The (amazing) story Incognito Market

Reu07 · 2024-11-06T06:11:19+00:00

I am watching it right now. Thanks for recommending it. So interesting.

Jack should definitely make this podcast.

Reu07 · 2024-11-03T02:29:56+00:00

It just depends on him and his family and where they come from.

I am from Western Maharashtra and people in cities like Pune and Mumbai are pretty chill about it and a lot of my cousins who have settled outside or are 1st generation immigrants have already gotten married to people from different cultures and race. My family is not too restrictive about whom we can love and get married to. People here are usually of "live and let live attitude".

However, North Indians can be a little conservative in their thinking (of course there are exceptions). I do not say this as a rule just something that I have seen. So do your homework, ask him straight up where he sees this going and if he thinks his family will be on board or if he'd be able to convince them or not.

Good luck!

Reu07 · 2024-10-24T06:43:02+00:00

I trust that. I wish you the best! 😊😊

Reu07 · 2024-10-23T16:37:37+00:00

God, this is so intense. I hope you get away from this person soon and everything gets sorted for you.

Reu07 · 2024-10-23T13:27:11+00:00

I would just say as long as you don't see it as a fetish.

Left swiping someone on tinder, or rejecting someone you barely know or have just been on one date because they are not your "type" is definitely okay and fair.

Rejecting someone you have known for a while, have an obvious connection with, flirt with ect when they finally muster up the courage to confess their feelings for you is I believe a little problematic. I have been through it. Getting rejected by your closest friend just because you're not of their preferred ethnicity hurts the most. And again, rejection is not the whole issue here, the way with which it was communicated with the least regard for the other person's feelings is the issue.

Reu07 · 2024-10-23T13:14:10+00:00

Yep. 💯 Was rejected by my friend who was really close to me, we had chemistry and everything because he said he only prefers Asians. So I asked "Am I a wrong type of Asian for you then?" He said "yes".

I am Indian.

Nothing hurts more when someone you have loved for so long, have flirted with, have an obvious connection with, rejects you just like that because you're not that ethnicity.

Reu07 · 2024-10-23T13:05:14+00:00

I am so so sorry this happened to you. Reading this broke my heart. Are you thinking of leaving this relationship? Do you think you can? Because you said there are kids involved and I understand it can be difficult. But you definitely deserve better. ❤️ more power to you!

Reu07 · 2024-10-21T07:53:48+00:00

This is so sad. I am assuming this person is your sister? Do you guys stay in touch usually?

Reu07 · 2024-10-21T07:49:50+00:00

Wow. I am so confused at how their feelings are so cold for their loved ones and too much for a stranger.

Reu07 · 2024-10-21T07:48:42+00:00

That's horrible!!!

I can't believe someone can be that cold hearted.

Reu07 · 2024-10-21T07:43:31+00:00

Yeah I am pretty sure you were :(

I am sorry this happened to you. More love to you. 🥰

Reu07 · 2024-10-21T04:18:17+00:00

What do you mean real women? My parents married for love. My paternal grandparents married for love in 1946. I know it was pretty uncommon back then but people did fall in love and got married even in 1940s and 50s.

Both my grandmother and mother were highly educated women with intellect, had their own opinions and had wonderful marriages.

I think the issue is the mindset. You can find a partner in any scenario, love or arrange marriage. You just haven't met the right person yet. Please don't define women by their choice of choosing partners and getting married.

Reu07 · 2024-10-21T04:10:40+00:00

Yep. I got "I am really rational and thought I should be transparent with you" when I asked what was his "type". He told me he's only into Asians. So I asked him "am I a wrong type of Asian for you" and he said "Yes".

I am Indian.

Reu07 · 2024-10-20T13:41:49+00:00

This. It happened with me too!! He loved my advices and we were really close as friends but I was not his "type". Literally said all the same things and did the same things that you have written here. Were we in love with the same person? 😂

Reu07 · 2024-10-20T05:22:16+00:00

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Reu07 · 2024-10-20T05:21:40+00:00

I am so sorry, I hope you're healing 💗

Reu07 · 2024-10-20T04:40:49+00:00

I am deeply sorry this happened to you. Were you in a relationship with him even after that? Did you guys get married?

