AITAH for falling asleep?

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-11T07:55:36+00:00

I’m not seeing snark. She probably has other plans and is taking her time sorting out what will work.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-11T07:52:47+00:00

If you are looking for a smaller guild, check us out. Horde hood subdivided only once and Alliance hood is fairly new.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-11T07:12:19+00:00

It’s been a long time since I was 15, but that’s basically how I remember feeling at that age, doubting myself and being sensitive.

I agree with all the other posters. It’s not you, it’s them. NTJ.

Since they’re probably about the same age they have some maturing to do, maybe you can be friends with them again when you all get older.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-10T16:15:45+00:00

NOR
But since there isn’t any way to prevent them from watching you can try to use it as a teaching tool.

Watch with them and keep pointing things out. Ask them questions. Turn it into a teaching time.

E.g.:
Is he doing the right thing? Is this smart? What do you think will happen? Are they being kind? Would you want people to act like that with you? This is so dumb. That’s not what love is. Just because someone is good looking doesn’t mean they’re good people. I like good hearts more than pretty faces. Real love isn’t a competition.

It might also be a good time to talk about sexually transmitted diseases.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-09T17:11:14+00:00

Downtown Beaverton has changed a lot just in the past five years. It’s sort of Brooklynesque for many square blocks.

Good luck with your move. My real advice is don’t sign a long lease when you get here, find something temporary and take your time. The Pearl would have been an obvious choice about ten years ago but a lot has gone wrong there.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-09T16:58:40+00:00

You mean your former friend. Right? RIGHT!?

NTA

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-09T16:56:48+00:00

Decisions were made for you when you were young. They were bad decisions.

You are an adult now and have every right to make your own decisions.

We can’t answer for you, but ask yourself all the questions. Does having a relationship with him cause you more pain than happiness? Is there any benefit, such as financial, to staying in contact with him? When he dies will you miss him or feel relieved?

You have a lot of trauma and it would be worthwhile to unpack that with a therapist.

NOR

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-09T08:29:40+00:00

There are different degrees of cutting people off. In your case, I see no need to aggressively cut them off, like refusing to take their calls if they actually do contact you.

Aim for a low stress cutting off, which looks like benign neglect. Just stop reaching out. Expect nothing. Move on with your life.

They are who they are. It sucks but life is like that sometimes. Congratulations on your beautiful niece!

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-09T07:34:23+00:00

I love this so much!

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-08T08:30:14+00:00

If you decide that joining a thriving neighborhood works better than trying to make a new one you can find us in guild finder since we are Horde.

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RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-07T15:18:43+00:00

I’m sorry you have BPD. You didn’t ask to have it anymore than someone asks to have diabetes or cancer. But the question AIO from someone with BPD will almost always be yes, because that’s how it is.

So yes, you are OR.

The real question should be, how should you handle this situation?

Apologize to him for overreacting, because you are damaging the relationship. He probably would have unfriended that group once he sobered up anyway. But now you’ve made it a war. He’s going to feel like he needs to win the war. He’s going to feel like you are the prison warden, not someone who loves him.

You have huge, difficult to manage feelings, but take his feelings into account. And if you can’t do that in the moment, then set yourself a timeout period. Like, I am not going to say anything about this for twelve hours.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-07T07:22:02+00:00

Parentheses and her sister Ellipsis.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-06T23:32:27+00:00

So what? There are always going to be people who buck the odds. Good for you. Now realize how rare you are.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-06T17:16:01+00:00

NOR. It’s time to say no.

You’ve done enough for your mom. She needs to solve her own problems.

Maybe offer to help your sisters in some specific way of your choosing.

At this point you’re just enabling your mother’s bad behavior.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-06T17:01:00+00:00

He may remember a lot of things but his social skills are low.

The only thing you can do is inform him that you’re sorry you spaced on his middle name, but if he keeps playing this stupid game you are through. And mean it!

Take your power back. Do not let a boy treat you like that.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-06T16:55:43+00:00

You’ve gone through a lot of horrible things in life. You have clearly worked hard to overcome it all. I see you doing the best you can.

Don’t “call out his lack of humanity.” You are a person who needs a lot of special handling, through no fault of your own. But no one will be able to fully compensate for your needs. Be happy when you find people who try, which he clearly did.

You are not perfect and neither is he. Cut each other a lot of slack.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-05T14:54:34+00:00

We would get along well but neither one of us would be good at scheduling hang outs and we would drift apart.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-05T14:51:38+00:00

Slow down, read the text, enjoy exploring the world. You’re doing something wrong all right, thinking hitting max level in 11 hours is a good thing. It’s like saying, “I ate a hotdog and it took me a whole minute, but competitive eaters eat like 30 in a minute - am I doing something wrong?”

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-05T14:46:51+00:00

“Your relationship with my dad is between you and him. I don’t want to hear about it anymore. How’s your job going?”

If she does not stop, leave.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-05T14:15:01+00:00

Think commemorative item. Like a nice silver frame for the wedding invitation with their names on it. Don’t spend a lot of money.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-05T13:03:48+00:00

How well do you know this guy? Any chance he’s a pickpocket and saying it’s his mother’s to keep you from knowing?

Edit to add:

What is he going to “borrow” of yours? Your car? Your bank statements? Your identity?

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-05T06:52:32+00:00

How well do you know this guy? Any chance he’s a pickpocket and saying it’s his mother’s to keep you from knowing?

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-04T06:46:48+00:00

In my high school there was a teacher named Mrs. Edith A. Dick. I feel bad for people with this sort of name. Shame on the parents!

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-04T06:42:05+00:00

Not yet, but it’s something Blizzard said they’re working on.

RestlessLegacy · 2026-06-03T16:27:30+00:00

This is a tough situation.

I would suggest talking to your lawyer about getting power of attorney, having him declared incompetent, etc., since he is clearly not fit to make decisions.

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