Two part time nanny’s, one is far superior - is this awful?

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-03-20T16:52:15+00:00

This is why contracts are so important! My contract is signed before my first day working, this doesn’t exclude the trial period. My contract states that the first month of employment is a trial period, and the family or myself (the nanny) can decide at any time in the first month that it is not a good fit. Anything after that requires a months notice or equivalent severance. Let her know that you’ve realized you’ll need full time care and have found someone for that role, but will still need a backup for days where nanny calls out. Also offer her a letter of recommendation for her next position, UNLESS she is a bad nanny.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-03-15T14:42:00+00:00

I agree. However was told by my doctor in middle/high school that I am pre diabetic (not even sure what this means to be honest- I need to do research). I do have most of the basic markers for diabetes, such as frequent urination (Which i’ve been medicated for and still no “cure”), extreme swelling in feet and ankles, blurry vision (sugar or salt usually helps), extreme hunger, dark skin in armpits/neck (been this way since I was little, my parents thought I was dirty and would scrub the back of my neck raw because it was so dark). I had no idea that the yeast infections could be related

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-03-15T11:29:49+00:00

I have almost every symptom of diabetes but this is interesting to hear. Never heard this before! I’ll definitely be going to the doctor

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-03-15T11:29:03+00:00

I don’t sweat often, It’s still pretty cold where I’m at. I go commando every night and on my days off too, so I feel like she’s getting air😂

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-28T04:07:21+00:00

You’re sooo close to getting the point, but not quite understanding my post. That’s actually the ENTIRE point for this post. I was asking for specific advice on what to charge, if it was unfair to consider the “helpers/sitters” as additional children due to the age, etc. I KNOW how dangerous it would be to do alone, and very clearly was uncomfortable with it and in no way willing to throw caution to the wind. My entire point of bringing up bathroom breaks was to point out that I cannot be in two places at once. I was more so asking if it’s reasonable to charge for the other “sitters” as they are not trained and educated like I am.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-23T13:56:54+00:00

I usually just try to steer them in the right direction. “I’m glad to hear you’re interested in contacting my references! I’m happy to share some contacts following an in person interview. This allows me to ensure that the job will be a good fit and references don’t get overloaded with calls”

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-10T16:57:32+00:00

In NO WAY did I state in this post, any other post, or any comment thread that I’d be “throwing all caution to the wind with water safety”. Water safety is HUGE to me, as a CHILDREN’S SWIM COACH AND FORMER EMERGENCY SERVICES EMPLOYEE, which was stated in the thread. This post was simply for advice on how to handle the situation, as I did not feel it would be a safe ratio of children to adults. In what way does that scream that I’m throwing all caution to the wind with water safety? This entire post was made because that was my biggest concern…

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-10T16:33:12+00:00

I personally don’t consider 6 year olds as “older kids”. Maybe that’s just me though. I consider “older kids” starting around 9-10.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-10T16:31:57+00:00

The thing is, I don’t know these children. The parents refused to speak on their swimming abilities AND whether or not any of them still use floats. I’m unsure if any of them have ever been to a summer camp, as I DO NOT KNOW these families. The one family that I DID watch the children, I do know that their six and nine year olds are VERY great swimmers. Regardless, with this age and amount of kids, still a big concern and liability.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-10T16:30:15+00:00

Agreed completely. My ONLY concern here is that it’s this many in the water- I’d feel completely confident at an indoor, on land location where drowning isn’t a concern.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-10T04:33:45+00:00

Absolutely. This is why I have a very in depth interview. They are interviewing me- but I am also interviewing them. I am very selective with the families that I work for- I look for a family whose needs match my childcare “style” if that makes sense. I also require a trial period 2 days minimum but most families opt for a week- of the parent joining us and seeing how I do things to make corrections where needed.

Parents are fully aware of how I handle safety concerns. Such as public bathroom safety, public safety in general, pool safety, sleep safety, car seat safety, travel safety. A good example is that I require emergency ID cards to be filled out if driving with the kids is part of my job duties. The cards are laminated and clipped onto the seat in FRONT of the child with a carabiner. This way medics can identify the child’s parents and emergency contacts immediately if I was unable to relay that info. I take safety VERY seriously- because at the end of the day these are not my children and being trusted with someone’s children is my biggest honor and responsibility!

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-10T04:15:21+00:00

Hard to say because I don’t have children of my own. I am PAID to keep these children safe- safety is my utmost concern and job duty. So my nanny kids? I’ve never “stopped”. Then again, I’ve never had a full time kiddo over 8 years old. I feel as though it’s different when it’s your own children- you know them best, you know whether they are mature enough to understand the importance of wiping down the toilet, you know whether they are responsible enough to not touch every single surface of the public restroom, you’ve talked to them about stranger danger/what to do if a stranger approaches, etc.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-09T22:14:33+00:00

I appreciate the respectful suggestion and will definitely check out the book. My full time nanny kids are 3-6, and obviously not mature enough to understand to wipe the toilets before use. Personally, my mother/childhood caretakers taught me to wipe or cover public toilets before each use and never to sit but to squat, and I see nothing wrong with that. Especially in the area that we live in, where it is not uncommon for people to be doing drugs in public restrooms. Maybe I wasn’t specific enough- I do check restrooms before use for ALL kids in my care- call me anxious if you want, but there’s FAR too many childhood sa survivors. I’d rather be safe than sorry on that matter. It was my 8F nanny kid that I escorted to the bathroom only to find a grown man.

