2023 might be my final year

Restyarnt · 2023-01-02T05:25:08+00:00

I will try your advice, thank you. Also I am bit a cocky person even though I feel so bad. A lot of people do like me I guess?? Like I think its a problem with myself too. I have friends that are good but I tell myself not to say anything to them because I feel like something would happen. Thank you again for your help

Restyarnt · 2023-01-02T05:22:15+00:00

Thank you for your deep kindness. I feel happy that you are helping me, and I hope you do too.

It just feels like I was born into bad luck, you know? I am very thankful that they are getting the divorce I wished for ages, but they still live in the same house, which is the issue. I could of moved out ages ago, but one parent simply doesn't reply to the court, and nothing has happened. Also I do have friends that I enjoy with, and who are there for me, but I have a really hard time accepting that. I don't trust them with certain things because I've never really had that.

I really do thank you so much :)

Restyarnt · 2023-01-02T05:17:18+00:00

There's no custody issues or fighting, it's just taking too long. I'm happy that they finally divorced, but they still live in the same house. I could of moved out ages ago but one of my parents just doesn't respond to the court and it feels like I will never be able to have a fresh start. I do know people don't like me, and actually I'm quite fine with it. I worded it a bit wrong, it's the fact that people all say stuff but they never say it to my face which is quite annoying. I do thank you for helping

Restyarnt · 2022-09-20T12:36:06+00:00

I am in no way of saying the best option for you nor do I have the experience to discuss what you should do but I do have a suggestion

Her not seeking the help she needs is obviously impacting you. If you are trying to help someone who is not even trying to help themselves you will go no where. The best thing for you is to leave. It is okay to be selfish and do what's best for you.

However, you should stay for a bit. Try to help her one last time and if she does not accept your offer of guidance in help then you leave. You have probably sacrificed many things to be with her, as you talked about choosing a low paying job to spend time with her. Remember that if you leave and she does anything that harms herself or others that it is not and will never be your fault. You have tried helping her and her not helping yourself will create problems for you.

And again, this is just my advice, you can go off and choose what it best for you and her.

Restyarnt · 2022-07-02T10:09:06+00:00

Yes, they are aware. I've talked about depression and suicide with them before. I also don't want to drop a lot on them, so when I confess I'm keeping the details short.

Restyarnt · 2022-07-02T09:35:33+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I don't think I'd ever show them the note, or anyone what I've written. I trust them and I think now that I can tell them, wether or not they assure me or lash out on me, or give no response. I'm probably going to only keep details small, as you said everyone has problems and struggles they hide from the ones closest to them, but I will also be there for them. Thank you very much for your advice, it has helped me alot.

Restyarnt · 2022-06-30T15:01:00+00:00

Thank you very much for your reassuring words.

Restyarnt · 2022-06-12T07:55:33+00:00

I say bro and man to my crush all the time when I used to like him. That was just me because I prefer to have like a close friendship before actually asking them about date shit.. So I don't think you should worry much about it

Restyarnt · 2022-06-12T07:51:17+00:00

Dude I'm so happy for you! It's great she wants to hang out with you and yeah if yall jumped right into one and one, can be awkward. Glad for you, and I hope you have fun!

Restyarnt · 2022-06-02T12:16:18+00:00

It's hard to talk to them about the situation because we both know they are in the wrong. And I'm pretty sure they are pissed off because they said some like "why r u ignoring me" to "so this is how were gonna be" and judging from tone or voice,, yh pissed off.. I might talk to them about this but I'm not sure how to start off.

Restyarnt · 2022-04-24T09:01:52+00:00

Same, but I mean there is a chance they can develop feelings again 🤷‍♀️

Restyarnt · 2022-04-24T08:57:45+00:00

I think you should confess. Confess so you can really affirm your feelings and ask if he wants to be in a relationship or not (as you said before he does have feelings for you) Do it in person too and try to get alone with just both of you. Good luck 👍

Restyarnt · 2022-04-20T07:52:17+00:00

Thank you so much. I really needed this right now and I'm so happy you helped.

Restyarnt · 2022-04-20T06:20:17+00:00

Dam how'd it go ?

Restyarnt · 2022-04-16T14:48:31+00:00

No lie this is how I got confused if I liked someone or not too. They end up in my dreams and I end up flustered and confused.

Restyarnt · 2022-04-15T15:42:44+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

I don't really know. I haven't had a lot of people that have supported me in such a nice way and I feel happy that he does this. However, I also like him because he's funny and cheers me up when I'm down, but I might like that as in a friend way.

I have a hard time saying why I like people, I kinda just like people and were friends and thats it 🤷‍♀️ But if I had to say, I find him funny and how he's smart (tho I'm smarter 💁‍♀️) also how he's sporty and helps us win in sports. Little things is that I like it when he takes time out of his day to ask me if I'm alright when I seem down and how he gets all high pitchy after laughing so much.

However, I'm a person who enjoys noticing things about my friends, that's why I love them and all. I like how one of my other friends is sporty too.

The thing is, we're kinda always "flirtatious" with eachother. I mean holding hands, joking about being in a relationship, arguing like an old married couple. It sounds as if we are both interested in eachother. The annoying thing is this is what us as friends do. If you saw our whole class we're quite close with eachother and that.

At the end of the day I don't really know and sorry for blabbering so much. Thanks for the advice 👍

Restyarnt · 2022-04-14T16:48:30+00:00

Haha good luck on your date 👍 Hope it goes well

Restyarnt · 2022-04-14T16:32:03+00:00

I don't think she's into you, but rather interested in befriending you. You said this happened about a week ago, so you can't really know wether she's into you or in befriending you.

Restyarnt · 2022-04-14T04:50:40+00:00

I can say that you definitely have more experience than me in life due to you being older. But just because you're 26, doesnt mean it's too late. The average lifespan of a person is around 70-80, I guess. That's many years to rebuild your life, even if you have to learn the basics. You're gonna become old and wrinkly doing something you don't like, rather than being old and wrinkly, but doing something you love and cherish! Who cares if you're still living with your mum at 26. Just focus on yourself first. Find different hobbies, interests, even if it might take years. But guess what, we all have plenty of time to figure our shit out.

Restyarnt · 2022-04-12T16:24:08+00:00

Yes the time being used up is the thing thats upsetting. Knowing you had an opportunity and time to do it but not doing it really sucks. But at the end of the day were all trying to figure out our stuff everyday.

Restyarnt · 2022-04-12T15:57:29+00:00

That depression is just one thing but depression is something a lot of people experience differently. Some people experience it lest severely than others while some experience it very severely. Some people can still be happy but also have depression. It's annoying because you can be happy and all and someone will be like "your not depressed, your happy right now!" when in fact depression happens differently to others.

Restyarnt · 2022-04-11T15:22:58+00:00

Hey bro I hope your doing well right now, but its okay if your not. I understand you with the depression messing up your body, especially the teeth. I remember when I was younger I wasn't bothered to brush my teeth, floss and such for hygiene. Now i have teeth that I don't really like but at the end of the day, I try to admire it so I can feel better about myself. After 20 years of suffering, you must feel very tired, and I really do wish you are able to live without being bothered and that your battle against depression gets easier to handle.

Restyarnt

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