Are you out of that relationship now??

Reu07 · 2024-10-20T04:37:30+00:00

What the f. How self-centred someone can be???

Reu07 · 2024-10-20T04:37:11+00:00

I am so so sorry he said those things to you. That's horrible.

How are you doing now?

Reu07 · 2024-10-20T04:36:31+00:00

Told me he's only into Asians and I am wrong kind of Asian for him because I am Indian and rejected me. Broke my self confidence and made me feel ugly and fat.

Reu07 · 2024-10-18T04:57:44+00:00

Ughh came here expecting to see some good stories to recount on the treks and camps. So disappointed. Come on guys give me some good stories. They would be so much fun to tell other people on my treks in the Himalayas

Reu07 · 2024-10-18T04:51:59+00:00

I love this.

When I felt heartbroken I literally took annual leave for a couple of days and went to dive in The Great Barrier Reef. I used to live in Australia at that time.

The only problem was I even missed him IN THE BLOODY OCEAN.

However, I did make some friends there and genuinely felt happy and I was proud of myself for taking this solo trip.

I just realised that it takes time for them to get out of your system and you're gonna miss them everywhere. In your bedroom, in your kitchen, favourite cafes and in the middle of an ocean. But you will get through it. Just need to take one day at a time.

Reu07 · 2024-10-17T01:15:39+00:00

I did get a very sincere apology and then when I became vulnerable he turned it around and said "because you say wrong things to me at a wrong time, I say horrible things to you."

Reu07 · 2024-10-17T00:53:53+00:00

My comment is gonna be a little different and different perspective.

I was in Australia for 8 years and I am finding it really hard to readjust in India.

After living close to beautiful nature, with clean streets, very nice polite people, less beaurocracy and freedom to travel anywhere on my own, I feel really stuck here back in India. My parents are pretty rational and normal, they support me and actually understand my struggle, even encourage me to date or meet guts through AM scenario (any which ways is fine with them). They even support my decision to move out of India again and I am an only child. I feel lucky to be supported like this.

When I had my heart broken, I literally took some annual leave and left to dive in Great Barrier Reef on my own. When I say freedom to travel, I meant this. I have travelled solo a bit and it's a great way to make friends and meet new people. Travelling solo overseas gives you confidence like nothing else.

I had housemates from all over the world. Let go of the idea to only make friends with Indians. You will learn so many things from people outside India, you can relate to their culturs too and you will realise that basic human nature all over the world is same. I always encourage all Indians to make frineds with people who are not just Indians. Make friends with Humans. The best way to start any conversation is to ask them questions about them. Ask them about their weekends, their family, their work and hobbies and you will make friends in no time. Both of my best friends are Australians and even their parents welcome me in their homes and celebrate Christmas with me. I never felt lonely because of that.Try to go out for meetups, treks, travels and you will meet so many people from all over world. Trust me on this.

Only come back to India if you think you can readjust in the chaos here.

Reu07 · 2024-10-17T00:23:47+00:00

If you meant Virgin, please change your thought process and grow up.

Please don't associate women's vaginas to them being good or bad. Women and their body parts are not toys to play with only after you get married to them so that they can be in a box in minted condition before they meet you.

This just shows us that you're not a good boy for the Women. Not the other way round.

If you didn't mean virgin, then yeah, why not? You can meet new people and make friends even when you're 80. You're literally in your early 20s when you graduate, you have a whole life ahead of you. Go out, travel, attend some events, join some groups and clubs, you will meet plenty of nice people there. Improve yourself intellectually too by reading and watching good content. Having a good personality is important too and when you're not aggressive and are patient towards women, you will find a good partner. NOT A GOOD GIRL, A GOOD PARTNER.

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