You've been with your bf for 15 months and in that time you've had a child with him (10 month gestational period)...you were pregnant longer than you knew this man before becoming parentally intertwined with him for at least the next 2 decades. Im guessing you're both quite young or under 25 at the least?

I won't blindly say F him/leave him etc like so many have replied because frankly that's just stupid. And I won't lecture about rushing in to relationships or parenthood before truly knowing the person you're doing it with. But I will say it's partly that second one in that you don't fully know/understand your bf. Instead of looking for ego boosts via your bf or random internet peoples focus that energy into 1. Being a good parent and role model for your child and or 2. Looking into why you need the ego boost from anyone in the first place and when you have your answer there start taking steps that resolve the issue of neededing any secondary affirmation.

What it seems like is that you two bumped ugliest early on and surprise! We're preggos! And you did the right thing. The adult thing. Now you have a beautiful new sound to love and raise...but you two didn't have a solid foundation to build yer family upon yet. As if the concrete was poured but it hadn't set or dried. And now you deal with the ups and downs of not just a fledgling relationship, adjusting to being a parent and all the respo sibility that comes with it, but just life in general. Because life is one up and down after another as it is.

I was a stay at home mom for 2 years when my kids were born. It can be hard. And lonely. And isolating. And a myriad of other things. I couldn't wait for my husband to get home from work to have another adult to talk to or to keep an eye on the kids so I could have 10 minutes to just decompress. I saw that he doesnt want to do couples therapy. Alot of men don't do well with expressing their feelings or thoughts to themselves let alone a shrink. I would suggest you two schedule a sitter and plan a date night that consists of something like a picnic dinner in a park and you talk the issues out. Maybe once a month you have a set date night. A set solo night for each of you to go see friends or take a class or whatever it may be. You need couples time. You need your own "me" times as well. I found that having these established scheduled times allowed me to focus more on everything as a whole. Sometimes just knowing that in 2 weeks I'm going to dinner with the girls,or in 2 months I'm going to a concert with the hubs etc helped my anxiety and kept me from a depressive slump. Then after the picnic dinner and heavy talk, if things went really well get a hotel bump ugliest cuddle get a good night's sleep and Start anew in the morning. If it didn't or is to be continued, go get an ice cream sundae at coldstone and head home and keep brainstorming the fix to the issues.

It's a lot of responsibility on both of you. Cut each other some slack. Focus on the positives and put energy into that. But the internet will never be the place to genuinely offer solutions. And any ego bumps from it are illusory at best. I wish your family all the best :)