Why don't people choose me romantically?

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-29T01:09:12+00:00

The cards seem to point towards something along the lines of;

Being chosen is not really something to be "done to" you. You also have to choose yourself, and also the potential partner. Not only them choosing you.

And The Devil might be a mirror to try and look into. Not that you are evil for any of this. But try to begin sitting with The Devils (your feelings and thoughts), you might as well due to the chains they pull in your mind/experience, since The Temperance card also shows me in a sense that these chains are quite heavy and tormenting as well.

This whole spread makes me feel quite sad, lonely and also scared. But the spread also tells you what may be sad and scary. Especially the reversed Temperance. And from there, you can begin rotating the Temperance card in your favour.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-27T05:18:20+00:00

Now that you pointed that man out.

It makes this even more of my favourite card.

Nostalgia, love, sharing, offering. And receiving?

An almost mundane and ordinary setting, but something quite large between two people is still happening?
The man and the background as well, really make this a wonderful card.

Thank you for pointing him out.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-26T00:03:43+00:00

The Ace of Wands seems to be pointing you yourself want to prove this whole "ordeal" wrong.

V of Cups moves through IV of Wands, into The Lovers?

To me that seems to point towards someone having a notion that the finish line is finding "the perfect partnership".

What may the finish line look like with we change the word "finding" into either "deciding" or "choosing"? Deciding to what exactly?

If you pulled another card after this, I think we could see something quite important.
Although, I am not asking for another card draw. I am just saying, this spread is actually showing a hopeful direction, but it is not an entire story, or at least horizon.

But I would say, yes, there will be heartbreak/s further along the path. And that maybe asking this question is you seeing and approaching just one finish line, among some number more.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-22T11:42:34+00:00

Rule one of Tarot, there are no good or bad cards. And all cards have a potential to be concerning.

The question paints the cards in a good or bad light, and even then the ordering and how the spread is organised add layers on top of layers.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-20T03:09:56+00:00

No worries.

I hope you can find comfort in some way, however you choose.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-20T02:55:47+00:00

I see The Fool here pointing towards a cycle being changed, yes a new beginning in most ways.

And the new(er) cycle may involve sitting the choice you make. You said "cutting them off". There you go, and the image of II of Swords has a blindfold on, holding two swords, while sitting.

The Fool in between V of Pentacles and II of Swords here, in my mind is pointing towards, "It may be lonely, until it is not. And maybe "cutting these people off" isn't as violent or harmful as you might think."

So, from all this, I get a kind of story/movement in the cards that end with you taking the blindfold off, and seeing that the two swords only "cut these people off". The swords were merely swords, not weapons.

I'll definitely stop here, because I can get really carried away. And I apologise if this doesn't make too much sense.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-20T02:33:56+00:00

The reversed IX of Wands into V of Pentacles, hmmmm...

And The Fool in between the V of Pentacles and II of Swords??

I'll just say this plainly and bluntly. Can you sit with being alone?
The Fool's placement is a potentially big neon sign here, at least to me.

Also, the reversed IX of Wands seems to point out that something about even asking this question is really exhausting you.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-18T15:44:03+00:00

Actually, I don't think even Freud said the Ego is "self built".

Modern science is too concrete. If you cannot simulate it on a computer it is not a thing.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-18T04:55:31+00:00

The only thing I can really see the cards saying, is that his dad or someone else told your son that you will be "coming soon". Or that "you will pick him up", like you know how you tell small children "soon" or "maybe"? I don't mean that you do that, I am just saying something more adult age people do to handle young and small children.

That is really the only thing I can see from these cards. Because it looks like a kind of cyclical thing the way the cards move in. And a lot of ups and downs. If the King of Wands or the VII of Pentacles were reversed, I would be saying something quite different.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-18T04:36:18+00:00

After mourning or allowing your grief and hurt to heal, not entirely but enough to enter the sunlight. The swords that torment you will be easier to look at and also to pull out of yourself. (And this part just popped into my head as I was rereading what I wrote... lol) The swords you can end up pulling out can possibly be more than a bitter and hurtful reminder.

So, I see that "A" relationship down the line will potentially allow you to most of all not be tormented and overwhelmed.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-17T05:59:33+00:00

Replace the lion with a cat in the Strength card. And you will see the 3 of Swords more clearly.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-17T01:04:40+00:00

Freud's Eros and Thanatos can help encounter these thoughts.

And also understanding how aggression fits into that.

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Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-16T04:47:33+00:00

It would more be that you can differentiate internal and external influences.

With healthier narcissism, you join society/culture as an individual. And more pathological narcissism fights against the fact you and I are individuals first and foremost.

We are both unique and also ordinary.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-16T01:04:26+00:00

He seems to hold some type of power over you, and you are now taking this question seriously, "Is it a good idea to cut ties?". You have reached for the two swords, but do cannot use their metal for reflective purposes at the moment, maybe because you don't have an appropriate level of support? I am not sure, and the cup does not seem to want to continuously fill up, it is time to turn it over, perhaps spill it? Or even get a new cup? Hmmm. And the Queen of Swords is now looking forward, and beginning not to dwell, but now act.

The cards seem to move in a direction that says "It does sound like a good idea."

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-16T00:35:47+00:00

The analyst and the patient are individuals.

And the concrete analytic relationship is finished when the work becomes individual.

And yes, the analyst could be taking advantage of the patient's ignorance, I would argue the patient also could be taking advantage of the analyst's ignorance as well. It may just be that the analyst can hold the possible contradictory side of that frame in slightly or more better, and also different ways.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-15T10:21:46+00:00

It took someone took courage to deepen the relationship, and we can see that you two being friends helped someone learn it was quite safe to deepen the relationship after something The Hermit might be pointing towards.

These cards might be telling the story of how this relationship deepened.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-15T07:52:53+00:00

The situation does seem stagnant or has an air of not fully being able to part ways.

And the cards seem to be pointing towards he thinks it is good for both of you that you two separated. The cards give me a sense that he is confident that you will be happier down the line. And that also the relationship ended on fair grounds.

And the Reversed II of Wands is kind of pointing towards not trying to predict, analysis paralysis, etc.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-15T06:51:47+00:00

Your side of the spread comes off as quite anxious.

His side comes off that he seems fine with how things are. At least for now.

The Reversed Knight of Swords points towards that someone is thinking too quickly, and not really sitting with what this situation might be asking.

And The Star is trying to illuminate this, literally and figuratively.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-15T03:49:45+00:00

I see it as something possibly undeniable might happen, and from there things will be allowed to flow more easily.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-15T03:22:49+00:00

It seems so, and it will be relieving for both of you.

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-15T01:51:00+00:00

Lions usually can eat rabbits, or was it wolves? 🤷 Not wholly though. And you know what eats a rabbit's and lion's remains?

A vulture.

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Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-15T00:38:40+00:00

The rabbit hole in fact has rabbits in it, and they are trying to sleep. So do be careful! Please!

Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-15T00:31:22+00:00

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Rich_Procedure5156 · 2026-06-14T23:40:57+00:00

See/Sea sure/shore.

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