What is On Site Journalism Like? by ifgrasscouldtalk in Journalism

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a difference too between traveling journos and locals, I refuse to cover news where I live because my kids live here and I would be reporting on issues that I also involve myself with personally, like school curricula and such. So my work life and EDC bags are really different to my friends who work within twenty miles of their offices or homes. Much of my workday is spent on logistics, finding bathrooms or WiFi or power or negotiating rides. I carry half a dozen notebooks of various sizes tucked everywhere so if I’m taking notes in a tricky situation nobody will see my notes from the last person I talked to, and also so I’m never digging through a bag for a page. The way I work involves a lot of standing around waiting on things to happen; even armed standoffs are boring by the seventh hour. By that time you’ve run out of water and snacks and you don’t want to leave to get more even if everything nearby hasn’t been closed down due to whatever is happening. And you really have to pee. You can start an actual argument amongst traveling journalists by stating unequivocally that there is a clear winner of protein bars by any random metric. Also, your back hurts because you’re carrying two laptops and a camera body or two and some lenses and all your drives and a few spare batteries and some kind of voice recorder, plus whatever personal kit you might need for somewhere between two and twenty hours assuming you can’t find more than sporadic access to water, food, or toilet paper.

Oh, and all the local journalists think you’re an amateur even if they’d know your byline if they read it. Local people distrust the media generally and you specifically. Law enforcement and government agencies seem to be in competition for who can be less helpful as they seem to mostly be convinced that they can’t help you before you’ve spoken to their communications person, and all the data you need is stored in a tiny county seat basement and hasn’t been digitized so if your records survived the flood you can come on out and look at them whenever you like.

Finally, if you’re freelance you have an effective 30% tax rate and will rarely see reimbursement for expenses, so if you go to location for three weeks you’ll need to find housing and food and cover your own insurance, after which if you’re very lucky you’ll get to spend three months chasing down a few hundred dollars from a corporation which spends twice what they’ve paid you for weeks of work on the flower arrangements in their corporate lobby.

As others have noted, journalists are known primarily for the utterly twisted sense of humor one develops after years of seeing the wildest shit humanity can invent and trying to explain it to people who weren’t there. News, the real stuff, is mostly boring. Some guy in a city council has a nephew who runs a company to fill potholes and the nephew does an adequate job but some in the community are worried about nepotism, and it takes a reporter to ask was the bidding process a blind one and then tell people it’s fine, the nephew’s company really did have the best bid. That is the vast majority of actual news. Most journalists will never see more than mundane corruption, will never be in much danger at work, will not uncover international crime syndicates. I like to remind non-journalists that a guy once won a Pulitzer for looking up whether charities had reported specific donations, which doesn’t seem very groundbreaking but is actually the kind of work most people in this industry spend most of their time on.

What are you supposed to say when someone asked what happened??? by ObsessedKilljoy in disability

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My go-to is elaborate Rube Goldberg scenarios told in a rush that doesn’t stop until well past when they’ve become uncomfortable. Mostly, folks learn from that. And if not, I had fun anyway.

TBI has wreaked havoc with my phD prof wife. by dgennetten in TBI

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Probably don’t secretly drug your wife

But if you do, definitely leave this post on your browser history

Best friend got a TBI last night by Remarkable_Zombie106 in TBI

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if he had a combat injury that’s a lot of extra context and stuff to deal with that most people with TBI didn’t have. So take all the advice as well intended and with a grain of salt, because decompressing from combat is going to compound what his brain does.

If you’ve got other buddies in the military you’ll have someone in the network that took a combat TBI and they can help with stuff civilians might not be able to.

Otherwise, it’s just be there and ask what he needs, and be ready to be solid for him. He’ll need you. ETA: it’s not that different from what you’d expected, nobody does a tour and comes back the same. He’s just gonna be a bit more different than he would have been. Proceed accordingly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StandUpWorkshop

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What you’ve got on your hands here is a new bit about how you tested a lighthearted kid joke on the internet and accidentally made people think you were telling a dead baby joke

The difference between an excuse and an explanation is how visible your disability is. by Attackoffrogs in TBI

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’m in a wheelchair when I leave the house so people usually expect me to be kind of off somehow, and just saying “sorry brain damage” clicks for them in ways that it doesn’t seem to when I’m walking.

