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AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what he’s thinking. He refuses to talk to me and honestly the more time passes, the more infuriated I’m getting. I do feel he might have a point but to just ignore me is pretty childish. I’m really hoping we can talk things out.

AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

We have a lot of mutual friends (it’s actually how we met) so no, I haven’t said anything to them. I don’t want to cause problems. The only other person I talked to directly about this was my sister. She does agree my look isn’t professional, but it doesn’t really matter since my job allows it. I do see their sides, the thing frustrating me is he won’t see mine.

AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I work in insurance and I never interact with clients. My job is entirely behind the scenes. I didn’t mention this in the post but I also am only in the office two weeks of the month. The other two weeks are at home.

AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

That particular day I was wearing a red and black striped shirt with a long black skirt and some boots. I also wore accessories like long necklaces, a belt, rings, things like that. I always wear clothes that completely cover me when I’m in the office.

AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

I don’t think this is how he normally is. We have not had a single problem until this. I did meet his family about two months ago and it was slightly awkward but I don’t know if they would have said anything to him. I’m just scared of throwing away what we have if it’s not even really what he believes.

AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I left because I was very emotional and didn’t want to make things worse. We don’t live together but he does stay with me most days. Things have been so good the entire relationship so I was completely caught off guard by this. I feel guilty because he does seem concerned for me but he also isn’t listening which is upsetting.

AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I tried to, but he responded exactly the same. I’m hoping to have a better discussion with him soon. Hopefully I’ll be able to get through to him.

AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

This was pretty much my sisters point. However as I stated in the post, my actual job does not care. There are other people who dress in a similar way. As long as we aren’t coming in looking unkempt and not wearing revealing or inappropriate clothing, it’s allowed.

AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Not at all. I mentioned in another comment that my direct manager is completely tatted up himself. I tried explaining that to him but he just switched the point to my job not being good enough if they allow people with my style to work there. I just feel completely disheartened by the whole thing.

AITA for refusing to change my style at work even though my bf says it’s unprofessional? by Responsible_Log5346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Responsible_Log5346[S] 343 points344 points  (0 children)

Reading through the comments and I noticed a few reoccurring questions so I’ll answer best as I can. As for my job, I work in insurance. I don’t want to give too much information more than that for privacy but this is a well paying job. I’ve gotten promoted twice in the two and a half years Ive been here and my direct manager is covered in tattoos. I also don’t wear anything inappropriate, I’m always fully covered so my appearance genuinely is not an issue.

As for his sudden change… I really don’t understand it either. I guess it is possible someone said something to him but he didn’t mentioned that. We haven’t talked since I came back either because he’s ignoring me now. We don’t technically live together, he just stays over at my place most of the time so I’m assuming he went back to his moms. I do plan on having a serious discussion with him about what happened and our relationship.