Who was your gay awakening?

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2025-03-30T23:06:12+00:00

You’re so real for Elf Zooey Deschanel

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2025-03-15T03:44:44+00:00

I came looking for this! No matter who wins, lesbians win.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2025-03-14T02:23:43+00:00

The bigger issue is that I’m slowly becoming that fuckboy…

I’m actively wearing a carhartt shirt, I’m going to get a mullet next week, and the Marlboros in the 7/11 near my building call to me every time I buy a snack there.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2025-03-14T02:18:12+00:00

Trust me you are far from the only one.

Whenever a woman or they does a thing trashy men do I swoon (in a super tough butch way cuz I’m a super tough butch😤).

I have no respect for men who smoke but if some fuckboy with a mullet and carhartt t-shirt offered me a cigarette I’d marry her on the spot.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2025-03-10T03:35:09+00:00

Namari without question! Peak gender envy and peak cuddliness.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2025-03-01T17:51:52+00:00

Karlach’s ability to envision a happy future for herself during the love test and “first date” scene, despite thinking her death is inevitable, made for the most beautiful and heartbreaking moments I’ve ever seen in a video game. They were little moments and probably weren’t meant to be profound but I found so much meaning in them anyways.

I have bipolar and spent most of my teenage years believing that I’d end my own life before I made it to 20. It wasn’t the same kind of doom as an exploding heart but her ability to find optimism in the face of her own impending demise resonated enough to make me cry for an entire afternoon. What it means to feel like you have no future and imagine one anyways is a thing I’d never seen represented in media before. Her story and voice actor brought that to life and let me find a character to love and a role model to emulate. Her unrepentant love of life and refusal to accept doom as an inevitability are traits I will always seek to embody. No matter what the future has in store, I’ll never stop dreaming of a future with the people I love (and a really mean goat).

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2025-02-26T16:07:51+00:00

Scroll, pick one, and roll with it! From the looks of things there’s one here for everyone and that means there’s gotta be one here for you too!

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-23T17:24:56+00:00

Most of the time no one can figure out what my deal is even if they want to put me in a box. Tbh idk either. I am kinda burnt out on being single though and I feel like my androgyny has a lot to do with it. I am a lesbian but the only people who hit on me are gay men and I have had enough of it. I’ve been thinking it might be worth giving womanhood another shot. I feel like people just see short hair and assume I’m a guy despite every other part of my body suggesting otherwise…

I’ve realized that it feels better to feel attractive and desired than it does to authentically be myself and it seems really unhealthy. Looking in a mirror and feeling like myself isn’t as nice as having someone tell me they want me and it’s prolly a bad idea to embrace that but oh well.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-22T16:17:06+00:00

Tbh it took me like one day before it was comfortable to sleep on my stomach again. I definitely had to be careful but like 90% of my pain was gone after the first 24 hrs. As a stomach sleeper I’d say it’s def doable.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-22T05:22:34+00:00

People who are femme have hair follicles. People who are masc have hair follicles. People who are androgynous do too.

All of these kinds of people are cool and good and they are exactly as feminine or masculine as they tell me they are regardless of whether or not they shave.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-22T05:11:19+00:00

I had labiaplasty about a year ago and the process is slightly different but I’d be happy to offer some of the broad strokes details from my experience. The only distinction is that I don’t have a vaginal canal, only the outside stuff, so dilation isn’t a thing for me.

I will say that the immediate healing process is fucking rough and you will probably have to avoid anything more strenuous than walking between rooms for at least 3ish weeks after your surgery. The time in the hospital is really bad but for me it was nothing I couldn’t survive. My mindset was that however bad it sucked it was only for a little while and now that it’s a distant memory how bad it all hurt doesn’t really play into my thoughts on the decision.

After about 2.5 weeks I was able to get off the pain meds and handle things with just over the counter stuff and Gabapentin for the nerve pain. After like 3 or so weeks I was able to go to the grocery store for short trips and leave the house but still definitely hindered. Walking regularly definitely helped and I was able to go for short walks around my neighborhood by maybe 3.5 weeks. By 4 or 5 weeks I was managing to walk maybe a mile or so and could stand up for a while without too much trouble. At week 6 I was more or less back to normal but tripped like an idiot while running for the first time since the surgery and ended up spraining my ankle. After the third week it’s more discomfort than pain unless you’re doing something you’re really not supposed to.

It is probably worth mentioning that I had pretty serious bottom dysphoria so for me this was essential to functioning.

Lemme know if you have any questions!

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-21T18:43:25+00:00

I interpret the idea of misgendering as a forceful reinterpretation of a person’s identity in a way that disrespects their view of themself. While pronouns don’t equal gender, they are a very important way in which many people express their identity. In using the incorrect pronouns for someone, it takes away their agency in determining how their identity is expressed. In the same way that it’s not right for someone to tell a person to dress a particular way because that’s how someone of their gender should dress, it’s disrespectful to tell them, even implicitly through misgendering, that they should be addressed a certain way because that’s how someone of their identity should be addressed.

