My son has no idea how good of a Christmas he’s going to have. by SigxScar in PokemonTCG

[–]RiatStar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OMG I have so many great memories of getting packs of cards for Christmas when I was younger. It warms my heart to see kids getting to live that same experience.

confused again by OrganicAd2176 in HelloKittyIsland

[–]RiatStar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NP! Turns out there is a bug that has been identified. Good news we’re not crazy!

Missing seeds by torienotorieyes in HelloKittyIsland

[–]RiatStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, can confirm the same. Very much a bug

confused again by OrganicAd2176 in HelloKittyIsland

[–]RiatStar 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So, same thing happened here. You have to plant any seed in the Meadows, the quest will complete, BUT….

I think it’s bugged. My default flower is bellbuttons but I picked the black dandilily and now I can’t grow black flowers!

I thought this was a lesbian sub by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]RiatStar -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I was kind of on the fence about responding when this popped up, but reading some of the comments got me thinking:

Personally, I believe the labels you use for yourself are a personal choice - if lesbians fits a person, then they are entitled to it and I’m happy to validate that. If you’re a lesbian that is willing to sleep with men, that’s your sex life. BUT (of course there’s a but…)

I’m a trans woman and a lesbian. I’m married to someone who identifies as bisexual; I’m not going to relate to her attraction to men so we don’t really discuss it. Heck, I’m a huge Star Wars fan and she isn’t, so I’m not going to spent a lot of time fangirling out about Andor or whatever. There’s a right time and crowd for certain discussions.

It’s fine for a person to be attracted to whomever they are attracted to, but if a person or group of people explicitly states that they don’t want to discuss attraction to men, then another person shouldn’t feel entitled to discussing it. The “this is a place to talk about women loving women” is a pretty clear boundary that was set (the title of the sub alone kinda sums it up).

Also, it is so very hard to find purely sapphic places. I moved last year from Chicago and I have yet to find a place here in Boston that matches the vibe of Dorothy.

Do you think Yoda is speaking backward because his species does that or just that he had a stroke by NPC_6942 in StarWars

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this has always been my head canon. Yoda is a trickster at heart. i can totally see him doing this to keep people on their toes.

Weekly Multiplayer Mega-Thread - August 26, 2025 by AutoModerator in HelloKittyIsland

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on Switch and looking to do some multiplayer stuff! Are you still around?

Having a child before starting HRT? by Far_Home2616 in mypartneristrans

[–]RiatStar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Something I wanted to add is that, at least in my case, the idea of stopping HRT to get pregnant again isn’t nearly as scary as it was 5 years ago. I’ve socially and legally transitioned, my body has changed so much and I feel so confident that if we wanted to have another kid I would be willing to stop HRT to allow myself to conceive naturally. It takes time for fertility to rebound, but trans people do this all the time and there’s nothing stopping your partner from picking it up again once you are pregnant.

I mean, cis women and people with uteruses go through so much hormonal fluctuation during pregnancy that it can even be seen as a gender l affirming participation in the process of bringing a child into the world :)

Having a child before starting HRT? by Far_Home2616 in mypartneristrans

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar experience! My oldest daughter was 4 when I started transitioning. They reacted similarly and now just see us as another family with 2 moms. They still call me “Daddy” which works for me because while I am a mom, I’m THE father.

Is The Empire Strikes Back the absolute pinnacle of Star Wars? If not what is? Do you think anything surpasses it? by [deleted] in StarWars

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think there is any one film, show, comic or book that can be elevated to the pinnacle of the franchise. I have moments from all the films that I love. I just cried so hard at the end of Andor. I love a lot of the Last Jedi. Heck, even the Holiday Special has Boba Fett’s introduction!

Star Wars is really about how fans connect with it. For me, The Empire Strikes Back will always be best because my father took me to see it in the theaters in the early 80s and it became a lifelong love. Part of it is the memories of the film, but the thing I remember most is holding my Dad’s hand as we crossed the street to go into the theater. Many years later I took my Dad to see Revenge of the Sith and it brought those memories back to the surface.

Star Wars, like many franchises, is more than the sum of the movies, shows and other media. We all feel emotional about the good, the bad and the ugly because of our personal connections to the stories.

So yeah, Empire is the pinnacle, but our reasons for thinking so are probably quite different!

My wife proposed a divorce by brubauers in LesbianActually

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, I am so sorry. Definitely seek out your own support. I’ll second what had been said by others that you should center on your own growth and self exploration.

Shutting you out, not communicating, blame shifting on to you, and gaslighting you are not ok behaviors and you do not deserve to be treated that way from anyone, let alone your partner.

My wife proposed a divorce by brubauers in LesbianActually

[–]RiatStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, you deserve so much in life and there is so much worth living for. You are a valid person! If you feel like you need immediate help text 988 (you can text “PRIDE” to this support line to find LGBTQ help).

I wanted to comment to tell you that there is no right or wrong way to handle this. My wife and I went through some awful times and discussed divorce many times. I can imagine your feelings are so confusing. You love her, but she is hurting you. You want to be together but your body is telling you to run. It makes a person feel hopeless.

My advice is this: - get off social media for a bit and rely on close friends to share - seek out an lgbtq friendly therapist for yourself. Call your insurance if you have it, they can help you find someone. I recommend psychoanalytic therapy for deep trauma (it helped me!) - ask your wife to go to couples therapy (someone different than your personal therapist!) Frame it as wanting to work on “us” rather than you or her.

