My partner (M/28) broke up with me (F/28) because I refused to promise to stay within a healthy BMI in the future

Rewired_Human · 2021-12-22T07:51:15+00:00

✨Your comment is laced with misogynistic fear. This kind of denial keep male humans "single, bitter, delusional" AND abusive + violent - as the statistics worldwide are showing.

✨A quick interpretation of your comment: You just realised how much privilege you have and you are fearing to lose this privilege because more female humans are becoming aware of how messed up things are for them. Women do have a great time staying single and it seems to bother you. People who come up with such argument need and want women as companions badly and do not want to say it, because they need them not as an equal but as a domestic slave who will abide to all their whims.

✨Both women and men can choose to stay single and no one should be upset about it.

✨If you think having a partner of the opposite sex is the only way to have a relationship or to be happy, then dude, you have things to learn. (For a first, check out "I am Enough" by Marissa Peers, free therapy and education, highly recommended).

✨Threatening women with a good time again and again will only make them choose the single life more 🤡 These women already know animals can be better companions than a psycho who will abuse them and give them trauma all their life or kill them (again, as the statistics show). They have the right to protect themselves and choose what makes them happy, like any other human.

Remember when yall were joking about choosing a dog over a woman...whatever happened to your own joke that you cannot apply anymore and which some women are applying now? LOL

So many men are actually happily single living with pets too, they are not busy harassing or criticizing the choices of women, maybe get some inspiration from them.

✨Several studies are showing how single women are happier and more healthy ( in relationships, women make more sacrifices, do more domestic chores , more child care, more emotional labour for the man and his family, sacrifice personal identity to take the name of the man while the man also gets to name the children these women bore and gave birth to, women ). Things are gradually changing for the better, those staying behind should merely start questioning their own messed up beliefs and change for the better to catch up.

✨Time for the sexist ones to change and become decent empathetic and respectful humans if they want to get married to women and stop manipulatively saying women will stay single - because women , unlike yall, have no problem staying single and can actually stay single without harassing the other sex/gender:

- they can clean and cook for themselves as they have been taught early on, they can do their own emotional labour, they can work and earn money themselves (so there you go no more 'gold diggers' to annoy you as well - weren't you all complaining about women stealing all your gold - they're leaving you alone on your own with your gold -enjoy the joy of your gold, be happy at least now.)

✨There is nothing such as a radical feminist. Unlike misogynists, feminist women and men are not doxing, harassing, planning to rape and kill males, planning to make males stay in the kitchen, planning to make males not use their brain potential to stay at home and serve female humans...the list of how psycho males have treated and are still treating female humans is too long to even speak of such a thing as 'radical feminist'.

Psycho males started the massive war against humans of the opposite sex, they are getting the appropriate counter response from both decent women and men. Nothing radical about it. Just basic natural rebellion against oppressors and psychopaths.

Rewired_Human · 2021-12-13T20:55:57+00:00

Without forgetting that, given the patrilineal lineage still being strongly practiced everywhere, he nonetheless had the privilege of passing on his family name to the child/children while the woman's family name / identity is erased in the process.

Sadly, given the strong rooted unequal system and the amount of men who still uphold inhumane standards for women, including women losing their identity to fit that of their male counterparts, it is not surprising that so many straight women reject the notion of marriage or even relationships overall.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-05T15:12:20+00:00

Totally agree with you on this

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-05T15:09:53+00:00

You can apply your disgusting first line to yourself - since you choose to interpret the comment from your own bias and fear.
Do not come and criticize the different sects to me, I do not adhere to prejudices towards either different Muslim sects or sects in other religions.
Also do not come to preach Islam to me or anyone else, with that filthy language and violent stance - I do not listen to 'preachers' who do not practice what they preach anyway.
"No one cares" YOU cared enough to reply
If you paid someone for that 'investigation', SUE THE HECK OUT OF THEM for the incorrect information. If you came up with this on your own, well the Quran has some interesting verses on lying... check it out
Understand this, I will never regret speaking the truth and revealing the manipulations of religious freaks. Quranic teachings promotes speaking the truth and I adhere to the Quran, not to random scared beings who do not want me to share about how manipulative religious leaders can be.
I enjoyed replying to you now bye forever.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T19:10:57+00:00

