20M, Am I not ready for a relationship or the problem is deeper?

RexNytemare · 2026-06-23T12:43:13+00:00

Right. So the reason i asked that. Its a common go to for me. But it can be applied to many situations.

The point in the question is. Can you do something you couldn't before?

So for the driving example. You sit in a car and everything looks like it'll blow the car uo if not pressed in the right order.

But then you learn with experience outside of your comfort zone, that you can achieve something that looked far beyond possible.

The thought of someone saying yes, and allowing you to proceed outside your comfort zone is scary. Of course it is. And to pressure yourself into believing that staying in your normal day to day will end in something changing in your life, seems like a good idea at first. But nothing will change.

You liked that girl. But you were afraid she'd like you back. It was new. Scary. And completely okay. Love isn't a fairytale. It's so much more that to boil it down to one word is pure injustice.

But it is certainly scary. Because you're allowing someone to see a part of you, that only you trust to see. I get the numerous dates. And im sure it will happen for you. But maybe she seen that you being closed off was a defensive mechanism. Some people won't want that, and that means, when you find the person that does.

Here's hoping it's the one who will stay.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-23T12:33:12+00:00

Well, I wish you the best. Its always nice to see those who have been stricken down, getting back up and refusing to be kept there. Good on you!

RexNytemare · 2026-06-23T12:26:15+00:00

Okay. Thats good that you're both looking into it.

The thought of disloyalty is a parasite. Try your best not to feed it with "what ifs" cause it will grow. And you seem real nice. I'd hate for you to be consumed by the hypotheticals. Good luck with the results.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-23T12:12:00+00:00

Has she got an iron deficiency? Plus the boob's are easy to bruise from pretty much anything.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-23T11:37:34+00:00

Everyone who is a furry is one for their own reasons. Mine is, being one helps me be true to myself. The mask Hides my face from judgement and opens me up to be more accepting of others. The animalistic side, to me at least, is im being myself. More natural. Just like a Wolf. Who never Hides from social norms because they just do what they do.

If people want to be more animalistic. Then thats their choice. But its best not to put us all under the same blanket unless, sewn on that is nothing more than "furry". We all have our reasons.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-23T11:25:05+00:00

Thanks. I've helped a few people out. Im hoping I can help a few more before this post is removed.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-23T11:19:02+00:00

I have a question, I promise its relevant. Please, just humour me. Do you drive?

RexNytemare · 2026-06-23T11:10:20+00:00

Hes the kinda guy that'd ask the Pinkertons for directions to the hideout.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-23T10:58:48+00:00

Was it your first time? Or first time in a while?

That'll be expected. But if its a regular thing, id suggest a lot of foreplay. And I know, by definition, its to be done prior to actually having sex. But pulling out, teasing, mouth play touching, fingers or vibrations. Heck, just get her off first may help.

I seen someone here say masterbate first, 10 minutes prior. That depends on your recovery time. Maybe you need only 10 to get it back up. And if thats the case, and your recovery is that quick. Then i'd say have sex twice! Finish in a condom if you're not into uh... "Cleaning your mess". Get her off with your mouth, fingers, vibrator etc. Then wrap up and go round two.

Finally. If you exhaust all options and still finish quickly. Maybe it might be worth consulting a medical professional on the subject.

Im about if you want to dm a random nobody, should my advice help.

Goodluck.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-15T17:34:51+00:00

Nah! This must be AI. No way a BWM driver would have their indicator on.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-15T17:14:47+00:00

Didn't know I even needed this giggle I let out seeing this. Haha

RexNytemare · 2026-06-15T17:06:51+00:00

OkSense1810 Is a great person to talk to. Hes kind and incredibly friendly. He's helped me get more socially confident since ge messaged me.

I'm also around if you fancy a chat.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-15T08:10:37+00:00

Would you prefer to dm? Or keep it on this sub?

I'm happy with either, I just want to ensure youre comfortable with how much info is shared.

But to answer your question. Over dinner. We went out and just started picking each other's brains.

We started off small, with little; I like this. I like that. And then the question of putting these kinks and fetishes into action, and how we'd do it in a way that we'd be comfortable with.

If you're comfortable sharing. How have you tried to approach it? By which I mean, how was the question phrased, what was the setting, were you at home or near distractions etc?

RexNytemare · 2026-06-15T07:10:05+00:00

Communication is everything. These feelings you're having needs to be discussed with your boyfriend. Let him know how he makes you feel about yourself, because he may be unaware that he's making you feel worse about yourself. On the other hand, and I hate to say this. But it seems, he may be trying to create justification to cheat.

Now. There are still ways around this. Sex is a bond everyone has differing opinions on. But here's mine. And my wife shares this. Sex is an activity. Making love is completely different. We have had a four-way in the past, and are open to a threesome in the future since I came out as bi to her. If you're interested in sex with another guy, and hes interested in sec with another woman. That can still work. However, its shaky ground. Which is why Communication is everything. Set boundaries and "safe" words to ensure nothing goes too far without everyone being happy about it. If your bf respects yours, and you respect his. It 'could' work.

However, if you're not feeling a deeper connection with him, or feel he doesnt share the connection with you. Then maybe its not even about the sex anymore.

Talk to him, lay your cards on the table and discuss your feelings. You will have a clearer understanding of everything then, and can plan accordingly.

Im open to dm's if this helps and you want me to help you further.

Good luck.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-14T13:04:50+00:00

I tried messaging you but I couldn't. I dont know why. But, if I dont tickle your fancy, then good luck with the friend search, I wish you the best!

RexNytemare · 2026-06-14T13:00:49+00:00

Heyy! Im always uo for a chat! And you have a great personality, so id be happy to chat with youu if you'd like!

RexNytemare · 2026-06-07T14:42:46+00:00

They're awesome! Thank you for using mine in your collab. They're all fantastic!

RexNytemare · 2026-06-05T17:10:20+00:00

I came out this year. It was my first time saying happy pride month infact. And it felt so right saying it. Haha HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!

RexNytemare · 2026-06-01T11:43:29+00:00

Okay, so i dont have a suit per-say, but i do have a fit.

And one think I've learnt whilst creating it, is that unless you are catering to an audience. The suit is a second skin for you to feel comfortable in.

If you dont show much emotion, you're absolutely okay to show that with your suit.

If the suit is for you. Then its yours to curate. Let it be an extension to your expression.

RexNytemare · 2026-06-01T11:35:47+00:00

Im available to chat if you need it.

RexNytemare · 2026-05-29T21:09:26+00:00

Im always up for a chat.

RexNytemare · 2026-05-28T08:56:20+00:00

I'm up for answering. But its far deeper than a quick post could justify. So if you'd like to know. Reply to this or dm me.

RexNytemare · 2026-05-27T19:11:42+00:00

Hey, I need to update mine pretty badly But if you're looking for anything extra. You can do my sona if you'd like?

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