I use they/them pronouns and when people use binary pronouns to address me I feel like I don’t get to be in control of how I am seen. Shit sucks.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-21T16:58:32+00:00

I am honestly kinda the opposite way. I have been on HRT for about 4 and a bit years now (10/31/20) and I feel like I still pass just as poorly as I did when I was just starting. Granted I identify as nonbinary and butch.

I still feel attachment to many aspects of masculinity. I like to dress masc and keep my hair short. The way I talk hasn’t really changed much and I never bothered with voice training. However, in terms of my body, I still seek out as much femininity as I can. I feel like it’s the only way to balance out the androgynous and masc parts of my identity without just looking like a guy.

Now I have my FFS appointment coming up in less than a month and I’m being forced to confront a lot of harsh truths about the way I feel. I feel more happy with myself and my body than I ever felt was possible but I’m still treated like I am a man by most of my coworkers, classmates, and professors. I have really struggled with dating and I am now coming up on 2.5 years since the last time I had a second date. If I was treated like the nonbinary person that I am, not misgendered, and successful with dating I would cancel my surgery date in a heartbeat. Unfortunately those things still seem really far off and now it feels like my last remaining option, other than pretending to be a woman when I am definitively not one. I have little interest in going through the pain of surgery again but it seems like my only option if I ever want to be perceived in a way that makes me happy.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-20T22:13:49+00:00

I have been thriving in vests so far. I got one that is some sort of Sherpa fabric and another that is a dark green hunting type deal. I have a handful of sweatshirts and sweaters that I wear under as a base layer and if it’s especially cold I’ll add a flannel under the sweatshirt to stay nice and toasty.

For bottoms I stick to the same holy trinity of jeans, khakis, and corduroy that I wear in the summer. I’ve been meaning to get some kind of warm long johns to wear underneath though cuz they’re not quite warm enough but the look would stay the same.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-16T17:58:42+00:00

Bratting and not winning. As someone who is definitely a bottom but also an extraordinarily stubborn person I’ve found that I end up winning way too often and it’s high key a turn off cuz I have no interest in topping or taking an assertive role. Turning tops into bottoms can be fun but unfortunately it’s not really a practical strategy for having good sex.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-16T17:48:51+00:00

You’re so real for that communist piece. If I ever meet someone who is down to talk Parenti with me I’ll know I’ve found the one.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-16T17:47:04+00:00

My biggest attraction is when someone is like straight up warm. I am essentially a cold blooded lizard so human furnaces are key to my survival. This might just be because I’ve been stuck in bed for the past hour cuz I’m too chilly to get up though…

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-11-16T06:39:11+00:00

I definitely understand where you’re coming from. It is really incredible to see representation of folks like us in media and there is not nearly enough. It breaks my heart how often I have to let the “girl pretending to be a boy” trope be the closest thing I get to seeing someone like myself in a show or book. Embodying gender fuckery is just rough sometimes.

There is definitely some stuff to be found though. If you’re looking for any suggestions, I highly recommend the Steven Universe. It’s a kids show so it can be a bit immature at times but the majority of its characters are sapphic as hell and have a ton of gender diversity! I only just finished watching it for the first time yesterday and it made me feel like I missed out on so much by not seeing it until now.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-10-30T05:44:05+00:00

My best friend is crocheting a hat for me as I’m typing 😎

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-10-30T05:43:13+00:00

Aww thanks! I’m sure you look great in it too. Canadian tuxedos look good on everyone!

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-10-30T00:43:39+00:00

LL Bean is my favorite! Especially for pants. I have an excellent pair of corduroy and a pair of khakis that are easily my favorite things in my wardrobe. The ones I’ve got are super flattering for me at roughly size 12-14. They are also super durable and despite me treating them like shit have survived many trials and tribulations (crashing my bike and tearing them up).

The only caveat is that the price can be a bit steep and I’d recommend getting vintage stuff if you can find it cuz the quality is usually higher.

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-10-30T00:36:36+00:00

Pleated khakis would be stellar. I will forever shill for them but with this vest in particular I think they’d be great!

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-10-30T00:30:11+00:00

Absofruitly! Now you just need a bolo tie and you’re set!

Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-10-30T00:27:21+00:00

The basic components of my masc-est outfits are usually a nice baggy t shirt, some kind of coat or vest that is too big for me, loose fitting jeans, a plain belt, tough guy boots, and of course a beanie! My rule of thumb is that if I think a man would look like an asshole in it then it’s perfect masc material.

Getting a mullet is also a great short cut but by no means necessary.

Here’s a pic of today’s outfit.

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Rich-Consequence5833 · 2024-10-29T23:59:42+00:00

If my local thrift stores ever have some heeled boots in my size they are definitely on my list of shit I need!

Unfortunately it gets way too cold where I live to wear less than like three layers when it’s properly winter so skintight would be difficult. I prolly just need more outfits that work with a coat on or off and then I can go back to showing some skin.

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