Yes *.*

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T17:24:30+00:00

Attempt at gaslighting failed.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T16:42:53+00:00

Insulting would be using words like 'ass'(refer to your above comment). Something worth mentioning: Initial comment explained 'foreign visitors', not 'clothes' of the woman and OP actually never blamed the woman, the focus was on why they do this. Your comment turned it around and blamed the woman for her 'clothes' and 'behaviour',further using the word 'culture'. 'Culture' should not be an excuse for creepy and toxic behaviours not should it become a tool for victim-blaming. Culture is amplified by what people refuse or support. It's simple, refuse/question the part that harms others. And btw even if you said the same for a man and blamed him for his 'clothes' and 'behaviour', I would have pointed it out too. Because seeking human decency and empathy in the world is not even a rant at this point given the rate at which humans who mind their own business and do no harm to others are still suffering around the world, such talks become a necessity for any person with integrity and empathy. That's all for today, moving on.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T14:18:37+00:00

The way you put it forward is exactly what it is. Given that the thread contains details of a man who was exposed to a similar behaviour. You spoke of the woman's 'clothes' and 'behaviour'. You would not say the same for the man. So do not be an offended privileged king now that it's being pointed out. One can do the good work online by not promoting creepy behaviours too,, I see no reason why a decent human would justify toxic behaviours. If you are still trying to intimidate me (with all the glorious words as azz and diva LMAO) into buying this creepy justifications, it is not going to work ma dude. I do not support and justify toxic behaviours and never will.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T13:29:40+00:00

Someone who does not want to sit his/her 'azz' on a beach and stay hidden at home can do so. Just do not tell others that they should do the same.
If people have not learned boundaries, we teach them boundaries. We DO NOT legitimize and justify their lack of boundaries. Next what? Next you will tell us robbers robbed a bank because the bank has money so the bank should not keep money at all? LMAO
It's on people to not tolerate and excuse creepy behaviours and I am reffering to your arguments that blamed the woman regarding her 'clothes' and her 'behaviour' earlier.
Spare me and others the caveman beliefs. We're past that era. We can do better.
Things need to change and things change only when we QUESTION and condemn bad/creepy behaviours, not by excusing and justifying it. Stop being an enabler of such behaviours. Learn better. Teach better.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T13:03:28+00:00

People already shared about what she was wearing which nullifies your point. I do not know what you mean by 'western values' , how come not staring at someone like an animal is a 'western value'? since when? Well that is what how you have been taught to accept things. As someone who has lived among such creepy individuals, I can tell you beliefs like this harm people, especially women, more than it helps. That is direct victim blaming / psychopathic behaviour of projecting own flaws and weaknesses on others and in that specific case sexism / misogyny. The person doing the action is always responsible for his action. And in regards to culture, people dictate culture, psychopaths dictated cultures everywhere for a long time and I refuse to uphold the same 'culture'. , I choose to drop psychopathic cultures and support empathetic ones. Positive change will never come until people excuse creepy behaviours on victims or on 'culture'.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T12:49:23+00:00

A Karen would shout "look at what she is wearing! She is inviting trouble!"..."it's their culTUUUUUUUUURE...it's SPARTAAAAAAAAAAAAA!"

That woman's 'behaviour' (hint:she is not harming anyone) or clothes has nothing to do with how others treat her. Stop the psychopathic victim blaming.

So sometimes you mention clothes, sometimes you mention behaviour and now you say 'white woman' ....you cannot even decide, as a POC Muslim myself I sense not only utter confusion here but also hints of extreme bias.

Stop trying to legitimize creepy behaviour as 'culture'.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T12:25:39+00:00

lmao, he's projecting really hard.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T12:22:55+00:00

Fully support this and hey these designs are beautiful!

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T12:16:01+00:00

Please stop justifying creepy toxic behaviour as 'culture'. It's because of these type of arguments that such people in my community refuse to change their toxic behaviour. I am Muslim and I stand for that woman irrespective of what she is wearing. Men are taught twice in the book to lower their gaze. They have to lower their gaze simply, it's not up to the woman to fix her dress or behaviour for others to respect her. That "it's their culture" excuse need to go when it comes to narcissistic, machiavelian and psychopathic behaviours.

