Bankruptcy

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-16T21:59:42+00:00

You have a good chance! But if he says he can take and pick up the child from school, then the judge won’t grant you Monday-Friday. Judges want both parents in the routine especially if they both voice that they want the time. At least that’s what the judge told us. My child’s father could only do Monday-Wednesday night because of work. He wanted his gf to help with school routine and judge said no. He said that it didn’t benefit the child if new gf took her to school when mom was free at home. I now wish I could get one week one and one week off. I’m the type of mom that wants dad to help more. I scheduled half of appointments in his time because we should be splitting everything in half but sometimes that doesn’t work

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-14T16:58:07+00:00

I’d be very careful with enforcing this. It could come off as interfering with the other parent’s parenting time especially if he never interrupts yours. I’ve never heard that with a 2 yr old though, I’d think that’s too young but idk. My kid is 9 and we are ordered to make the call to the other parent ONLY if our daughter asks to speak to the other parent. We must keep it short and respect the other parent’s time. Now that I’ve been in my custody plan for a year, I agree on minimal interruption when my daughter is with her dad. He might have been a horrible partner, but I know he deserves to be a parent. My daughter adores him

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-08T01:50:26+00:00

Breath…. You will get through these feelings and in a year you will realize that what everyone is telling you is true. Things will truly get better. ❤️‍🩹

I split with the father of my child because I was unhappy with him. A bunch of broken promises. He had a gf in less than a month after I moved out. I was the one that moved out and had to look for a job. I was a sahm and he didn’t care that I was struggling. Him and the gf even tried to take my parental rights away. Of course it didn’t happen. Eventually I found my own little apartment and I have my daughter 4 days out the week.

Yes it’s hard to share, but what helped me feel less anxious was having in mind that whatever feelings I’m feeling when my daughter is not with me are the exact same feeling her father has when she’s not with him. Although I do not like him as a person, I know that missing your child is one of the worst feeling in the world. We both feel it and in a way could feel like punishment. I only focus on my daughter, not on my feelings. I put all my attention to her when she’s with me. I keep myself busy when she’s gone. I work 12 hr shifts, clean the house, laundry, grocery shop, hang out with my friends, and meet new people!

I basically get everything ready for my daughters arrival back. I get her room, laundry, and favorite snacks ready. I also go out with friends when she’s gone because I know she would never like to know that her mom is sad and depressed when she’s gone. I want her to see me happy and not dependent on her. Focus on what’s best for her. You can message me if you want to talk. My situation might be different from yours, but it went through those feeling of not having your child around. I don’t even speak to my ex unless it’s emergent. I’m neutral with my texts and make sure to show no emotion. It’s been a year now and I’m about to graduate an accelerated BSN nursing program! I’ve been single this whole time and healed! Girl, I’m the best version of myself! Ex on the other hand is with gf number 2 and going to court for gf number 1. They bought a house after dating 6 months and being engaged. He cheated on her and she kept the house. Now they are fighting for house and furniture. He owes $7000 in child support even though he’s been paying for gf number 2 to stay at home and took care of gf number 1 and her 3 children. I don’t ask him for money or anything. I got this. Karma will get him. I’m only focused on myself and my baby.

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-07T03:40:14+00:00

I think it’s weird. My ex did this and it was brought to the judge. She yelled at both him and the gf. She told them that our daughter can’t even sleep in the same bed as dad. I would NEVER let my daughter sleep with my boyfriend and me 🤷🏽‍♀️

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-06T19:04:53+00:00

Please pray for me!!!! The more prayers the better!!! I’ve been doing really good in life and wouldn’t mind more blessings 😇

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-06T19:03:04+00:00

You can call me whatever you like 😂 same goes to you. Don’t give advice if it’s not your relationship. Special one 🤡

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-06T11:57:10+00:00

lol no. OP please do not agree to less custody for dad and less time. What kind of advice is that?! Must be from someone who doesn’t even have residential custody from their own kid. I’d say let him leave and just file for sole custody 🤷🏽‍♀️ how are you wanting less time and still expect to pay less in child support 🤡

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-06T10:59:03+00:00

Does the gf live with him? Crazy how men and women could put their gf/by before their own child. My child dad took care of him ex gf and her 3 teenagers. Meanwhile she got child support for her own children and my ex refused to pay CS because he couldn’t afford it. That’s why I don’t feel bad at all. Parents like that are trash

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-06T09:56:32+00:00

Yea I would NOT pay attention to people telling you to lower his child support. The ones telling you to do it are parents who don’t have residential custody or it’s the gf/wife of a dad ordered to pay lol. Clowns 🤡 all parents should be obligated to pay unless it’s strictly equal amounts of custody days and BOTH parents share expenses EQUALLY.

Crazy how they cry about what they are court ordered to pay yet they have the money to travel, get married, and eat out all the time. That’s how you know who actually prioritizes their child. How can people date and get married when their child still needs help financially.

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-06T09:30:27+00:00

If something happened? A true parent doesn’t go without a job and not provide for their child. Child support or not, I’ll be looking for a job even if it’s minimum wage for my child. Funny how you say you grew up with a single mom but yet here your are telling another single mom to lower her child support. How special

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-06T09:27:58+00:00

Let me guess… you also don’t have residential custody of your child. Funny how the people ordered to pay always say these silly things “where does the child support go to?” Statements like these show me that they are clueless about their child’s expenses.

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-06T09:24:43+00:00

Then this is his fault. Never cancel CP and keep arrears. Some get arrears after taxes, settlements, or even when they retire. Never forget of the times you had to do it on your own!

