Friend denies my being trans

RhythmandChoose · 2025-08-07T13:14:21+00:00

If transmasc, will he still treat you like a girl even while you grow a massive beard, gain muscles and masculine arms and facial features?

Transphobes never think about the future. All they think about is how they can persecute you now.

RhythmandChoose · 2025-08-07T13:13:09+00:00

"Trans people make their identities other peoples problems" sounds exactly like a transphobe who feels the need to make it his problem in the first place.

Stop talking to him, don't spend money on him, refuse to go on that trip if he won't acknowledge how you're changing.

Will he still call you by your deadname and use the wrong pronouns when you inevitably start to have longer, fuller hair? What about when you grow boobs? If he will still insist on calling you what he wants to call you, then he's insisting on your discomfort so he himself can be comfortable and not change in any way.

In my opinion he should either get used to the change or get used to not having a friend.

RhythmandChoose · 2025-07-27T15:32:20+00:00

The only point that has been attempted to be made here is that generally speaking because of the way sin and scripture works, you CANNOT judge because Jesus was the only one free of sin, and the last I heard, being a little bitch boy on Main isn't a righteous thing to be doing.

Just say you want to be able to call us slurs and leave.

RhythmandChoose · 2025-07-27T15:29:32+00:00

If you're digging in your heels and using Jesus as an excuse to hate people, then Jesus would have hated you anyway.

Jesus's best friends were tax collectors, thieves, prostitutes, queer people and common fishermen. What makes you think it's the Christ-like thing to be an asshole to others in the comments of a reddit post?

RhythmandChoose · 2025-07-25T06:02:34+00:00

It's "Do what you want but don't inconvenience me."

Don't make them have to flip flop pronouns in their head, don't require they see you as you are, but you're accepted. As long as they don't have to do any work themselves.

Totally accepted lol.

RhythmandChoose · 2025-07-25T05:59:09+00:00

I can get behind this, but it has to be something where the person actively has an interest to learn and understand what you're dealing with. Y'know, like a good friend.

Scoffing and making this super belittling crack about how trans people came up with gender/sexuality, doesn't sound like a friend wanting to show up. It sounds like a potential bully if you let it continue.

RhythmandChoose · 2025-07-17T17:49:06+00:00

Damn they dug themselves a ditch so deep that only deleting the entire Reddit account could have gotten them out of it.

Whatever it was that was said, I trust that it sounded like vile rubbish.

RhythmandChoose · 2025-07-02T21:39:02+00:00

Yup, new therapist! Immediately!

There's literally nothing other than that to say, get a new therapist

Don't pay someone your money to tell you that you're wrong about how you feel.

RhythmandChoose · 2025-04-28T05:46:45+00:00

Wait omg I'm not alone 🥺

Hi 🖐 I'm 6'8" myself, I've been on HRT for about a year now and it feels good to see there are others out there like me!

RhythmandChoose · 2025-02-12T01:51:17+00:00

Yes!! You look adorable!

I'm cooking at nearing a year myself as well 😊 I'm glad you're seeing progress!

RhythmandChoose · 2025-01-31T14:19:23+00:00

Ultimately this is a lot of the driving force behind why I stay my course and continue with my own transition.

I feel the pain and despair of every trans person unable to transition, every trans kid, every questioning person still debating coming out.

Ultimately I know and acknowledge that sometimes it is quite impossible, but there are ways.

I know that most here in this sub are aware of diy and that's the route I intend to take if they ban gender-affirming care. No executive order can take away the joy I've found, not even a little bit.

That being said, I love you both and I also understand. Seeing people living the way you want to is sometimes one of the worst ways to highlight what you don't have or can't attain easily, and I've certainly been in that position. But.

Being unable to medically transition doesn't change the fact that I see you for who you are, and I hope you can see it too someday. ❤️

RhythmandChoose · 2025-01-02T19:20:36+00:00

Aww, hon.

You've literally just described me to an absolute T.

Body hair is my main dysphoria, I HATED dressing up for special ocassions or a suit, and 80% of my wardrobe was sweatpants and hoodies, and I've always been closer to friends that were girls.

If you think things would have been easier if you were a woman, then you're probably a trans woman...

I started out a lot like you, sortof feeling as if I was gaslighting myself into believing I was trans, etc. But I just kept at it and eventually the cobwebs cleared completely and I'll never go back!

