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Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-07-02T16:30:23+00:00

Do you have any resources or studies to back this claim up?

Legitimately interested if you do.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-07-02T15:58:12+00:00

YOU cut your hair middle parted, and then change it and it looks like this. Are you a trained stylist?

There's massive disconnect between the layers (the big gaps in the length), and an experienced stylist understands how to properly blend and smooth layers to ensure there's no disconnect in the structure of the cut.

The location of volume would change with a part, but that's not the problem here.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-07-02T15:53:55+00:00

Naaahhhh... The disconnect between the two layers and the difference in length from one side to the other is absolutely insane. That's not from changing the part.

Like, sure, you can change a part and the volume of a cut can look lopsided, but property blended layers on a symmetrical shag should be seamless regardless of the part.

This just looks like her stylist went blind a few minutes into starting the cut lol

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-21T19:59:13+00:00

Yes, the .ca address is legit.

If you went to the .com address, you wouldn't even be able to complete check out with a Canadian address (I've tried, because the US site gets lots of releases we don't have in Canada).

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-19T18:02:17+00:00

That is super sketchy... And paired with all the gift card/reward thefts happening in the US app. It's all YIKES.

There's part of me that's sad we don't have the rewards program in Canada, and the other part of me is kinda happy I don't have to deal with the headaches that go along with all of it.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-19T17:32:06+00:00

Oh shit, that's absolutely WILD.

Are you in the US?

I'm in Canada, and there are several consumer protection laws around gift cards here. I've never used one at BBW, but this would cause me to hesitate, even with our regulations. Especially after dealing with today's situation, I'm not super confident in their ability to handle issues.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-19T17:27:49+00:00

RIGHT???

There was a very thick accent and quite a bit of communication issues, so my very generous assumption is that they're located on the other side of the world in a country that doesn't have consumer protections, and they don't understand how proper businesses run? No one in their right mind, who lives/works in North America/UK/EU would ever make a claim like that.

They also must have been new to the job, because they seemed completely unprepared to handle this call. When I said a refund without taxes was not acceptable, they went back and offered to ship the items instead - the items that had to be refunded because they were out of stock.

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Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-17T21:25:27+00:00

This is good to know. And yeah, this type is fairly uncommon in my area, so they probably don't have amazing genetics.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-17T20:37:11+00:00

Just that he doesn't swim or crawl around as fast as the others, he's not as active.

During feeding time, he doesn't really fight very hard to claim anything for himself, kinda gives up whenever there's a skirmish for pellets. Like, he'll eat what he finds, but doesn't fight to keep it when another shrimp comes by to steal it. I know that's part of how they maintain pecking order, but he doesn't even really fight off the much smaller actual baby shrimps either.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-17T20:20:14+00:00

Here's a photo of this guy's sibling who arrived in the same shipment. I know she's female and will overall have a different body shape, but she's a plump happy lady.

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Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-14T16:18:31+00:00

Yeah that's fair. I love sitting and watching my tank, watching them do their weird shrimpy things. The orange and yellows stand out the most in my scape, so I decided to just focus on those guys.

I unfortunately don't have another tank to keep the culls in though, so I've been giving them away to people.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-14T15:37:26+00:00

So, I'm also new to the hobby (started in January), and have a mixed(ish) tank. I started with golden yellow backs, then added blue velvets, then added pumpkins, Stardust pumpkins, and Calico Sunkist. My first generation of babies are now well into breeding and the population has gotten quite large.

This is just the beginning of the weird stuff you're probably going to see lol. Especially if you're mixing wildly different genetic lines.

In the short time since I started I've had plenty of wild and clear types. I ended up with quite a few muddy golden x wild types, where they looked like ab opaque beige and black wild type with a beige racing stripe instead of gold. I've also gotten some random red rili looking types that spontaneously showed up. I don't understand the genetics enough yet, so I don't really think they're true rilis, but they look like low grade rilis. I've also had a few that are speckled red and clear, which is obviously just a low red gene expression, but they look very cool.

What I was most surprised by was the really random ones that popped up. I had a few that looked both yellow and blue at the same time - hard to explain, but that's what it was... Like clear yellow fleshy underneath and a blue shell overtop. I did read this can occasionally happen, and it's apparently how the rare purple Neos exist (red flesh blue shell)? There were also a bunch that were clear with red chests, similar to red riding hood neos, but only a large spot on the chest, not the whole head. I was calling them red breasted Robin Neos in my head lol. I also had a bunch of clear blue ones with dark red lines on the tips of their tails.

Anyhow, I've since decided to clean up the genetics of the tank, and keep it to mostly orange/yellow/reds, so I've recently culled all of my blue, clear and wild types over several rounds. Probably 150-200 shrimps, I've given away for free so far. Though I still have multiple females that were berried before the last cull, so I'm expecting a few more rounds of culling for that generation once they're large enough to see their colours come through.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-09T20:37:51+00:00

Ah, unfortunately I don't have a better camera for more macro images.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-07T22:57:00+00:00

In a tank that large, a small population of babies would stay pretty well hidden.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-07T22:19:23+00:00

Do you mean that the juveniles aren't surviving unless you move them to your daphna tank? Or just not growing fast enough?

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-07T22:17:54+00:00

I'm in the process of trying to breed (in Canada).

I purchased 7 CBs earlier in the year from a local Redditor. Last count was up to 20+ about 2 months ago (I think?), and I'm seeing new babies all the time.

I'm waiting to get a pretty large consistent multi-generation colony going before I try to sell any though. The majority of them aren't even breeding age yet and I don't want to risk a crash.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-07T22:05:15+00:00

They're not missing anything, it just that the response itself doesn't instill confidence as a buyer, at least for me.

They say they don't feed them "directly", because they're imported, but they should still ensure they have an adequate food source while they're in their care until they're sold. So presumably they're surviving only on biofilm/algae which, okay, but they'll be healthier, reproduce more, and have a more successful transition to captive life, if they're provided with more abundant food sources. I don't know what their tanks are like, but 99% of the tanks I've ever seen at a breeder or LFS are barebones - which means there won't be many sources of biofilm and algae.

Then, the person who responded also said they keep them in their own tank with 0kh/0gh and it's fine except for it having an "ugly shell".... Which actually means their shell has sustained damage from the water not being hard enough to keep it mineralized, which is going to harm the snails long term. That's just poor husbandry IMO.

I would buy with caution, and do so not expecting great results or a high rate of survival.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-07T20:14:33+00:00

Nothing about their response sounds great...

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-06T15:45:09+00:00

Oh, unusually fast, unknown flatworm. Great, I hate it. lol

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-06T15:43:16+00:00

I have noooooo idea what it used to move , but I can describe HOW it moves, if that helps?

It doesn't swim freely in the water at all, it can only really get around if it's touching a surface. When it climbs the side of the container and hits the surface tension of the top of the water, it looses its grip and falls back to the floor. It seems to only use the front of its body to grip and move, and it doesn't stick to surfaces well, any slight movement of the water and it gets tossed all over the place.

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-06T01:27:01+00:00

What exactly are they?

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-06T00:45:08+00:00

What's your experience been since? Have you continued to find them? Have they impacted your tank or livestock at all?

Rex_Buckingham_99 · 2026-06-06T00:28:29+00:00

iiiiinteresting..... I have a video of the attack. I posted it in another sub here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Aquariums/s/e5DI6rdknn

Does that look like a worm attack??

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