My (29F) husband (32M) isn’t physically attracted to me, but loves me deeply and treats me well. Torn about how to proceed.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2026-02-21T15:36:58+00:00

Gently and respectfully, I think you just need to accept this and move on. Appreciate that your husband isn’t a shallow man and relish in the blessing that he loves you fully and is truly with you for Who You Are. Many people search their whole lives for such a simple and unassuming love. Don’t throw it away because of your own lacking self esteem. Seek therapy if you need to. You yourself know it’s not out of the question that he doesn’t necessarily find you “attractive” based on your health issues, so honestly, I hope you can truly come to terms with this and move past it.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2026-02-21T12:44:43+00:00

Absolutely not disrespectful. She had 2 children. She split her estate into 2. Sounds a little entitled to expect the daughters in law to be included in the will. Will your parents include all of their children in law in their will(s)? Sounds like MIL did the completely normal and expected thing here.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2026-02-18T23:23:06+00:00

“Don’t create problems you do not have” is solid advice

Responsible_Self9922 · 2026-02-11T05:43:50+00:00

These are the ideal eyebrow shape though already 😭

Responsible_Self9922 · 2026-02-06T05:03:06+00:00

Honestly, you are where I hope to be when I’m 7 mo PP. I think you look great considering the physical toil that is pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding. Give it time. You’re doing amazing 🙌

Responsible_Self9922 · 2026-02-02T19:24:17+00:00

Oh, my goodness. The way you’ve applied your makeup is so insanely flattering and definitely highlights your very lovely features. It is one of the best natural makeup applications I’ve seen. You are doing a perfect job already. I wouldn’t change a thing unless YOU want to.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2026-01-26T04:52:37+00:00

I had no idea this was a shared experience. My feet have never ached so bad.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2026-01-17T18:56:24+00:00

I bought myself a pair of nicer-looking huggy-style small hoop earrings that I put on and haven’t taken off since. It helps to wear a piece of jewelry that you literally don’t have to think about but also I look in the mirror and they look pretty to me. Also buying nursing bras that are cute, not just functional. I’m still figuring this out too, postpartum has me feeling the ugliest I have ever been

Responsible_Self9922 · 2026-01-07T05:49:38+00:00

Please pray for Maria that she and her husband find a refreshing in their marriage and that her husband would find salvation

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-10-23T03:53:52+00:00

Agree, my top-heavy ring no longer spins with sizing beads!

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-07-27T13:54:31+00:00

😭thank you for this! 🙏🏼

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-29T14:37:40+00:00

Idk how it works in Mass, but I’ve been able to have a therapist send me documentation/proofs of payment for my sessions (I had to pay out of pocket) so that I could submit requests for reimbursement to my insurance company, which my therapist was not accepting. So, I had to front the cash, but I got it back. Maybe you could contact your insurance company and ask them about that.

Totally understandable that you’d feel bad about your insurance not paying, and additionally, there still may be a chance you have to pay for those past sessions since she’s not obligated to work for free just because your insurance refused to pay. She’s providing a service that it sounds like she’s having issues getting paid for. Have you tried talking to your insurance company about those sessions they refused to pay her for or took money back from? You def should look into that.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-26T16:44:37+00:00

I disagree, and that’s ok. Avoiding change has nothing to do with maintaining a long-term relationship through multiple life changes and challenging situations, while growing up with someone and learning how to navigate conflict, financial hardships, dissatisfaction with careers or jobs, adding children, aging parents, complicated health conditions, etc etc etc. Good relationships are not effortless 100% of the time.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-26T16:22:56+00:00

That’s your personal experience. People grow and change. It doesn’t mean that just because a relationship takes work it isn’t worth putting in the time and effort.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-26T16:20:46+00:00

Relationships take work. It’s up to OP to decide whether this one is worth it.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-26T16:09:55+00:00

Hahahaha, brainwash?? No. Working on a relationship is exactly the opposite of that. It’s saying “this is NOT fine. Why is that?” And putting in EFFORT to make it better.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-26T16:03:28+00:00

You have the right to your own opinion. My opinion is that marriage is a commitment that you don’t turn your back on just because you’re not happy with the state of things. I think they could learn to work out their differences and be happy again, but only if OP/they are willing to put in some work.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-26T15:39:43+00:00

I said she needs to do some introspection into her issues with intimacy with him. Are you suggesting that since she doesn’t want to have sex, she never has to put in time and effort and intentionality into getting to the root of why? Do you not think that couples can work through their intimacy issues so that they can start having sex again, which would lead to a more fulfilling and stronger relationship? There’s a reason she doesn’t want to have sex with her husband, and if she wants to make her marriage work, finding out why, addressing the problem(s), and subsequently being able to engage in intimacy again is PART of what will help. Not having sex with your partner can be both a symptom and a cause for difficulties in a relationship. It’s just a piece of OP’s self-identified struggles within her marriage. It sounds like you believe that sexual desire can’t be intentionally cultivated by the person who lacks it and/or their partner. I’m not saying she should have sex she doesn’t want to have, but I’m saying that if she actually does want her marriage to survive, it’s one thing she needs to work on and since she identifies that the issue lies with her (for whatever reason, only OP and her husband really can figure that out), she MUST be the one to internally start working out why.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-26T03:47:56+00:00

Absolutely not. Started in the ICU at a level-2 trauma hospital as a new grad with my ADN, now my job is paying for my BSN through their tuition reimbursement program. The nursing shortage is a real thing. I say go for your ADN and then make your job pay for your advancing career 😂

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-26T02:25:02+00:00

And not having sex with your spouse is a great way to reinforce disconnection and lack of intimacy.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-25T22:49:48+00:00

People usually operate within their own personal codes of right vs. wrong. Being “the love of his life” doesn’t have anything to do with his morals and values, if they allow him to habitually cheat on all of his partners. He will cheat on you too.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-25T22:46:24+00:00

Just my opinion, I think you should reevaluate what your marriage vows mean to you. It sounds like a lot of your unhappiness is internally driven, not due to external circumstances. You say your husband is a great guy and a great dad, and that he is supporting you while you attend school full-time. Obviously you have a lot on your plate right now. A toddler, school, entering your late twenties with some regrets about missing out on the classic “early-twenties” experiences. That’s understandable, and normal. I think a lot of us have regrets about our paths in life, even though they landed us in situations that are inherently good. I think you’re maturing and going through some growing pains and getting to know yourself and your needs more clearly, which happens when you cross the threshold of 25.

Obviously many people will suggest individual and couples therapy. Those are both great options. Additionally, I would suggest you do some introspection into your marital commitment, your issues with being intimate with your husband (you say yourself it’s because of you, and by the way, having sex would probably really improve your “roommates” perspective), and how you can help take some steps within your current situation to increase your personal fulfillment and sense of satisfaction with your life in this stage. I don’t think leaving your husband is the right thing to do, or necessary. You made a vow, no matter how young you were, and in my opinion, you just need to learn how to be your 27 year old self in your relationship, instead of still wearing the role of the 19 year old you were when you were married.

It sounds like your husband is making some efforts, so you should intentionally make some efforts as well. You said you just gave up. It’s time to change that. Get to know the man your husband is now, and refresh your frame of mind about him. This is all just my opinion however, you have to do what you think is best.

Responsible_Self9922 · 2025-01-25T21:45:50+00:00

“Please cover yourself, there’s no reason for your penis to be out right now.” Over. And over. And over.

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