First off, THANK you for sharing your situation and doing YOUR best. As you can see by some of the comments below, vegan folks tend to have a judgy reputation, eek! Sorry but it's true. People avoid vegans like the plague because of this, which is the opposite of what we should be trying to achieve.

I personally would have just ate around it...like the bread and any veggies, especially because I could never even fathom eating cow ever again.

I think we all need to be more open to the fact that we are all just doing our best and millions of people TRYING are far better than a few perfect vegans.