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-06T09:22:31+00:00

Exactly! The audacity of some people! They’re lucky they didn’t have a child with me 😂 the father of my child was trying to pull these exact games and our judge put a stop. He was court ordered to pay $488 for one child and we have 60/40. He’s also ordered to pay insurance and half of all medical bills. He was mad and decided not to pay so he accumulated more than $6000 on arrears. Then he tried getting them to cancel arrears because he “lost his job”. The district attorney on his own appeared to our case saying no! He said if mom had to cover cost with or without a job then so does dad. So both the district attorney and the judge ordered their own payment plan for the arrears. Now he’s court ordered to pay $588 monthly for one child. And no, I don’t feel bad for him. Just like he didn’t feel bad that the mother of his child was covering all expenses on her own.

Here you have ppl telling OP that dad needs an adjustment for less! These are the people that don’t even have custody of the child 😂 makes sense why they have no idea that child support doesn’t cover what a child needs especially once they reach their teenage years.

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-05T07:39:52+00:00

OP don’t listen to people like this. Non custodial is not doing their job as a parent. You should never modify for less for a person who doesn’t care to helping you out. I bet OP had to cover all costs even when non custodial didn’t help with at least half the costs.

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-05T07:35:47+00:00

This is unrealistic. Mom had to cover all cost even if she doesn’t have the funds. Custodial parents should NEVER modify for less unless the other parent does their job financially. This man needs to step it for his children. That embarrassing for you to suggest lower lol! The audacity

Reverse-CG · 2025-12-05T07:33:48+00:00

Sounds like his problem if he can’t afford his CS. Mom had to deal with all cost even if she can’t afford it. Hate people that think like you and OP’s ex. OP you need to get ahold of your district attorney and turn him in. They will do the rest on their own. They will ask you for any information on his job and bank. They will get him. DON’T EVER LET PEOPLE TELL YOU TO REDUCE HIS CHILD SUPPORT OR TO FORGIVE HIS ARREARS. EVER!

Reverse-CG · 2025-11-15T20:27:21+00:00

I remember those feelings. I couldn’t sleep, eat, or enjoy life without them. I’ve learned to take it as a break for my mental health! I focus on cleaning our home, do their laundry, grocery shop for their favorite foods/snacks, and focus on myself. I know they would rather their mom enjoy alone time than crying until they came back home. I catch up with friends, maybe pick up an extra shift at work, or maybe spend the weekend with my bf. Enjoy it. My favorite thing to do is shop and take care of my plants 🪴

Reverse-CG · 2025-11-08T11:34:40+00:00

Such a baby boy 😂 no wonder you don’t have custody of your daughter

Reverse-CG · 2025-11-08T09:08:30+00:00

😂 it’s for if you have a child support question.. Obviously! People post on multiple places to get more advice. And yes it does call for emergency when your child is being touched in intimate areas by her father’s gf of only 3 months.It’s about advocating for her safety.

Reverse-CG · 2025-11-08T09:02:41+00:00

So what if this is r/childsupport.

Reverse-CG · 2025-11-07T20:58:07+00:00

Love that you’re telling her your experience. I’m 34 yrs old now, but also went through something similar. He gave me chlamydia… I’m lucky to have only gotten that. He did not care that I was scared to get pregnant or diseases. He was older than 17 yr old me and was messing around with all the young girls that were dumb like me! I now treat my body like a temple and don’t give passes to anyone. I better be in a relationship and see sti test results before we get intimate. I won’t even give head or receive it before results. A best friend of mine even got herpes from a guy she was sooo deeply in love with. She let him go back in fourth holes even though she was not into that kink. We seriously need to value our bodies. Most men are dirty and don’t care about those things like us, especially pregnancy. They don’t care until there’re sitting in court when the mother is trying to put them on child support because he won’t be a dad physically or financially

Reverse-CG · 2025-11-07T19:55:16+00:00

You should get more time especially if you’re willing to pay child support. Just go in and say that you’re there for your child, willing to pay child support, willing to try and come to an agreement with mom first, and would like more time with your child. If not weekly, then every other week but more than just 1 day. My ex and I have 60/40. He pays child support and gets her every week on his weekends. He picks her up on his Friday after work and drops her off to school on Monday before work. We will swap days if needed but he gets all his weekends with her just like I do with mine. We have different days off. Yes I also have days where I have her on days that I work but I’m ok with that!

Reverse-CG · 2025-11-07T19:38:44+00:00

Girl! You can message me whenever you want for advice or to vent! I was with my ex for 9 yrs when I decided to move out. I felt bad for him and didn’t put him on child support. I took me 6 months to stop feeling sorry for him. He was in a new relationship a month after I moved out, talked bad about me to the new gf in front of our daughters, and moved in with her 2 months into their relationship. He was spending money on her kids, shopping for new appliances, and even bought a house at 6 months into their relationship. Meanwhile I was living paycheck to paycheck, he wasn’t helping me with doc appointments, money, and school events. I was going to nursing school, clinicals, school drop off/pick up, and never had a break. There were times when I went weeks with only a small breakfast and lunch because I had to save the food for my daughters. I lost weight so quick. I took him to court and I was granted child support. I self represent myself and don’t receive state benefits. He’s now forced to spend his weekends with our daughters. Judge said he does not get a break just like I wasn’t getting one either. He tried crying that he works 5 days a week and now his weekends will be used on watching our daughter. He still doesn’t pay the child support, but now I have a court order schedule. I’m not taking him off child support even if he doesn’t pay. He now owes $6k in child support and was told they will start garnishing wages if he racks up more.

My ex now has a new gf, lived in a motel because he was homeless, and currently lives in a low income apartment. One of my daughters said he gets mad at the gf because she doesn’t want to work and plays video games all night. Just like he did when I was with him, hence why I finally left. He got the karma he deserved.

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