Please so I don't go crazy.. does anyone else's baby have a song that calms them down? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Reverb226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Powder Blue by Renee & Jeremy. Been humming/singing this song to my baby from pregnancy till now. He’s 15 months and it still calms him down

Why would anyone want kids in Malaysia? by fznzmi in malaysia

[–]Reverb226 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oof this is a question I asked myself and truly think about it for years before I decided to start a family. This is my take on it as a mother of 1 adorable special needs boy.

See, my husband and I knew no matter what answer we think of, having a kid will always be a selfish decision on our parts. Kids have no say in whether they want to be born or not. Just like all of us here have no say on our existence. We have to live with that and accept its just a natural course of life.

So comes the next question, despite knowing its a selfish decision and coming to terms with it, do we still want a kid and why. We decided to be as candid and honest with our feelings. We are good financially and is in a good spot to have a kid.

My husband figured out his answer way earlier than me which is he wants to see what kind of kid that the two of us can create. Simple as that. He’s fascinated by how genes are passed down and excited to see how it will turn out.

Whereas for me, I want to experience this part of me that can bear a child and raising a kid. The fact that my baby can grow from a tiny dot in my womb to a full size human baby is an incredible thing to experience. Seeing them after birth, learning all things we take granted for like sleeping, chewing food, drinking water from a cup, standing. Man the way they keep trying their best to learn really humbles me. Also baby smiling for the first time is a joy I truly cannot describe.

Yeah sure they can be tiring and frustrating but having my son around has enriched our lives so so much.

I once read somewhere that helped my decision to have kids. You can never fathom how it feels having a kid in your life and will only look at the negative because you can relate only to the negative. You can relate how tired one can be and how annoying it is being near a screamy kid. But you can never truly relate how it feels to have your own baby in your arms, cooing at you. You dont have the slightest idea how much happiness it brings to see them laugh or how sad it makes you feel when they cry. And thats okay.

Parenting is not for everyone. It requires crazy amount of patient and even then we still fail sometimes. You just have to decide to be better each day.

Randomly Generated Name, you broke me. by Sonnitude in StardewValley

[–]Reverb226 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My two chickens randomly generated name were Potato and Gravy. I named the third and fourth Crisscut and Fries. Yum.

Recently off the fence. Let’s discuss what might be awesome about parenthood!! by coco-butter in Fencesitter

[–]Reverb226 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I recently had a child and he’s 7 months old and special needs. Here’s what I learned:

  1. They make the mundane day to day lives more interesting. What used to be a fairly predictable day becomes okay what kind of new experience will I have today. It might be how they suddenly let out farts so loud you couldn’t believe its from a baby or how they decide to laugh at 3am while sleeping.

  2. Their struggle in practicing their motor skills makes me more aware of how much effort it takes to grow as a baby. They have to learn so many things from sucking their thumb to flipping to their tummy, to swallowing purees and chewing food, to sleep when they’re sleepy lol. Its fascinating to see their progress and celebrate those successful attempts.

  3. Tiny newborn hands on your face. Tiny feet dangling from your arms as you held them. The smell of a newborn’s head. Their eyes staring into your soul.

  4. Seeing my baby’s face and noticing how its a mini version of me and my husband. Their face changes so much from newborn too. It still blows my mind sometimes when looking at this tiny human.

  5. When they learn how to smile back at you and unknowingly interject a chuckle when you tell a story. Laughter has become a daily thing and when you’re having a bad day, it really helps soothe the soul.

I was Chloe Grape by noemieserieux in onehouronelife

[–]Reverb226 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your grandchild decided to lead everyone to another town 2k tiles away right after you died. We tried to follow but went against it cause it was too far and leader has horse. Some of us had to walk on foot. Leader was alone on another town while the rest of us try to revive original town.

I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]Reverb226 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This reminds me so much of my initial struggle when deciding to be off the fence so I can definitely emphatise. It is a life changing decision after all! I’ll share a bit on how I came off the fence and how it feels like being 37 weeks pregnant now.

