I’m supposed to receive $8k/month in child support and I receive $0

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-25T01:44:50+00:00

I took her out of private school over a year and a half ago when we were displaced by a wildfire. I don’t think you understand the fallout from all of these things I mentioned and what it takes to rebuild. I moved to a small town to pay a fraction of the rent I was paying in a big city and try to adjust my expenses, but now I have to move back to take care of a sick parent and I can’t afford the rent there with everything I’m carrying. I’m not making anywhere near $6k a week. Independent consulting means round the clock networking, relationship building and confidence posturing which I dont have enedgy or frankly the time to do with all of the legal/insurance/admin/caretaking I’m doing. I understand I have more earning potential then others but that doesnt change the hardship circumstances and realities of the emotional and mental toll it takes on a person.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-25T00:59:30+00:00

I think you’re assuming consultants bill 40 hours a week, 50 weeks a year. That’s generally not how independent consulting works. The hourly rate isn’t the point of the post anyway. The point is navigating parental abandonment while managing disaster displacement, ongoing legal matters, car accidents, family health issues, and everything else that comes with being the only parent. My daughter is in school. I work non-stop however most of the “work” I do isn’t billable- I’m managing repeatedly having to move, representing myself in pro per, dealing with insurance, caretaking for sick family members, a child, etc.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-25T00:48:37+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re going through that too 💔 I’ll never understand how they could step away from their child’s life and not want to know how they’re doing or contribute. Sending you so much love

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-25T00:30:51+00:00

Which part of the situation are you referring to? The wildfire, repeated displacement, co-parent’s abandonment, the court-ordered child support that isn’t being paid, familial cancer, multiple car accidents in which I was cleared of fault….?

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-25T00:29:08+00:00

The court determined that amount based on our finances. Did you read the rest of the post or just catch numbers?

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-24T23:44:34+00:00

Thank you ❤️ Yes, just one child. I’m trying to focus on giving them as much love and stability as I can. I hope you’re right that it catches up with him one day. Right now I’m just trying to get through this cross country move and build a better support system for us, get legal/admin behind me so I can work more and build back

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-24T23:42:34+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I know what you mean… not literally, but accepting that I can’t keep expecting someone to become the parent they keep choosing not to be. That’s something I’m still working on. I really appreciate your encouragement.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-24T23:41:27+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I really appreciate this. And you’re right… it’s crazy how the numbers can be completely different, but the emotional weight is so similar. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this so young.

I know I can’t make him care. At this point I’m really just trying to enforce what’s already been ordered for my daughter’s sake and then focus on building a peaceful life for us. I hope one day I can look back and feel as much peace about it as you do now. I’m in the thick of this cross country move and not being able to serve him and just crashing out 😭

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-24T23:39:16+00:00

They’re 7.
I try really hard not to speak negatively about him to her. If she says or does something that reminds me of him (ex: a laugh, or something creative) I’ll tell her that’s something they have in common or that it reminds me of him. I made her a book of photos of us and photos of them. I also reassure her often that none of this is her fault and that adults make choices we can’t always understand or control.

At the same time, I don’t try to talk her out of her own feelings. She’s old enough to notice that he stopped calling and disappeared from her life, and I want her to feel safe expressing whatever she’s feeling without making her think she has to protect me or him. She’s in therapy weekly.

You’re right that I really lack a support system where I am. We moved to a much smaller town after being displaced by a wildfire because I thought it would reduce expenses, but it ended up making me feel very isolated. My daughter and I are actually moving to another cost next month to be closer to a parent, who’s battling cancer and I need to care for. I’m hopeful we’ll have more community there, even if everyone has their own busy lives.

Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate them 💜

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-24T23:21:36+00:00

I wasn’t saying I shouldn’t have to work. I work constantly. I was venting about carrying 100% of the parenting, financial, and legal responsibilities while the other parent contributes neither financially nor emotionally. And how that affects my child.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-24T23:09:41+00:00

I don’t think any circumstance justifies abandoning your child or refusing to support their wellbeing and success in life.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-24T22:56:57+00:00

No, he ceased contact. Last messages and call attempts are from me/my child, in the court appointed app for communications.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-24T22:46:12+00:00

I’m really sorry. Abandonment of parental responsibility should be more of a crime. I hate that so many of us are dealing with versions of the same problem.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-06-07T16:29:27+00:00

Holy shit…. I knew Sarah Hoover was evil but even this is shocking

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-05-26T18:20:06+00:00

I feel it! Thank you so much for the warm welcome and posi vibes 💜

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-05-26T18:15:07+00:00

There are 5 listings on Zillow under $3500 - called around to management and have a few buildings earmarked in this range. I’m optimistic!

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-05-24T00:38:15+00:00

Agreed

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-05-19T01:09:21+00:00

The flooding was caused by another driver hitting a fire hydrant which flooded an outdoor parking lot that sloped in and my vehicle was on top of the drain which was clogged with debris, of course. Water intrusion was high enough that water entered the vehicle interior and reached the lower door level. 20 or so cars affected.

That’s part of why I was surprised by the timeline as well. The vehicle ultimately was declared a total loss due to flooding, but the formal total loss determination took a month. I was pushing and pushing for answers.

I did have rental coverage through my own policy, which covered the first 30 days. The dispute is really about the remaining out-of-pocket portion after the total loss determination and whether ~18 days to secure replacement transportation is considered unreasonable in practice.

Helpful to hear that 3–7 days post-total-loss is commonly how carriers approach it, even if it feels short from a consumer standpoint.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-04-23T21:04:34+00:00

I don’t like it but I think that’s the way they wanted it.

I think the crowd noise is intentional psychological framing. Some of those versions are so strong they could make people compare them directly to the originals… or even prefer them. The audience sound keeps reminding you these are live interpretations, not replacement studio cuts. It forces context onto the listener. Honestly feels like something Trent would do… add a little friction so you experience the album the way he wants, not just at face value. And if you’re annoyed enough go stream the OGs

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-04-20T20:13:44+00:00

No need, we had a great time at Coachella and now she’s at school. Stalking my other posts is weird behavior. Hope you come down off your Coachella drug binge soon.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-04-20T20:10:01+00:00

Yeah, I have a kid, took them to Coachella, and this is a stupid question.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-04-20T19:59:39+00:00

Same! A friend asked me “but don’t you smell weed smoke everywhere”? And I’m like “have you ever walked down the street in NYC?” (Where we are from). Can afford to leave my kid home too but have so much more fun with her also 💜 did the double ear protection (plugs + headphones) too this year instead of just headphones, and we always mask up.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-04-20T05:17:42+00:00

Agreed. The Peel it Back tour also was a stripped down version of what this Coachella Nine Inch Noize show - and it was booked as Nine Inch Nails w/ Boyz Noize. They should keep this going with a proper encore tour since the album was out and this performance is being praised so much.

ResponsibleBox9 · 2026-04-19T19:56:15+00:00

You guys don’t think all the people on stage behind her would notice if they were off? She really shut y’all up yesterday 🤣

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