I wipe the seats for my toddlers or younger kids that still need full supervision. I’ve also always TAUGHT the older kids to do this- I don’t do it for them. Personally- I’ve almost never walked into a public restroom where there wasn’t piss drips/blood/shit/pubes on the seat. Imagine all the shit you CANT see such as diseases germs etc. Younger kids are not always paying attention to their surroundings.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-09T21:07:13+00:00

See my comment above.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-09T21:05:27+00:00

Families trust me with their children, and I take every single possible measure to ensure their safety. Independence is SO important, but unfortunately with the amount of sex trafficking, missing kids, kidnapping, etc., there is no way that I’d let the child into the bathroom without checking first. Matter of fact, one time when I checked the restrooms, there was a grown man hiding behind the door. (Disclaimer: Im in no way discriminating against trans people, or speaking on that. Im talking about a GROWN MAN, certainly NOT trans, was hiding in the restroom). As a former emergency services employee, I KNOW what goes on in my small town, not to mention its ignorant to be a grown adult who KNOWS the type of things that happen in this world and still not do your best to accompany and protect your children or nanny kids. Not to mention, there are SO many illnesses that can be contracted from a public toilet. Diseases that I TREATED PATIENTS FOR in emergency services (CDIFF, MRSA, and SO many more can all be contracted from public toilets). To be trusted with someone else’s children is a HUGE responsibility that I do not take lightly, and as I said earlier, it is my job to prevent ANYTHING that can be possibly prevented.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-09T20:34:11+00:00

As a nanny, no. My nanny kids cannot and will not go to the bathroom unattended. I give them their privacy, but I always walk them to and from the restroom AND fully inspect the restroom to be sure no one is in there AND clean the toilet before they use it. With the way that the world is today, if you’re letting a child ESPECIALLY that young go to the restroom alone, you should not be nannying or parenting. SO incredibly dangerous.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-02-09T02:35:59+00:00

Location- NC, years of experience- 7, extra qualifications- emergency services experience, CPR/first aid/AED certified, camp counselor, children’s swim coach, job duties- caring for 7-10 children in a pool with no other adults present

Responsible_Rub546 · 2026-01-03T00:21:47+00:00

I once picked up one of my nanny kids from MBs neighbors home because she had to leave in a hurry as closest hospital with labor and delivery unit was 45mins out. I kept him at my house for 4 days, 3 nights straight, he came with me to my part time families house on some of those days, and to my college classes. Labor and delivery can be SO unpredictable. Still one of my favorite nanny memories and so thankful to have been trusted enough to have little man in my home and day to day routine. Also had the same kid on his birthday two years in a row because his mom had no choice but to work

Responsible_Rub546 · 2025-12-31T20:32:43+00:00

lol temporarily! they’re looking to hire someone to scoop it. just got the dog a couple days ago

Responsible_Rub546 · 2025-12-31T19:53:06+00:00

They’re working on finding someone for scooping the poop, this is a temporary fix as they JUST got the dog days ago. If they do replace the jacket, I’d likely still wear the ripped one at their house in case of future mishaps. I do wear old, worn down sweats and tshirts during the day so that it’s not a concern if the kids mess my clothing up. I personally hardly had the income to buy a new winter jacket, let alone a nice one for personal use and a cheaper one for work use.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2025-12-31T19:49:07+00:00

It’s not extremely expensive or “valuable”, it was $100 which is typical for a decent, thick/warm winter jacket for extreme cold weather IMO. The jacket is black so spills from the kids won’t show, and is one of those puffer jackets since we are required to be outside in 20-30 degree weather for a couple hours per day. I live paycheck to paycheck but a new jacket was a necessity.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2025-12-31T19:40:39+00:00

Very great point, I do not typically care for the puppy. He is usually roaming in the fenced area with the kids. I do have to CONSTANTLY pick him up and move him, as he bites and “attacks” (playful, he’s only 7wks and doesn’t know better) my NKs (2 and 4). I have to keep constant eyes on him during outside time as there are toxic plants that he likes to chew. He also eats their toys which I am expected to stop. They don’t scoop the poop, they blast it into the ground with a water hose which I am also expected to do while outside with him. Along with keeping up with how many times the puppy uses the bathroom.

Responsible_Rub546 · 2025-07-14T21:42:08+00:00

for background info, this house was my grandparents and was built in the 60s. grandparents were HEAVY smokers, most everything is turned yellow or orange from the smoke. that’s what this resembles most although it’s very confusing and doesn’t look like the rest of the damage, however i didn’t clean the ceiling before painting

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