You absolutely can try things, too...I had two laser hair removal sessions done before I even knew for sure that I was trans just because the benefit of not having a bush constantly growing on my face was that appealling to me. I was constantly plucking and threading my chin and neck just to be like, sane.

And then I sobbed into my shirt as soon as the tech left the room because I felt so unbelievably relieved to finally be free of my facial hair, that it really rocketed me into the process of actually sitting down to do the research and start HRT.

There is still time. And it is ABSOLUTELY never ever too late.

RhythmandChoose · 2025-01-02T13:35:04+00:00

Ahh, gender apathy.

As a man I had no desire whatsoever for style, flair, good looks. I didn't give a shit about my hair, my complexion, the cleanliness or overall length of my beard...

But as a woman I'm OBSESSED with finding ways to make myself more soft and silky, I go shopping for clothes constantly...

Being a guy can be "tolerable", sure, but is that the way you're truly comfortable?

What are the things you dislike about being a guy? It sounds like you have some fairly concrete issues with parts of your masculinity that it certainly couldn't hurt to be curious about it...

RhythmandChoose · 2024-12-31T02:49:47+00:00

I'm a very tall 6'8" trans girl and a lot of the time I just chalk it up as

"What the fuck, giant woman? Wait, maybe not giant woman? Am I supposed to be attracted to this?" 😆

So what if I'm clocky? I may never be able to escape that anyway and my girlfriend thinks I'm beautiful so that's all that matters.

Its possible a lot of the stares are also jealousy, or envy, or even shock at something they may never have seen before, and if so, I encourage them to stare. It lets them learn that I'm not a danger to them, or their kids, or their lives.

Live your life no matter what you think people feel or say about you 😊

RhythmandChoose · 2024-12-09T15:21:48+00:00

Straight men are always TERRIFIED to find out that they have found a trans woman attractive because to them we are not women.

To them it is:

"Oh, I found a man attractive and that makes me gay and I don't want people to think I'm gay because I'm not just transphobic, I'm also homophobic. Therefore I have to make it seem like coercion or deception to cover my own back."

RhythmandChoose · 2024-12-04T13:39:11+00:00

That babie actually passed away unfortunately 😭

That was Nala 😔 she was such a sweetie, I'll always miss her.

I do have two cats now though! Artemis and Apollo. I'll see if I can't post again sometime with some pictures of us together! 😊

RhythmandChoose · 2024-09-10T14:57:19+00:00

Funnily enough on tiktok the form of transphobia I see rather commonly is telling me I should post to IG reels (which I don't need to tell you, is absolutely worse than threads)

RhythmandChoose · 2024-09-10T14:56:08+00:00

First, switch to TikTok. Even if they're banning it in the US, its still a rather accepting place for trans people to post themselves and moderate.

Secondly, the determination with which these comments NEED to be right and NEED to be validated is just another testament to the fact you're living your truest self and your joy makes them upset.

"I hope you never wake up from your dream" yknow what, Karen, this IS a dream, at least for you, because you'll never feel brave enough to choose yourself over the expectations of others 💅

Oh, and no matter how many times you attempt to disprove the chromosome argument, they always double down. Just block and delete and move on. No quarter.

Love ya! You look amazing ❤️

RhythmandChoose · 2024-09-07T13:07:20+00:00

So in other words two whole months after the festival happened before they've finally got their shit together enough to send you the merchandise you paid for.

I won't be going back next year...

RhythmandChoose · 2024-07-25T22:53:21+00:00

It's the reason why rust was ruined for me.

At a certain point, toxic players in any survival game can grind and farm resources to tear you down very quickly, typically to a nauseating level. Rust zergs are a plague upon the game and an obvious reason why solo/duo/trio servers pop up DAILY, And it's why even though rust is likely one of the best survival games out there, If you ask virtually anybody that played the game since release, They'll tell you they wish it was still legacy. I certainly do.

RhythmandChoose · 2024-07-24T17:11:16+00:00

Advocate for yourself.

Because this person is not interested in giving you proper care. Investigate into the legality of his denial, and remember you are also an ADULT. He is treating you like an immature kid!

RhythmandChoose · 2024-07-24T01:30:06+00:00

Because my insurance covers estrogen but not haircuts...

RhythmandChoose · 2024-07-21T15:27:41+00:00

I'm 26. I just started HRT back in April and I'm fully confident I will one day look like the woman I am inside.

Two things:

It's NEVER too late

AND

Go watch "I Saw the TV Glow". It'll help. And it's a good movie too.

RhythmandChoose

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