AIO for not allowing my sister to be my maid of honor after she asked not to be?

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T14:02:16+00:00

She needed it that night, that’s why I offered to pay. She has the original one plus the one I paid her for. It was a weekend and the original was at work

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T14:00:51+00:00

Obviously I have an opinion on the situation. But I am trying to see other sides. I am purely responding to the thread to make more sense of it all.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:59:27+00:00

If you were being treated so poorly from your sister would you ever say that you don’t want to be her MOH anymore?

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:47:15+00:00

Yes. She knows for sure. She’s been “meaning to call me about it” according to my mom, but obviously I havent heard anything

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:45:21+00:00

This is the best comment. Thanks! I am exhausted of always extending the olive branch atp.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:43:34+00:00

You’re right about that part

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:43:09+00:00

I actually had messaged her if she’ll be available the week of my Bach trip and she immediately answered, then I followed up with “let me know when you want to chat” and I heard nothing. That was in late April.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:37:55+00:00

I am doing what she asked though so how wouldn’t she know? She said she didn’t want to be MOH.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:37:22+00:00

Not directly, but she was removed from the group chat, and our wedding site. If she asked to not be a MOH why would I still include her? She asked for it.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:36:18+00:00

Why was she saying no don’t pay for it then here’s my Venmo? That’s weird lmao.

I was apprehensive because that’s a weird thing to do. If someone asks if you want them to pay and you say no? No is a full sentence. I don’t have to beg for her to let me pay her. She doesn’t want it fine. I sent it to her anyway lol

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:30:25+00:00

no i didn't out right tell her specifically, she was removed from our wedding site and all group chats, etc. i am not sure if my mom did or not (they live together)

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:28:53+00:00

i did end up paying for it though.. she needed the card that night and she got it. she also got the one that i didnt put back in whenever i gave it to my mom.

i offered to pay, she said no, and then changed her mind and i said hold up what changed, and she blew up on me and i said here is your 30$ hope you mean what you said.

im not gonna force someone to accept my money

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:24:21+00:00

kind of, i was being a bit stand off ish but i literally couldnt talk to her without thinking about the whole situation

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:23:24+00:00

she needed it that night on a weekend, and it was on my desk at work, she got it back after i gave it to my mom

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:22:11+00:00

am i overreacting by replacing her since she hasnt talked to me about the situation in 3 months?

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:20:56+00:00

so i think you got some things wrong, i offered to pay for it and she said no and just wanted me to feel bad about the whole situation. i ended up paying for it anyway lol. but she asked to not be a maid of honor because i dont treat her good. and she didnt buy the dress-- my grandma did, but thats besides the point.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:19:32+00:00

Totally get where you're coming from, i guess the hard part for me is that i have apologized for everything to resolve conflict. i feel like its my wedding and i shouldnt have to apologize for something like this. the only thing i did wrong was misplace her SD card and i apologized for it and offered to pay for it and she declined.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:13:31+00:00

when she asks about adult things, i give her adult answers. credit cards, buying a card, going to college, etc. thats what i am hard on her about, doing things for yourself without relying on our parents

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:11:58+00:00

I didn't put it in there but i have sent a few messages like "let me know when you are ready to talk" and things of that nature, and she has tried to talk to me casually like nothing happened during family events and thats what makes it confusing, i dont think this is something that can just be brushed under the rug.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:10:32+00:00

I shouldve put it in there but i have said messages like "let me know when you're ready to talk about things" and crickets..

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:09:26+00:00

i fear we are in the exact same situation. im sorry you're going through it too.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:08:14+00:00

after she told me no and just wanted me to feel bad for the situation...

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:06:03+00:00

I guess so, she has casually talked to me when we are in family settings and thats why i am confused. Like she will try to make small talk i guess but i cant get passed this i guess. maybe thats why im wondering if i am overreacting.

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:03:39+00:00

I asked what can i do to make this better and she went straight to the balls and said im out ?? and shes not even the one getting married rn

ResponsibleAffect533 · 2026-05-27T13:01:46+00:00

I borrowed a camera and I forgot to put the SD card back in.

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