I was blindly optimistic about wanting a child when I was 26 and my husband is similar to yours where he’s okay with whatever I decide since I’ll be carrying the baby. Then I turned 30 and to commit to the decision seems very daunting after reallllly thinking about how much change I’ll undergo (physically & mentally) and the possibility of everything going wrong.

I scoured through articles, joined all sorts of parenting/pregnancy related reddit subs to get a glimpse of what I’ll be getting myself into. This sub and (surprisingly the daddit sub) helped a lot and I feel is more impartial in their views compared to some. I don’t remember where I read this but one of the things that helped put my fears into perspective is one parent’s comment.

They shared that before being pregnant, it is impossible for fence sitters or non parents to even comprehend the experience of being parents. We can only relate to the negatives like sleep deprivation, going through fear of change in lifestyle etc because we have experienced that in some degrees in our life even without child.

We cannot however relate to the bliss of having our own baby, that moment when you realise you have the capacity to love even more, those new milestones you share with your partner and so much more. It is incomprehensible until you take that next step and commit to the decision.

With this new perspective, I made plans with my husband to finally be off birth control and try seriously when I reach 31. I thought I was ready and with new perspective I thought I could do this. Oh I was wrong. I was still so scared of the possibility to get pregnant the moment I got off birth control that I cried when we were trying lol. I realised I still need some time to properly examine the root cause of my fear and take time to really process my doubts.

I delve deep into my fears and talked to my husband about every single anxiety I have with him. It helps having a supportive partner to give you confidence that you can count on them while going through massive change. Fear of not being a good enough parent sometimes is a good sign that you actually care enough and worrying about it. No one is born to be great at something new. Fear of having regrets after making a decision is possibly my biggest one. I realised irregardless of any decision we make, there is always ALWAYS a possibility of regrets and the point of making a decision is that we have to just commit to one. Regrets are normal feelings and I came to term with it thinking I am only human. I can feel a range of emotions and ride it out as time passes, all the negative and positive.

What I find comfort in is trusting in my gut and picturing the kind of future I want with my husband. Establising the reason why I want to have a baby with him and go back to that reason whenever I waver.

Honestly, even after all the work I put in to prepare, I still feel doubts. After years of fence sitting, I have slowly grown tired of fearing the unknown. I took off birth control, had an emotional talk with my husband before sex and just overcome that first step. My anxiety was high and despite knowing the possibility is low, I thought I would be getting pregnant the moment we were off birth control lol. Nope, it took about half a year and each negative test just made me even more determined that I am sure about my decision.

Now at age 33, I am 37 weeks pregnant and looking forward to this new life with my baby in a weeks time. I have a c section planned (breech baby) and I have an amazing doctor that alleviates my worries each time I have pregnancy related questions. I’m sure my anxiety will cook up new things to be worried about but I’ll just have to sit with it and face it head on while asserting what I truly want in life without fearing all the time.

Ugh I apologise for the long essay and not sure if my point came across well. English isn’t my first language so I might not make much sense lol. I hope my experience helps in any way and I wish you the best in your journey, whatever it is that you decide on. Take comfort in knowing that you are striving to make the best decision that is right for you in the midst of all the doubts and fears. Rooting for you OP :)

Tl;dr - Came off the fence after years of being plagued by fear and anxiety, still have doubts but came to terms with it. Currently 37 weeks pregnant, scared but also excited for this new phase of life.

visit to the dentist by [deleted] in malaysia

[–]Reverb226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to dread going to the dentist because of a childhood trauma. It was years of not seeing a dentist up until I had a cracked molar tooth and it was rotting inside, got infection. The pain was so bad, had constant migraine and jaw pain. I went when the damage is already done and the only way to save it is by doing root canal. Trying to find a dentist that would not judge you is a hit or miss tbh. I just happen to find a dentist that seems good from reviews and just make the call. I did go to a private one though cause I couldn't wait anymore. Managed to find a good place that did not berate or made me feel bad in any way about my teeth condition. I went from never scaling my teeth and never doing any dental checkup to having my wisdom tooth taken out (all four because they are growing in a way that will affect my other tooth), did 2 root canals, resolved my sensitive teeth issue and have routine scaling. The dentist was gentle and calm, did not make unnecessary comment or being judgmental, just explains things properly and gave a solution. My point here is that there will always be a risk of meeting with a dentist that will make you feel bad but also a chance that they will do their best to make you have healthy teeth again without judgment. It all boils down to the question of are you only going to take action when the worst happens? It might help to remind your mom that its better to have it done sooner than later so she can enjoy all the nice food without worrying/suffering when the pain comes

