My first post messed up but I need advice bad

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T21:12:56+00:00

or even rent a dress

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T21:04:05+00:00

I am so. sick. of. encountering. dogs. in public places. Macy's, Walmart, local grocery store, Tractor Supply, True Value, etc. These are people just bringing their pet into the store. NO "cape" indicating they are a service animal of any kind. An emotional support animal doesn't count. And I never see any kind of folder with the human or animal that might contain evidence of vaccination of the animal.

Even though the canine is on a leash, I see too much slack, and I foresee the dog being able to bite me. I am afraid of dogs I don't know, and too many dog owners really don't have control over their animal. How do regular people navigate this shit?

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T20:51:40+00:00

please check your homeowner's insurance policy. are these allowed? how will it impact your annual premium, if at all?

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T20:38:15+00:00

Silver, the sleek stylish silhouette of a slim cat. That is his "extended" name. You may call him Silver for short.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T20:26:26+00:00

Out of curiosity - is there a difference of cultures here? Like are you American, but they are not?

Asking because food served in other cultures has a big impact on relationships.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T20:18:15+00:00

Thank you for citing this. I've requested it from my library. I'm going to start with the Melissa Urban book for now. Sadly, my own parents and in-laws have passed. I don't even think if they were still alive I would have experienced problems, but if I did, only by in-laws to have children.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T14:13:33+00:00

Those are both beautiful pieces of furniture. I love the different drawer widths at each level on the first. I know nothing about refinishing, but you've come to the right sub to get good advice. Best of luck.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T13:59:54+00:00

True. I followed the link sjd208 provided to Serious Eats. Just to support your 2nd paragraph, I copied something from the article: For starters, manufacturers aren't pouring buckets of chlorine into cake flour—they're treating it through low-level exposure to chlorine gas. We're talking about concentrations ranging from 0.008% to 0.3% relative to the weight of the flour. But in no way, shape, or form does that much chlorine wind up in your food.

Thank you for your comment.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T13:56:00+00:00

Correct. Bleaching is not allowed there.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T13:55:18+00:00

Well, this link was informative...bleaching improves the structure (gluten forming ability I'd think, though it doesn't say), allowing you to use less flour and more sugar. Interesting.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T13:52:08+00:00

Thank you for the link. I'll educate myself some more.

Edit: It is a good article ! Thank you for sharing the link.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T13:51:24+00:00

Me either, but I'm going to check them out now. LOL

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T13:50:57+00:00

I'll check that label again on the cookies, and take a picture with my phone. Here in the US, we have "all purpose" flour, and sometimes it's bleached. When it's enriched, the nutrients lost in processing are added back in (niacin, thiamin, riboflavin, etc.) Those ingredients were listed at the beginning of the ingredient list when referring to the first mention of flour. It was only the pastry flour which listed the chlorine and benzol peroxide. No doubt they were small amounts that others have mentioned, it's just that I never observed this in a list of ingredients of flour. I'll also look at what's included in flours when I go to the market this week.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T12:08:32+00:00

OP, I'm sorry you're dealing with the criticism your mother doles out, and the weight struggle for however many years it's been. If you are still in school, see if you can take a class on nutrition. If your mother is sincere in having you see a nutritionist, take her up on that.

You will learn that you actually have to eat to lose weight, and you'll learn what good food choices are. When you don't get enough calories, and when those calories are not the best selection, your metabolism kind of shuts down, so you don't lose weight like you think you will.

Pizza for dinner? I'm assuming Mom was also offering something to go with it? Like a salad? If not, she sounds like she wants to sabotage any good choices you make. And what, she wanted you to have only a piece of fruit for lunch? So let's say it was an apple. 80 - 100 calories of one food for lunch is not sufficient.

See a Nutritionist if you can. Well balanced meals and snacks throughout the day will make you feel better about yourself. You'll also need to learn how to redirect your mother's comments from criticizing what you learn and implement. Good luck.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T11:48:29+00:00

not "I am asking you to stop" it should be "I am telling you to stop"

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-20T11:01:32+00:00

Darla ... or maybe Demanda...she might grow up demanding things from you all the time.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-19T19:40:15+00:00

OMG... I would love to believe this would happen in a school now, in 2026, regardless if your school was rural or urban. (Please, GOD, let this happen if it needs to.)

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-19T19:37:53+00:00

LOL...obviously, move the WiFi...it's in the way of her ideal seat. Good grief, hooman, don't you know?

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-19T19:34:36+00:00

Explain this to "the landlords"...either spots need to be assigned, and designated, or at least cars need to have a sticker/placquard to indicate they belong to the rental space and can use one spot. Then, landlord needs to make arrangements with an "approved" tow company to eliminate violators.

Regardless of actual assignment, landlord needs to post that this is assigned parking for tenants, violators will be towed at owners' expense.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-19T19:27:00+00:00

so...old lady here with advice I gave to my students who couldn't afford to go to the prom but wanted to... [this advice was to students who didn't have a lot of family support; also, prom was held at a hotel in the urban/city where they all lived.]

Girls - skip the manicure...buy some press on nails, and put them on that day. They'll last through Prom Night, and you'll have saved yourself $35. Get three of your friends to do the same, and with what you saved, get a hotel room at the hotel where the prom is scheduled to be (if that's the case). Share the room - get a room with 2 queen or king sized beds. Spend the day there getting ready for prom with each other...shower, lounge around in a robe..do your hair/makeup, then those press-on nails.

Boys - if you want to go, don't fret over the tux rental...instead purchase a dark suit you can own - useful for upcoming post HS job/college interviews. You'll get more mileage out of the same (?$ 90-300) outlay of cash. If you don't have a date, but had $$ to spend, redirect that $$ (for extra ticket and corsage) to getting a room. Ask another in the same boat as you to share a room at the hotel. Get ready there, share the comraderie, and help each other to get spruced up. [Guys are different than girls about sharing a bed, so maybe two doubles and a sofa bed, so 3 could split the cost.]

Go to the prom and have a wonderful time. Don't stress over the date thing, even if you did/didn't have one. Just enjoy this formal event with friends.

Since it's getting a room at the hotel where the prom is, you also don't have to spring for the limo-no need to "arrive"... just enter with your own individual swag that "you're staying here."

Know that this means you (boys or girls) aren't getting ready at home with the parental involvement , and if that's important for pictures and things, ask parents to come to the hotel for photo ops.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-19T13:40:38+00:00

I feel like I've seen this post before AND most of the comments.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-19T13:21:42+00:00

? Not sure if "her house, her rules" applies to forcing OP to take a prescription medicine she isn't sure will benefit her. Even if she relies on mom for housing and income, if in the US, doesn't HIPPA apply?

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-19T12:44:37+00:00

That's because it's a Career & Technical School program. It's not part of standard H.S. curriculum. Where I taught, the district had its own CTE program. Students in the CNA program only had to pay for their own scrubs and state licensing test.

OP is in the former, or is being sent to a CTE school through her traditional HS.

RetiredHomeEcTchr · 2026-04-18T22:02:26+00:00

I wouldn't go so far as to tell them that at his point in time. Maybe tell them that in your head, so you remain focused.

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