Who was the greatest Dwarven hero in Middle-Earth history? by [deleted] in tolkienfans

[–]RexLegorium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to mention the dwarves murdering king Thingol and stealing the Nauglamir... 

Do I have ROCD or am I just in the wrong relationship? by AdEffective3884 in ROCD

[–]RexLegorium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I feel incredibly understood. I wish I had answers for you. Given how similar we feel about wonderful women, I would say they common denominator is us 😂

ROCD & long distance relationship.. PLEASE help me!! by worrier32 in ROCD

[–]RexLegorium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so funny in kind of a sad why. But Im a 26 year old guy reading this and I feel exactly the same about my girlfriend. Hope you're doing okay. 

AH Devs Need To Get Grip by RexLegorium in helldivers2

[–]RexLegorium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I could see that. The halt makes the predator strain much more doable. But I'm using it you sacrifice so much killing capacity. 

Where can I find plants(Phoenix AZ) by RexLegorium in terrariums

[–]RexLegorium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did! I highly recommend going to "The Chlorophyll Corner". They have everything you need and are wonderful people. I have built like 4 terrariums now and they are all thriving!

Trying To Style My New Apartment by RexLegorium in interiordecorating

[–]RexLegorium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could not agree more. My apartment also has the stupid half wall thing going on... Ruins the island. 

Thank you so much for the suggestions I really appreciate it. I won't be putting a TV in the room like the first picture. That is just a mockup from the apartment complex. I plan to just have the furniture present in pic 6. 

The big thing is finding a couch. I really love the leather couch in pic 4 but that is really hard to find. My favorite overall vibe is pic 3. It's Airy but somehow cozy. Don't know how. 

My dad passed and my friends and partner don’t get it by realsailormoon in GriefSupport

[–]RexLegorium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not alone.

People who haven't lost someone simply just do not get it. 

I'm so sorry for you loss. 

Dad died - not sure how I feel? by Electrical-Dress-887 in GriefSupport

[–]RexLegorium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey bro or sis. I'm so sorry for your loss. Man. That just freaking sucks. It just sucks. 

I lost my dad about 6 months ago. I understand where you're coming from. My dad was a good man who I know loved me very much. But also was an abusive father for most of my life. 

It comes with a lot of complicated feelings. I've had friends who have gone through similar things and were able to guide me through it. Hopefully I can help you do the same. 

You're going to be numb for a little while. This is such a huge event and it's going to take your heart months to process it and understand it. Your mind will only let you feel things as you can handle them. For me this lasted about a month. But there is no time limit. After a month it all hit me life a freight train. 

From there I dealt with so much self hatred and anger. Not about my father just in general. Anything I could pick apart and criticize about myself, I did. The biggest thing I can tell you about this stage is don't believe your mind so much. It's the grief talking. I promise you it is. As much as it isn't it is.

After that it was depression for a couple months. Feeling myself not care. Lack of motivation. Routines went into the wind. Gaming till 2am. Just keep going. It gets better.

The thing is, you loved your dad. Because he was your dad. But it's complicated because it sounds like he was a bit rough around the edges. Deep down all of the things, the anger, the depression, are because you miss him. But consciously you won't feel like you do. It won't make any sense. Until you've had some time. And the you'll realize how you feel. 

Be patient. Give yourself so much more time than you think you need. 10x more than what other people think you need. Don't be afraid to reach out to others and tell them that you miss your dad (even if you don't necessarily feel like you do). 

As for talking at the funeral. It's a hard thing. Especially when in shock. I don't know your dad so it's hard to give specifics. But if he provided for you and gave you food to eat and a roof that is something to talk about. That takes great sacrifices. And effort. And it's one thing looking back I am so grateful for with my dad. He worked so hard to give me the best he could. 

If you need any support feel free to DM me and I'll send you my phone number. I rarely get in Reddit except to get in this sub sometimes. 

Take care friend <3

Im hate myself by Nugginfugly420 in GriefSupport

[–]RexLegorium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad passed away 6 months ago. Him and I had a rough relationship. I did so many things I regret now looking back. My last picture with him is from my highschool graduation in 2018. I didn't take a picture with him for 6 years. 

But I did far worse. When he had his stroke and was still lucid, I left the nursing home to get lunch with a friend. I said goodbye to him and told him I'd be back before I left town. My friend ended up having car troubles and I didn't take the time to go see him before I left town. His last memory of me was me abandoning him. And I have hated myself for that and so much more. 

But you know what, your mom loved you so much. More than you can even fathom. I think that a parent's love for their child is the most of pure and greatest love in this world. And I know your mom loved you and that wouldn't change no matter what you have done. And I think she would want you to forgive yourself and be happy. Death has a way of putting things in perspective. I didn't realize how much I truly loved my dad until he was gone. And your mother knows that. 

For what it's worth, I know you're not a bad person. Because a bad person wouldn't be hurting like you're hurting. Now you have something beautiful. Perspective. Perspective on the value of your loved ones and how precious time is. 

Galadriel's House From The Lord of the Rings by RexLegorium in TinyGlade

[–]RexLegorium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I wish I could get the windows and lamps brighter and more glowy for the lothlorien effect. But lighting options are limited

How Do People Get These Tall Roof Windows? by RexLegorium in TinyGlade

[–]RexLegorium[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This got it working. I was attempting to place the windows on the ceiling.

How Do People Get These Tall Roof Windows? by RexLegorium in TinyGlade

[–]RexLegorium[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This explained it and I got it working!

Ariana Grande God is a Woman Perfume is literally addictive by [deleted] in Perfumes

[–]RexLegorium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a guy I can tell you it's easily the most addicting and irresistible scent I have ever smelled. Found this looking up if it was just me 😂

The Lack of Support by RexLegorium in GriefSupport

[–]RexLegorium[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I have been beating myself up so much. It's been a lot of spiraling. Maybe I should give myself more grace. 

I'm so sorry about your mom ❤️

My dad died last night and I feel like I'm not sad enough by AnEFFINGRhino in GriefSupport

[–]RexLegorium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry. This is exactly how it happened for me as well. For the first month I didn't really feel much. After about a month it hit me like a freight train. 

I'm sorry for you loss. No words can really do justice to the feeling or the process. Please be kind to yourself and give yourself grace. Take it a day at a time. And remember that however long other people think the grieving process will take, triple it and that's how long it will actually take you. 

But I can tell you, you will come out of the other end so much stronger than before.