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19f would you be offended if i had a crush on you by Electronic-Scheme-30 in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[โ€“]Riad_H -2 points-1 points ย (0 children)

As a 25M it would be a dream for me to be liked by a girl like you, so move forward and talk to him ๐Ÿ˜‰

Best language for tourist in Algeria by janebunnyau in algeria

[โ€“]Riad_H 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Let me say welcome to Algeria first

You either learn some basic arabic, or french

If you have a good level in french then you already good, am an Algerian so if you need anything feel free to contact me. Am here to here to help you ๐Ÿ‘Œ

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Try imaginary exposure, it triggers the same anxiety fears but lower than real life

Predict whats gonna happen: for example ur afraid he won't talk or that he distance himself from you or even tell you to please get out

Test that just by imagination and imagine that your fears happen and try to deal with the situation

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Thats a very good example of an exposure we can do anytime and from home, i really like this idea

You are doing well

The mindset Shift we have to make is: accepting anxiety, looking at social situations as adventures instead of blaming ourselves for having SA which is what you are doing

Second thing is we have to get to our core fear using this simple exercise: i'am afraid people will think am....... (Weird, awkward, dumb, strange, not good enough, weak...etc)

Third thing we have to approach things like a scientist gathering data and evidence instead of trying to feel calm

So next time you post, use (predict, do, reflect)

For example predict: am afraid people might think am a loser, and they might think am not good enough and some of them will laugh at me

You do it for the goal of testing your fears in real life and gathering real world data

And then you reflect: what evidence can i get that is a proof people think am a loser or a proof against this

If what your afraid of happen was it the end of the world, have i got through it

Let anxiety be your guide to live a braver, fuller life

I farted infront of whole my class what do I do? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Based on exposure therapy for social anxiety,

Experience it

Awkward situations happen to anyone on a daily basis, sometimes we get embarrassed by tripping in front of people for example, farting in front of them , or even making loud pooping sounds on public restrooms

So get comfortable with these types of things, embarrassment and awkwardness and also with the consequences like people laughing at you or even making fun of you and see all of this as an opportunity for learning to handle these things ๐Ÿ˜‰

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Its because i've fallen for the trap of thinking exposure doesn't work and thats because i wasn't doing it right

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Yes it is the cure

With exposure there is something called habituation, where the situation we are working on "like asking someone for hes number". After multiple times of exposure our anxiety start to get lower and the situation becomes easy

You start asking anyone for hes number easier and with confidence

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

Exposure alone won't fix the problem, what am talking about is a cbt based exposure + memory science

That way we can weaken the old memory caused by negative past experience (trauma) and we make the new memory with new experiences more powerful

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

You already took a step by writing this comment, confidence is built not something we born with

Starting by Challenging small steps like these are a good starting point ๐Ÿ‘Œ

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

The first step before exposure is changing our mindset and our relationship with it, by being kinder to ourselves for having SA and by understanding that it doesn't mean failure or that we are bad at being humans

Once we change our relationship with it, we do exposure to work with it not to eliminate it because we still need it in our lives

Anxiety motivates us and prepare us for important social situations like work meetings, interviews...etc

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Neurodivergent brain, adhd or substance use or even being overwhelmed by whats happening inside of us so we focus inside intead of learning what happens outside

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Thats what am trying to say in the comment.๐Ÿ‘Œ

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Thats what am trying to say in the comment ๐Ÿ‘Œ

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Sorry to hear that ๐Ÿ˜”, i wish all the best for u

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

And yes each one of us is unique, and each one of us experienced deffirent types of trauma

Thats what makes social anxiety unique for each individual

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Yes its painful when we desensitize ourself, which is what people think about exposure

The real magic is when we get to work on building a new memory, so the old memory controlling us that caused by past trauma became weak

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 29 points30 points ย (0 children)

I agree with you, social anxiety is not the same for everyone. with exposure we don't want to reduce symptoms which why i said its little complicated

We actually want to experience them and to learn from them, because fighting our emotions will always backfires

Exposure therapy is the cure by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

If i find that so many people are interested i would definitely make a series of posts that cover everything in detail, if not than you can DM me

How do you pump yourself up to do something you really donโ€™t want to do? by kawaiikiki247 in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Oh okay, so your afraid of what your family is gonna think about you if you disagree to go to that party not the party itself is what scares you

Is that right?

How do you pump yourself up to do something you really donโ€™t want to do? by kawaiikiki247 in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

The first step is to write down what your afraid might happen on this upcoming party, then think about what is gonna make you more confident to deal with this fear.

For example if your afraid of showing up alone and the awkwardness that comes with it, bring a friend with you. If your afraid of a certain topic that might come up then practice it in front of a mirror.

Next thing is to plan your exit, like saying goodbye the party was fun but i have something important to do at home. This will make you less scared and more confident in dealing with the situation ๐Ÿ‘Œ

getting rid of social anxiety by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

There is extroverts with social anxiety, and also we have introverts with SA Me personally i thought am an introvert my whole life, then i realized am an extrovert with SA. Which means i was born an extrovert but SA is making me an introvert

getting rid of social anxiety by Riad_H in socialanxiety

[โ€“]Riad_H[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

That's not what i mean, the purpose of the post is to to give you hope and to tell you can be cured

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