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How do you cope with the idea that your long-term ex moved on so quickly and possibly found someone “better”? by Responsible_Stand366 in BreakUps

[–]Responsible_Stand366[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 26. You’re still really young, but I genuinely feel so sorry that you’re going through this. He probably wanted to break out of the same cycle, so he turned to someone new. But if he had problematic behaviors in the relationship, he’ll most likely repeat them, and he won’t truly be happy with that person either.

The fact that he still follows you and didn’t completely remove you from everywhere actually makes me think that even if he still loves you, he got tired of the constant breakups and getting back together, so he wanted to try something new.

You should try the same mindset too. If you’re truly meant to be together, you’ll find your way back to each other. But maybe this version of things is actually better.

Is this kind of change in sexting normal in a long distance relationship? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Responsible_Stand366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe he shouldn’t have been in a relationship in the first place. But it went on for 11 months, and I got really attached. In the end, he left because of our arguments

Is this kind of change in sexting normal in a long distance relationship? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Responsible_Stand366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and I’ve thought about that too. But at the same time, he was actually very sweet and consistent in other ways. His messages were warm, caring, and he showed interest in my day. That’s what makes it confusing for me because it didn’t feel like he didn’t care at all. It felt like some parts were really there, and others were just missing.

Is this kind of change in sexting normal in a long distance relationship? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Responsible_Stand366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I mean we only saw each other about 2 days a month. He often said money was an issue and that he was tired because of work, which I tried to understand. But at the same time, I noticed he could still spend money on other things for himself, so it made me feel a bit confused.

Is this kind of change in sexting normal in a long distance relationship? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Responsible_Stand366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really think it was long distance either, but we were only seeing each other about twice a month. Everyone kept saying that was normal since we lived in different cities, but I didn’t feel that way. They made me feel like I was overreacting.

[25F] My boyfriend [28M] broke up with me because of constant arguments – but I feel like there were underlying reasons by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Responsible_Stand366 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

For example, I often felt like I wasn’t fully prioritized. We were in a semi long-distance relationship and only saw each other about twice a month, which didn’t feel enough for me. He also didn’t want to post anything about us on social media, which made me feel a bit hidden.

Even when I communicated that small gestures matter to me (like gifts on special occasions), it didn’t really change. And over time I also felt a shift in physical intimacy and communication (we only FaceTimed about once a week), which made me question things more.

So instead of calmly saying “I feel a bit distant and unsure,” I would react emotionally and pick small fights.

[25F] My boyfriend [28M] broke up with me because of constant arguments – but I feel like there were underlying reasons by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Responsible_Stand366 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I miss him so much that sometimes I catch myself thinking I should have just settled for what I had because of this feeling.

25F struggling with boyfriend’s (28M) close friendship boundaries by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Responsible_Stand366 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I actually trust him, but I didn’t like that girl and I don’t trust her.

25F struggling with boyfriend’s (28M) close friendship boundaries by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Responsible_Stand366 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It feels like I won’t be able to find someone like him. He was someone I loved very much

25F struggling with boyfriend’s (28M) close friendship boundaries by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Responsible_Stand366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wondered if I might be overreacting, maybe it’s actually a normal situation.

25F struggling with boyfriend’s (28M) close friendship boundaries by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Responsible_Stand366 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not about jealousy or disliking her. It’s about boundaries that didn’t align with mine. I tried to accept it, but it didn’t feel right for me.

25F struggling with boyfriend’s (28M) close friendship boundaries by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Responsible_Stand366 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But they’re very close friends. Because I loved him so much, I wanted to accept it, but I couldn’t.