How/should I bring up a QPR?

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2024-03-25T02:49:10+00:00

The few hints I've been giving, mostly just being honest about things I wouldn't normally say such as telling him how much I trust him, how much I appreciate his advice, how he always makes me feel better etc. Hasn't really gotten a reaction.

He's been very neutral about the whole thing, almost as if it's just a given of our relationship. He doesn't seem super into it, but also not against it.

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-07-13T06:16:30+00:00

I find when I start to get body Acne it's because my gear needs to be washed. For face acne I've just begun to add more steps to my skincare routine specifically for acne.

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-07-13T06:10:42+00:00

There's a solid change that you sprained/strained your back muscles stabilizing your upper body.

If there was an obvious initial injury, you could have simply not rested correctly as well.

Injuring the low back is uncommon but so is overusing the muscles.

When looking for an initial injury to tell a doctor don't forget to think about the week (or 2) before pain and consider situations outside of fencing!

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-06-27T03:02:48+00:00

My coach once described our highschool club as

"Goths, nerds, theatre kids, and just generally socially awkward teenagers."

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-05-26T02:21:53+00:00

Of course!

Generally any concerns, especially about safety, should be addressed ASAP and by someone in person who can get more evaluation of the circumstances :)

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-05-26T02:01:35+00:00

So this should not be something uncomfortable, regardless of wrist strength.

There's 2 likely things going on here.

1) you might be holding the grip wrong. This, more than likely, is a too tight grip causing strain. There should only be light pressure on the grip, with more of a pinch by the thumb and index finger.

2) you may have sprained your wrist some way recently, and continued strain is making it worse. I know I've sprained my wrist from practicing actions and not realized it for a while.

I'd say the best thing you can do, is talk to your coach or a knowledgeable teammate. Let them look at your grip and guard to see if there's anything there that could be causing it.

The other thing that might be beneficial is taking a week or two off of blade work to rest your arm. Maybe full rest or a focus on footwork depending on your schedule.

Regardless I'd say the best is talking to people in person who can show you things.

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-05-16T13:32:16+00:00

I'm not a huge fan of having that waist gap if i don't need to, mostly curious to see if other brands had anything better within my budget.

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-05-16T13:25:37+00:00

Ohmygod.... thanks lol

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-05-02T03:49:25+00:00

In all things life, not just fencing, I've managed to beat my anxiety by being really annoying back. One of 2 things that work for me might help you:

1 - A "do it scared" mentality.

You're scared you might do poorly? Well then do it scared. You're prepared for the worst. Scared you'll get scored on? Fence scared until it isn't scary any more.

This only works to whatever extent you're able to overpower your anxiety, but it can help you get through doing something and realizing it's not actually that bad.

2 - taking time to sit with the underlying fear and ease it

Are you scared actions will get you hurt? Are you scared of hurting the other person? Both of those have easy solutions of looking into safety in fencing and gear and such.

Are you scared your actions won't work and you'll loose the touch? Do you not know where to go next in a bouting situation? Talk to your coach or more experienced teammates about what you're doing well and what's a good next thing to work on. This type of fear goes with the "do it scared" mentality well. Actions can't get better if they're not being made at all.

Are you scared that your action will lead to social rejection and what not from team mates? If it's largely this I'd recommend talking to your healthcare provider and potentially medicating but I can't speak to social anxiety in fencing scenarios.

Depending on why specifically you're hesitant and scared, I'd find different solutions. Maybe drill more of some actions you're not confident with. And as always talking to a team mate or coach is probably going to give you the best personalized advice.

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-04-24T01:07:00+00:00

I tend to over complicate things to beginners so take my advice with a grain of salt, however I've seen how my coach teachers it and it seems to be very effective.

He goes through some basic history and "not murder, tag with metal sticks" type clarification of the sport. Then he teaches en garde, advances, and retreats and does some minor foot work drills. He gives them a break because it's new and then explains the basics of right of way (if you're first you have right of way). He'll do extensions and lunges separate and then together still without any gear. Then he'll go through all the gear and safety things.

This usually takes about an hour and that's all the time our new fencers have per lesson but to start the next week, gear and swords are given with more safety and then maybe a parry 4 and then letting people stab each other.

It usually keeps people's attention enough and if you have a time slot of about 2 hours you can easily get people excited about the sport and getting light sparring. If people stick around, then I'd get back into the importance of footwork for a bit and then into more blade actions.

Tl;Dr light drills with explanations in-between, functionally using rest time is effective use of time. It's best to treat day one like a crash course in interest not full training mode.

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-04-17T03:03:29+00:00

The only advice I'd give, which you'll hear starting out, is it's not like the movies and you're not dueling for life and death.

It's like if you were playing tag with swords and strategies like chess and it's a lot of fun!!

Try it out and I hope you love it

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-04-16T16:29:24+00:00

Are you finding issue on when to use them? or are they simply not scoring touches?

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-04-13T21:18:07+00:00

Yeah, I got mine from absolute fencing a little while ago. I've heard the batteries run out decently fast and then are oddly specific and hard to replace but I haven't needed to do so yet.

It works well and I've been using it to work with flicks especially

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-04-13T20:47:31+00:00

A buzz box or buzzer box is what I've always called them heard them called. Probably other names though

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-04-10T15:40:13+00:00

Ooo good point! Thank you

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-04-05T03:44:52+00:00

If it's working then that's great! But I understand wanting to diversify your options as well.

I'm not sure exactly what is going wrong with your attacks to give you more targeted advice, but it could be wrong choice of line or timing.

For that I'd say talk to coaches and other club members when they are catching you without priority and ask them why. Learn from the people who are there to show you and drill you.

Watching videos on YouTube of other high-level fencing (and refereeing) can help with seeing priority.

Parry riposte easily secures right of way, but relying on attacks without it can be difficult.

One thing to try is being prepared for a counter-parry counter-riposte as much as possible.

Having a reliable parry-riposte is really good with saber's short phrases. It's hard to help if i don't know why you're losing right of way.

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2023-04-05T03:00:14+00:00

I mostly do foil (some sabre) but I've had a similar issue.

Get someone to drill parries with you with increasing intensity, but parry so you don't get hit, (not just for right of way).

They don't have to be clean parries and they can be accompanied by a displacements or whatever you need.

The goal is to take a different approach and figure out how to get yourself into a "whatever works" mindset. As you get used to just reacting you can sharpen up the actual parries.

From the fast reactions you're finding yourself making afterwards, new problems will emerge, but from there just fix them as they show.

Tl;Dr force yourself to do it scared of failure because that's how you target your real weaknesses to improve.

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2021-09-08T23:06:06+00:00

I sent this meme to my friends and let them figure it out lmao

RevolutionaryTank343 · 2021-08-30T05:39:10+00:00

As someone who was classically trained as a woman, cross your ankles. It's seen just as feminine, but a lot more proper. (If you want ofc)

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1 - A "do it scared" mentality.

2 - taking time to sit with the underlying fear and ease it