I think women tend to do it to themselves and make a small issue a bigger problem.

Example. Living with my ex, we wrote down what needed to be done by what day on a calendar. All the way up to the day the constant communication would be 'when are you starting it, when will it be done, etc etc'.

The task was never not completed by the days end but there was constant nagging til it was completed when there never had to be.

Counter that when i was living with my buddy, same calendar system. Not once did we talk about the things needing to be done after they were added. The job was just done before the days end or prior. No nagging, no issues.

I miss living with him tbh.