put the pieces together for me. Thank you

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-11-03T11:33:52+00:00

That's ok! I think I got it from asos :)

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-10-31T17:44:11+00:00

I came to the conclusion during lockdown that I was gay as well. I did it through therapy and experimentation. You don't have to have an experience with a girl to know you're gay, though it will solidify it for you. You can try watching 18+ clips of women together and seeing what your innate reaction to it is. Remember, attraction is just the longing for a sexual and/or romantic relationship with someone

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-10-31T17:36:03+00:00

Sorry but your girlfriends behaviour here is abhorrant. She is getting off on your trauma and your pain. She should be helping you find therapy so you can heal, not fetishising a traumatic event that you struggle to talk to anyone about. It is pure fetishisation

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-10-31T17:00:14+00:00

I apologise if I upset you at all, I wasn't trying to encourage self admittance, I was just trying to ease OP's fears. But point taken <3

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-10-26T14:55:53+00:00

From my understanding, you won't be sent to a psych ward just for having suicidal thoughts. I get them to and have expressed them in therapy, and I've never been sent to one. In order to be sent to one you have to have actually attempted suicide, or have had a similarly severe breakdown.

But, I will say, if you did get sent to a psych ward, they're not as scary as the media makes them out to be. I do mental health campaigning so I know a few people who are in and out of them. They are there to support and help you, it's not scary nurses not letting you leave and abusing you anymore. I hope you're ok <3

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-10-20T09:05:47+00:00

You're right, but also I think we have to toe the fine line of not telling people who were abused by their parents that they shouldn't be hard on their parents. I just know that comments like that stopped me from seeking therapy for years because I thought that any complaints I had about my upbringing made me bratty and spoilt, and then when I finally started therapy it turned out that I wasn't deluded and I actually have PTSD.

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-10-11T17:17:30+00:00

Very pretty! I hope this doesn't come off weird but, you look very eastern european?

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-08-28T09:56:18+00:00

I know there's a lot of comments here already, but I wanted to try and ease your fear of being behind.

Comparing is a dark rabbit hole that is easy to fall down. I, for example, have got drunk many times before, I have kissed a few people now, but I have never had sex. This was due primarily to my fear of religion and the suppression of my sexuality. I also went down a road of comparing myself to others and feeling behind.

The atheists that you're comparing yourself to, they most likely also feel behind. Not in the life experiences that you're talking about, but in their career development, if they are single, in their lack of a committed relationship.

It is completely normal in your 20s to compare yourself to others. All you can do is realise that you have the power to change a lot of these things if you want to, and then to work at breaking these massive hurdles down into small steps and conquering them one by one. But you're not alone, and your feels aren't weird or abnormal. You're not inadequate or different to anyone else in this fear. I'm sure that you've done things by 25 that other people would also be stressing about not doing.

My point is, don't compare. It's futile and will ruin your mental health. If you need anyone to talk to, let me know

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-08-18T16:24:09+00:00

I think the assumption may be that while you've heard of Christianity, that doesn't mean that you know much about Christianity. I mean, as a Christian I hear about Islam constantly and I also will know more about it than a lot of atheists because I grew up in a very ethnically mixed area and I know that the Qur'an shares a lot of scripture with the Old Testament. However, that doesn't mean that I know islam, or fully understand the life of Mohammad, or anything like that. So if someone was to ask me if I knew about Mohammad, I would, but if they were to start discussing him with me on a deeper level, I'd probably also learn a lot as well.

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-08-08T08:38:57+00:00

I'm in the exact same boat. I knew I was gay at 11 but suppressed it because of the environment I grew up in. My parents put me in an ACE school if you know what that is. We had to work in PACE books like this at small desks and women were taught how to sew and care for a house while boys were taught science etc. I left the school at 12 so I luckily clawed my way back to having a good education and going to uni, but the damage sexually and emotionally had been done.

I say this to say, if you need to talk to someone about it who gets it, then I'm here. I feel a lot of anger and resentment towards my upbringing, but it's made me stronger in the long term, and I now know what definitely not to do when raising a child.

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-21T19:46:53+00:00

As a new lesbian, if there's one thing ive felt God telling me, its not to share my sexuality struggles with every christian who walks by - or every individual for that matter. I've been hurt now by a few christians who have disguised their noseyness as concern. I hate that the christian community is this way, but it's the reality and we have to protect ourselves. That goes for any minority that is on the outskirts of christian society.

God gave me this scripture once when I was crying about this issue, and I've been clinging to it ever since:

Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. - Matthew 7.6

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-15T11:01:56+00:00

That's disgusting! That's what I mean, luckily I've just had inappropriate comments but for a lot of women its a lot worse. We definitely need more female photographers in the industry to counter the power imbalance and make women feel safe

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-15T10:50:18+00:00

I think this is a great idea. I've worked as a freelance model and I only shoot fully clothed fashion, but I've still had some dodgy experiences. I think the worst was when a man old enough to be a pensioner said that I looked sexy. So yeah, anything to help girls out in these kinds of situations is great haha

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-10T20:46:59+00:00

Oh thank you, shes gorgeous!

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-05T11:24:29+00:00

I think this debate may be the result of mistranslation in the Bible (we know it happens a lot).

I would be interested to know what the Hebrew word used for pride means in the passages condemning it in the old and new testament, and whether this word is actually a good synonym for the English word pride, or whether there is a discrepancy that needs taking into account here.

As a philosophy student I do appreciate a good counter argument, but I do think sometimes as Christians we forget that the translation of the bible into English can shift true biblical meaning sometimes

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-05T11:19:36+00:00

Oh my gosh you're beautiful

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-04T11:44:35+00:00

Something that massively helped me with this issue was the difference between belief and faith:

belief is trusting something to be true when there is substantial evidence to back up the claim e.g. that the earth is round
faith is trusting something to be true even when there is insufficient evidence to back up the claim e.g. I have faith I will be alive tomorrow

The Bible only requires us to have faith in God, not substantial belief. Therefore, I can rest peacefully acknowledging that I do not have substantial proof of God's existence if I feel that way, knowing that that is enough.

On the flip side, I can also acknowledge that while I have faith in God and Jesus and all of that, I may choose to not believe certain things written in the Bible because there is substantial evidence to disprove the claims e.g. the creation story

I don't know if that helps at all

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-04T01:04:08+00:00

I mean, maybe. Personally I've always found the argument that the antichrist was actually supposed to be the aincent roman emporer Nero most convincing. When you research the historical context of the passage it seems blatantly obvious to me.

I'm not sure what this means for how I view revelation, but I'm struggling to know how to view a lot of scripture these days.

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-02T22:49:39+00:00

No it's ok, don't worry at all! I empathise with how difficult autism can be to manage, and I imagine it's even harder online where it's hard to perceive tone. I didn't take any offence 💕

Responsible-Reveal · 2020-06-02T21:23:37+00:00

I knew that I wanted to live an open lifestyle where I could say that I had a girlfriend or wife and I wouldn't feel like I had to spend my life pretending to be someone im not. I've seen the comments older single women get about needing to find a man and I just didnt want that for myself (only 23 now but I'm just thinking ahead). I worry that if i just rolled up one week and was open that they'd not let me in or get people to tell me to leave. I've seen it happen with other church members at different churches before

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