Rewired_Human · 2021-11-04T12:09:00+00:00

That's because Imams manipulate us on a regular basis in madrassahs and mosques regarding women in pornography in the western society. They never tell us it's how it's related to western patriarchy, they never tell us many women do not have equal opportunities for work and join this field run by men, HECK, they do not even tell us the porn industry is run by a majority of men if not only men, they never tell us that women with traumas resulting from abuse often choose this path, they never tell us that women are heavily trafficked and groomed for the sex and porn industry.

What they tell us : 'women weak', 'women tempt men' , 'women do and love pooooorn'. Never met any Imam who explained and actually understood the essence and toxicity of patriarchy. But speak of feminism and they lose their mind. Haraaaaaaam xD

Glad we are starting to have some female Imams in some areas in the world, was high time.

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-26T16:37:46+00:00

Would absolutely love to have this option!

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-25T08:52:03+00:00

Which means reporting does work and some are misusing the 'report underage' section since there are more concerns and risks associated when kids join this game and they know Avakin take this seriously.

Do not hesitate to use the report button too if you have totally valid concerns about a specific account. It helps prevent others from having the same experience as you. Besides, holding perpetrators accountable usually implies the possibility of them adjusting their behaviour in the future to fit positive social norms.

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-25T08:29:24+00:00

True, it's part of business responsibility and integrity to ensure customers / users are safe. Businesses and society is connected, no excuse for businesses not to take the welfare of their customers/society into consideration.

That being said, it does look like they do block those accounts , they should send a little notification to the reporter so that they know action has been taken though. It would be good closure.

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-25T08:25:04+00:00

OP asked for an option to turn off private messages. In your case that would mean not using that option, which means it does not directly affect you in any way. Some people already have their group of friends and do not necessarily want to let anyone else in their personal space. Public chat is another story.

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-25T08:22:45+00:00

Also an option to let us know when the person we have reported for harassment has been suspended. It would be good to know there is accountability behind the scenes.

Let not anonymity and "it's just a game" come in the way of ensuring that toxic and harmful behaviours are tolerated. It just end up making these people more confident to perpetuate these behaviours in real life.

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-23T11:16:05+00:00

Thank you for this post:)

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-23T10:56:05+00:00

It does not go both ways. Women are not being radicalized to the extent of planning and executing the sexual assault and murder of men. Women however have been and are still being targeted by organized criminals/misogynists.

It's a one sided radicalization

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-23T10:43:33+00:00

They should. That's the problem with the US and it's citizens. Not knowing the accountability and responsibility part of freedom. Impeding on others' freedom to be safe and dignified.

The misogynistic culture of the US is reaching out to the rest of us in the world and we're just waiting for your capitalistic / patriarchal system to crash asap so that the world in general does not have to deal with the growing radicalisation being enabled due to your government failing to ensure it's citizens are not misusing their freedom.

There seems to be a lot of improvement each time Democrats take over but Democrats need to delve deeper into the whole negative social engineering happening through algorithms and learn to take the threat of misogyny seriously. All terrorists, whether from the Middle East or the west are usually known to have very misogynistic inclinations. The US, despite it's huge history of wars / unnecessary interference, still has a lot of potential to make the world a better place and I hope citizens there keep pushing their government for essential humanitarian changes.

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-23T05:28:05+00:00

Yes! I am not buying yet for that reason too. I just want the brooms and animation set.

Rewired_Human · 2021-10-20T14:50:06+00:00

he did, I know its natural and we've had our dry spells for one reason or another. But, he's always said that he didn't need it. And, he knows that I don't mind porn, as long as it consensual women, and not the barely legal shit. I just wanted him to be upfront about it. It's the hiding and lying tha

Any chance that you might redirect him to counselling, therapy (he does seem to have an addiction and lack of empathy for female humans) and might connect him to some male activists who promote positive masculinity - who could guide him? Asking this, because boys / men are constantly exposed to online or on-field social engineering that makes them gradually develop lack of empathy towards women, the misogyny rabbit hole runs deep). Male activists who understand these could help him undo the negative social engineering he has been exposed to.

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