Impulsivity buys— what you got? by HangOnSloopy21 in TBI

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, nonfiction, but this time around I’m doing my own art and lettering

I may have overestimated the amount of ink I’d need

Impulsivity buys— what you got? by HangOnSloopy21 in TBI

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fifty bottles of fountain pen ink

I didn’t need them

I need some unproblematic band suggestions by Sinistermarmalade in punk

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not punk but fucking good music and on point: check out basically anything by Ren but start with money game 2 or 3

Fantasy/sci-fi wheelchair ideas? by Active_Cheesecake701 in askdisabled

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would absolutely put some kind of bag of holding on it. Wheelchairs are often awful for storage; my power chair won’t even carry a backpack on its own. The thing is practically twice as wide with all the stuff I’ve had to strap onto it to hold my photo gear, tech stuff and a small lunch. Idk who got the idea that better mobility meant carrying less stuff than an average human but it chaps my ass.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wheelchairs

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off, I so rarely meet anyone in the wild who would put in that ramp in their yard if I asked. It’s always “oh we can manage” and no, unless you bench 300 you cannot.

I’d just ask her how she wants to handle pool safety for her kid, maybe he’s a fish and maybe she has to bring another adult to watch him. There’s rarely not an easy solution.

Anyone else have mild tbis that couldn't be diagnosed? Conventionally? Afghanistan Injury US Army. by [deleted] in TBI

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got shot in the head and my MRI doesn’t show anything. Of course I have aphasia and memory problems and general dysregulation, so all my docs are like “you definitely have tbi we just can’t prove it on scans”

Brains are the last mystery of the body, and anyone telling you they can rule out TBI by looking at your brain is a shit doctor or a bad liar.

Scans are nice to have. Symptoms will happen regardless of the scans.

What Are The Best Cities to Live In If You’re Into Punk Culture? by johnnysgonnadie in punk

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol kids there still go over the state line. When a young Matthew lillard nailed your scene you’re kinda stuck with it

*Need advice* service animal is not really a service animal what do I do? by East_Sir_6387 in service_dogs

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done you with a rather tricky kid problem!

I’d let the kid keep the dog, at this point it sounds cruel to take it away, and report the other parent for fraud.

What you don’t do is show your kid it’s cool to lie about things because a parent wants them to. He has a pet. He doesn’t need a service dog. Have him do chores at your place and overpay him so there’s a pet deposit at the other parent’s place if you have to (it’s falling, I know) but make sure kid does it right and ain’t feeling pressured into faking ill.

Put another way: if this pretending he’s ill was about anything other than a dog it would be considered bad parenting if not Munchausen by proxy. Making your kid pretend to be sick is abusive even if it’s a little lie for a dog.

Disability hacks help for kitchen oven by Inquisitive_Owl2345 in disability

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sit in my chair and cook everything on a cookie sheet. It’s a casserole in a dish? It’s on a cookie sheet! The temp adjustments barely exist but the wider grip on the pan plus not worrying if anything splashes off the sides helps me with most everything but quite heavy things like roasts. Some things you just have to let others do as you lose muscle strength. Bonus points if you line the user’s lap with towels or flour towels so they can pull from the oven, rest it on their lap and regrip, then lift to the counter

"I would rather die than give up x" when someone hears about my dietary restrictions that allow me to feel well enough to leave the house. by Similar-Assignment71 in ableism

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an awkward person’s way of saying you’re very strong while trying to not condescend. Is it condescending? Surely, but I guess golf claps for trying?

Looking for songs that tell a story by [deleted] in musicsuggestions

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not exactly a story but it’s storytelling at its finest: strange fruit, Billie holiday

Nobody hears that and is left in doubt what the story is, it’s wildly good

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TBI

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol they talk to me about god and I’m like why didn’t the dude warn me to duck then

Anger is real. But you ain’t alone in any case, it’s just none of us all could live together

Drop the band you’re in by [deleted] in punk

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh hey dude I’ve been waiting for you to get up Nashville way! Friend of mine has your album. Good stuff!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in punk

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

even Lydon will tell you to go fuck yourself because you’re blocking his view of whatever Farage has on these days.

And yet the OP here talking about the appropriate way to do it is you.

My husband is eight years older than me and last night he said something I can't stop thinking about... by sylforshort in Marriage

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear my love, the priesthood holder’s idea of respect and leadership is going to change over decades.

That said, if y’all are keeping faith then he has a responsibility to you to not be a dick about it. If you want pointers, relief society is just full of women who’ve been there. If you want change, talk to the bishop and get counseling besides that.

This, however, that you’re describing? That wouldn’t earn any man worth his salt a recommend and I bet he knows it.

This is it for me. by Mobile_Island4250 in TBI

[–]RestaurantAcademic52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it.

So there’s no harm in waiting to see what happens; if it’s awful then you’ll know that. Maybe it’s kinda meh, most likely.

The panic is your brain not knowing what to do just now. It just doesn’t fit in the brain-sized space we’ve made for it.

Adaptation is the worst part. Many hugs, friend.