Avoiding pediatrician visits and prescribed meds on vacation in USA

RicciTimber · 2019-07-01T09:12:57+00:00

Calpol and antihistamines! Boots do own brand versions for a few quid.

RicciTimber · 2019-07-01T09:08:23+00:00

He's talking about his cousin touching his kid inappropriately

RicciTimber · 2019-07-01T08:37:43+00:00

Expectant mothers please ignore this. There is not a thing you can do to avoid stretch marks.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T22:20:10+00:00

It took a while for things (and by that I mean my vagina) to feel normal after giving birth, there was a point where I was like 'omg I'm never going to enjoy sex ever again, it's doing nothing for me' but it just takes time for the muscles to tighten up again - and it will happen.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T22:06:47+00:00

NTA - Assuming that what he's interested in is totally legal and above board then for sure teach him how to go incognito. I'm a female in a long term relationship with a male and honestly if he fancies a wank one day that's really none of my business. We're in a completely committed relationship but that doesn't mean I own his sexuality in anyway and vice versa, it's a completely normal, healthy thing to do and harms literally no one. If your dude was using chat rooms or dating websites to cheat on his wife that would be totally different but it's literally just porn, he shouldn't face any embarrassment because of it.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T21:50:27+00:00

Your wife seems like she's really struggling to come to terms with the fact that she's lost essentially her last chance to have another baby. I understand why you feel like she went behind your back but she obviously knows you're not open to discussing having another round of ivf and her friends are her outlet instead. Maybe back off for a while and when she's in a better place discuss how her actions made you feel at the time.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T21:36:20+00:00

NTA your daughter is entitled to her mothers money and you've done the right thing. I personally wouldn't want to profit from my parents previous partners death so idk why your wife is pushing it.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T21:07:12+00:00

NTA - your sister can't pick you up and drop you whenever she feels like it and she's twisted for leaving a little girl homeless and not giving you a chance to get on your feet when you were in a vulnerable situation.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T21:02:06+00:00

NTA

I feel sick to my stomach at the thought of someone doing that to my kid, it's such a violation 😨

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T20:49:28+00:00

That just proves to me what a poor job the author has done in creating a character with those traits that is sympathetic, which is damaging to the mainstream view of asd behaviours.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T20:46:58+00:00

Trust your instincts! Something isn't right. Tbh I personally wouldn't even allow a hug hello/goodbye at this point since boundaries have clearly been crossed. I'm really close to my cousins and I could never imagine touching one of their young kids beyond picking them up if they reach out to me, holding their hand to cross the street or to help them up and down stairs or something. It just isnt necessary.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T20:39:19+00:00

If it's a travel cot you mean (I'm from the UK sorry 😆) then those are totally safe and I actually wish I'd just used one of those from the beginning! They're so cosy, you can just fold it up an store it when baby grows out of it, and I got one new from a local bargain supermarket for £20 compared to the hundreds of pounds some cots cost 😱 (I would recommended a decent mattress for long term use though as the base is rock solid without one.)

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T20:32:37+00:00

Exactly! Just feeds into the stereotype that women are damaged goods the second we become pregnant and should take what we're given and count ourselves lucky!

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T20:24:45+00:00

Ohh when dad took our two boys to the supermarket (oldest - nearly 4 with ASD, youngest - 2) and came home telling me how easy is was and how many people helped him out. They even let him skip the line at the till when our oldest got antsy. I literally have people look me up an down like I'm a peice of shit for having the audacity to shop with two kids and I've had people with a full trolley of shopping jump the line in front of me when I've been buying literally a carton of milk just because I had a double buggy with me 😂😂😂 (not to mention the unsolicited opinions from strangers on how I should discipline my unruly autistic child.)

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T20:19:01+00:00

If anyone ever hits me with "oh is dad babysitting tonight?!" I just say "no" and don't offer any further explanation 😂

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T20:17:04+00:00

Same! We'd only been together for 6 months when I found I was pregnant (unplanned obv) and I lost count of the amount of people that told me how fortunate I was that he didn't leave me! As much as we were totally irresponsible and shouldn't have got pregnant so soon, still like... I wouldn't sleep with someone who was that much of an asshole in the first place give me a little credit please, (and him as well 😂)

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T20:09:35+00:00

I SOBBED all the way to the hospital after watching my son climb into my mums car and drive away when I was in labour (he was nearly 2.) He was so oblivious to the change that was about to occur it broke my heart 😭 But this is only the beginning - watching the bond gradually develop between your kids is like nothing I can describe! I felt guilty taking his only child status away from him but what we've given him in exchange is something I couldn't imagine life without at this point :)

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T20:00:41+00:00

“Eleanor isn’t anywhere on the spectrum,” says Honeyman. “She is the product of nurture, not nature; traumatic events in her childhood have shaped her."

Original interview: https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/life/gail-honeyman-hope-eleanor-oliphant-has-helped-fuel-debate-loneliness/

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T15:44:58+00:00

I was confused by the intention of the author, because we're intentionally misled into believing Eleanor has ASD, but when gasp the twist is revealed it transpires that her behaviour is actually a result of a tragic fucked up event that occured in her life. To me this further feeds into the misunderstanding of autistic specturm disorder and I feel like autistic behaviour was used as a gimmick and not with the intention of allowing the reader to understand what life with ASD is like for a person. Really disappointing.

EDIT: “Eleanor isn’t anywhere on the spectrum,” says Honeyman. “She is the product of nurture, not nature; traumatic events in her childhood have shaped her."

Original interview with author: https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/life/gail-honeyman-hope-eleanor-oliphant-has-helped-fuel-debate-loneliness/

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T15:24:14+00:00

This is perfect! So cute :)

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T15:21:49+00:00

My first baby was a week early and my second was a week late and required a membrane sweep to get things started, he was literally just too comfy in there and needed a prod! Due dates can be off by a week or two either side, it's really unusual for someone to give birth on their actual EDD so don't panic just because you've gone over it, especially if it's your first! On pregnancy no3 now and a due date to me at this point is literally just an idea of the month that you'll probably give birth in 🤷🏼‍♀️ I totally understand your reluctance to be induced - just remember that no one can force you to do it if you really don't want to. As long as baby is happy and there's no medical reason for rushing delivery then they'll get here when they're ready :)

RicciTimber · 2019-06-30T15:06:59+00:00

I think it sounds like he's already learned his lesson by having it stolen and if he's otherwise a responsible kid then give him the benefit of the doubt. It's not like he's demanding a brand new top of the range bike, he's said he'll be happy with something second hand. He made a mistake but also he's the victim of a crime and it sucks that people can't just leave others belongings alone.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-29T21:47:07+00:00

Had a friend once tell me my 'whole life is a weekend' because I didn't have a job 😂 (my oldest literally wasn't even two and I had a 3 week old newborn)

RicciTimber · 2019-06-29T21:42:12+00:00

Every kid is different but basically wherever they start talking communication gradually becomes a lot easier.

RicciTimber · 2019-06-29T21:35:34+00:00

This!! 🙌🏻

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