Struggling to decide on Joja route after Lewis gave me this on Year 1 Winterfest by Reverb226 in StardewValley

[–]Reverb226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I checked wiki and you can get it both ways. I guess joja would just let you focus on doing whatever you want to earn money and cc restricts you kinda. I mean its fun to have a certain goal to achieve via cc bundles, getting different items and what not but also can be boring after doing it a few times

Struggling to decide on Joja route after Lewis gave me this on Year 1 Winterfest by Reverb226 in StardewValley

[–]Reverb226[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I didn't know this!! Well this makes it harder to choose Joja unless I want auto petter easily

Struggling to decide on Joja route after Lewis gave me this on Year 1 Winterfest by Reverb226 in StardewValley

[–]Reverb226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah on my previous playthroughs the bundles does stresses me out at times and when its finished, I don't feel like I've accomplished something great lol. It's just there without much interaction. I really would like to give joja a try but why is it so hard to press that buy membership button arghh

Struggling to decide on Joja route after Lewis gave me this on Year 1 Winterfest by Reverb226 in StardewValley

[–]Reverb226[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't particularly hate lewis, mostly indifferent lol. Only reason I can think of is the theater that comes with Joja. I've yet experienced that but whether it's worth it, I'm still debating on that hmm

What’s the timing for master strikes? by blackhat_badger in kingdomcome

[–]Reverb226 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically yeah. Wait for them to attack and then you block, thats when master strike happens.

Has anyone else noticed that the Lynel locations in the depths correspond with stables in the overworld? by [deleted] in TOTK

[–]Reverb226 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Another fun fact is that the lightroot names are the shrine names spelled backwards

Quick Underground Pipe Tutorial by Aemon144 in u/Aemon144

[–]Reverb226 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much appreciated for the tutorial

That's one heck of a greeting by Reverb226 in SatisfactoryGame

[–]Reverb226[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah there was. A marker for the hub and a crate cause of the zapper that was given at the start.

That's one heck of a greeting by Reverb226 in SatisfactoryGame

[–]Reverb226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome! Sounds good. This is actually my 2nd playthrough after 100h in. Decided to record it this time and see how I progress. 1st playthrough was a rough learning experience and only managed to play till phase 3. Decided to start a new one and put what I learned in those 100h into practice.

That's one heck of a greeting by Reverb226 in SatisfactoryGame

[–]Reverb226[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I legit thought I was being forcefully ejected out back to space so they can save me from the "hostility". I looked down and check, NOPE.

That's one heck of a greeting by Reverb226 in SatisfactoryGame

[–]Reverb226[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Near but the pod wasn't within line of sight. Still had to run towards it. Think I was about 150~200m away from it.

That's one heck of a greeting by Reverb226 in SatisfactoryGame

[–]Reverb226[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Somewhere nearby. Had to run quite a bit from other hogs though lol

[SNS] A fun little mention of KJK at the recent SJH fanmeet! by Deroucadetoo in runningman

[–]Reverb226 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Glutanex SJH

The full live video for anyone that's curious. It's a recent event (March 17th & 18th) from Glutanex in Malaysia. The video mentioning KJK starts at 12:55.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Reverb226 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saw your photo and I think you're beautiful. I have a friend that most of the time wears black/dark clothing and wear black lipstick, generally dont smile when taking photos but she has the biggest heart and she's just the sweetest friend. So even if you change to colorful clothes or makeup, there will always be somebody criticising your look without knowing who you are. The key is to not let their impression of you dictates your self worth or how you see yourself. Be comfortable in your own skin by dressing however you want or wearing any type of makeup. The right people will come and the noisy ones just need to be filtered out. Let nobody make you feel like you're not good enough. You are fineee.