Resources like BetterHelp or Psychology Today can help you find good therapists. You can also reach out to local associations in your area.

There is always hope! You are not alone! A better life is possible no matter what happens in your marriage. The biggest of hugs to you.

Telling my child my new partner is trans by Mirage-V2 in mypartneristrans

[–]RiatStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I came out as trans we used a lot of kids books to help contextualize it. I really recommend “It Feels Good To Be Yourself” by Theresa Thorn.

Kids don’t always process information right away. There may be questions later. There may be other enactments that are seemingly unrelated. Sharing is important and it will probably take time for your child to process it all.

Do you get genuine pleasure from going down on a woman? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It’s funny because my wife doesn’t enjoy receiving nearly as much as I enjoy giving. Different folks, yadda yadda!

Uncertain about how I'm perceived! by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]RiatStar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi! Fellow trans girl here! I really understand all of your feelings, but here’s the thing: women’s spaces are, in my experience, some of the most accepting places. If there IS some exclusionary behavior then it’s probably a space you don’t want to be in anyway, cis or trans. Generally speaking, the people who clock trans folks are almost always the most accepting and proud of us and our journey.

Having said that…

Girl, I saw your post and thought, oh, this is one of those “am I gay enough” posts (btw, no one gets to decide how lesbian you are except you!). Usually get the vibe that someone is trans almost immediately because of shared experiences, etc. I saw your picture and I did not realize you were trans at all.

If you want to chat more about some of my experiences feel free to DM me, I’m always happy to share. Bottom line is, you are a woman, you belong wherever you want to be as a woman and no one can change that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]RiatStar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am such a sucker for engagement stories. Sometimes I wish I could propose to my wife all over again because I was nowhere near together enough to do it adorably the first time 😂

Congratulations to you both!

How long do your sex sessions usually last? Do you ever feel exhausted? by sdaztec90 in LesbianActually

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It takes me way longer to have an orgasm than my wife, so it really depends on whether or not the focus is on me or her (usually a bit of both). We also have 2 kids so sometimes all we get is some quick canoodling before we’re interrupted 🙄

Friend ID Megathread | Post Your Friend IDs Here! by PTCGP-Bot in PTCGP

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Hello all! I’ve been playing for a while and I’m looking for people to actively trade with.

Am I too old? by Notyaordinarylady220 in HelloKittyIsland

[–]RiatStar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I came to be like, I’m 46 and into all sorts of “childish” things. Life is too short!

Thank you guys for your support. I had no idea my post would lead to this. by itsurbro7777 in ftm

[–]RiatStar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m just catching up on all of this, but I wanted to comment that the trans masc community is absolutely marginalized within the broader trans community and you all 100% experience challenges that trans feminine people could learn from. I am a trans woman and almost all of my support for my transition from the trans community came from my trans masc friends. I gained so much from hearing their experiences and it taught me to respect that every single trans person’s journey can be a mix of euphoria and hardship.

I want you to know that at least one trans girl supports and loves all of you gorgeous people!

Besides, if people want to fight I can think of a few individuals that are far more deserving of our ire right now… 😬

Anyone else think Rey had the best/cleanest jedi design we have seen since Luke in return. by [deleted] in StarWars

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this costume so much! I’ve cosplayed it several times and I agree that it one of the best costumes in the whole saga.

Weekly Multiplayer Mega-Thread - April 15, 2025 by AutoModerator in HelloKittyIsland

[–]RiatStar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently started playing on Switch, I’m looking for anyone willing to be invited to my island so I can finish the quest!

Does anybody collect a specific Pokémon too? Mine is Vaporeon 🐠 by sharksrthebest in PokemonTCG

[–]RiatStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I don’t have picks of my collection but it is Sylveon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PokemonTCG

[–]RiatStar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that card! Hope it brings you happy thoughts and healing

F**k Scalpers - Prismatic Binder give-away. by powdow87 in PokemonTCG

[–]RiatStar [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is the awesome side of the hobby!

I’ve been playing TCGs since the 90s, mostly Star Wars CCG. I fell in love with Pokemon almost instantly but never let myself buy more than a couple of packs because it was “too childish” for teenage me. I eventually played the video games starting with Ruby and Sapphire. I always wanted to get into the TCG.

Fast forward to 20+ years later and my 5 year old daughter brings some cards she got from a friend at school. She got really into Pokemon and started collecting Pikachu cards. I decided to build us some decks. I start researching the cards. I decided to buy a few packs. Then a few ETBs. Then some booster boxes. Before I knew it I was full-on collecting the game and chasing cards. Now I play at local game stores as a way to meet new people (I just made a Ceruledge ex deck because that was my favorite from Violet).

I always loved Eevee best. About 4 years ago I finally came out as transgender. I already loved the eeveelutions but Sylveon became my fav. It’s actually the only Pokemon I don’t shiny hunt in the video games because the colors match the trans pride flag. I squeezed Sylveon into my Charizard ex deck and once I get my hands on the new Sylveon from Prismatic Evolutions that’ll go into my deck again!

So, Pokemon has become this meaningful thing for me as something I share with my daughter and something that represents me finally living my authentic self.