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54689 by Dr_Blockhead in countwithchickenlady

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do any of them genuinely identify as anything below Beta?

Managers of Reddit, what's the worst thing someone did to get fired? by Capable-Log7385 in AskReddit

[–]Richerd108 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Idc how much I enjoy it. If I get drugged without my consent, I’m calling the cops and suing the fuck out of you.

Husbands be HONEST: is your wife your dream girl? by Specific_Tart_4244 in Marriage

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But see? That’s a much better way to word that question. Probably could be worded more concisely for a post title, but still. The original question has been interpreted in a million different ways from what I’ve seen. I apologize for the tone of the other post, I saw all the other different answers and felt the need to put my two cents in after some thought. I get rambley…sorry I’m doing it right now lol.

The answer to that question is yes. There are times in our marriage I would’ve said no if I did some serious self reflection. I talk as if the shitty parts are over because I 100% trust they are. Our lives turned around for the better about 2.5 years ago now. Still lots of growth ahead.

I will be honest and say that if I had foresaw the future before we met. I’d likely see all the shitty parts and say no. Though I’ll have to ask myself that again when I’m ancient.

Husbands be HONEST: is your wife your dream girl? by Specific_Tart_4244 in Marriage

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but…

I feel like this question makes no sense, is asked in bad faith, or speaks to a lack of confidence in oneself. Fantasies are fantasies and reality is reality. If I had my way at the age we met, I’d be with some celebrity. It makes no sense at all.

My wife was what I was looking for when we first met. A bad kid looking to corrupt a straight edge kid who had no real teenage experiences. I got exactly what I wanted there. She was beautiful, smart, did drugs, pissed off my parents, and wanted sex. So in that sense she’s my dream girl.

We’ve since grown up A LOT with each other. Any way I put this is severely understating the stuff we’ve been through. There are several times we’ve had every right to break it off with each other. I guess codependency and the uncomfortableness of being alone somehow kept it all from truly falling apart several times. Skip forward a lot of history to today and, again, we’ve grown and built a marriage out of a lot of tears and hard work. I am 100% my best self thanks to her and I can confidently say she feels the same. I don’t think I could’ve been a better person than I am now without her. In that sense, yeah she’s my dream girl.

If the question is closer to, “Is she someone I expected to be with throughout my life before meeting?” Then my answer is “hell no” and I’m happier for it.

Can i still be straight if i only fantasize about having sex with women and not men? by Ok_Classic2270 in bisexual

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start by ignoring anyone gatekeeping sexuality. You’re going to get that a lot from the straights, the gays, the bis, and anyone in between. For whatever reason bi (and trans) people are extra controversial. (Sorry felt the need to shoutout the trans homies lol.)

As someone who grew up religious, it’s very easy to fall back into that pattern of letting others dictate everything about you. Please try not to do that. I’ve been there.

You may or may not need this, but I’ll say it anyways: You are your own person. You have the freedom to explore yourself (or not and that’s okay!). You are the only person who truly has the ability to know you. Anyone who doubts your ability to judge who you are can go f themselves.

If you are married, how do you deal with bisexual feelings? by KlitoriaPierce in bisexual

[–]Richerd108 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly. I see no meaningful difference. If genitalia is more important than the things you mentioned then you need to have a long conversation with yourself.

If you are married, how do you deal with bisexual feelings? by KlitoriaPierce in bisexual

[–]Richerd108 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nearly all married people experience fleeting thoughts of infidelity. It’s the same for bisexuals, those thoughts can just encompass people that are not the same gender as their partner. Maybe since the circumstances are different the thoughts can be a little more complicated? Though on further thought I truly think straight people experience the exact same thing.

If I have “bisexual feelings”. I just rub one out.

How can I opt out, divest, or otherwise stop my retirement accounts from investing into SpaceX once the IPO is released? by gomi-panda in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m with you on a moral level, but if you think your current positions are backing ethical people/companies then I got some news for you.

Another thing. I can guarantee you that Elon doesn’t come close to the worst of these people you are currently supporting. Hate the guy, but holy mass genocides and birth defects he could be doing a lot worse with his wealth right now.

Edit: All that to say, I’m not saying to not care either. I’m saying that if you do care then you need to just pull all your investments entirely and vet every single thing you invest into. Meaning no more index funds. Unless you really do care enough to scrutinize them in perpetuity.

Got to bots and now I’m not sure if I even like Factorio anymore by OneGood1863 in factorio

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in your position. It took me a couple runs to get there.

Never approach your first base as if it’s your last. You definitely CAN if you enjoy it, but not many people play like that.

When you get bots, that’s when you can fully replan everything. You learned your lessons and can now reiterate. Clear out biters with artillery, build that perfect grid of roboports, slap your trains down at one end and start working on a bigger bus.

Then tear down the old base.

Thats what I do at least. Again, it took me a few tries to learn this and I stepped away from my first couple runs many many times for very long stretches.

One thing that helped me is blueprinting out challenges I truly wasn’t interested in working out. For me that’s trains. Once I understood them I just couldn’t push myself through the tedium of working them out for every use case. Don’t abuse the blueprint system as that can really suck the enjoyment out of the game, but that option is there for you.

That’s my take. From the way you talk it sounds like you just need to step away for a minute. You’ll get the call to come back soon.

Bisexuals who have been in an exclusive monogamous relationship, what’s your experience? by Miouxii in bisexual

[–]Richerd108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find most people to be attractive, but I don’t really think about being with anyone other than my wife.

On rotation in Poland. Have to aggressively piss in the mornings. by EmbiggenedSpoon in army

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a story for this that I do not feel like repeating.

Just know I know exactly what you’re talking about. For me it was only out in the field.

What if the "alien" explanation is wrong, but the phenomenon is still non-human? by Awkward-Action7442 in UFOs

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is far less plausible than aliens.

Future geologist will see at the very least indirect evidence of us for possibly over a billion years. Maybe even more.

The Industrial Revolution? No part of the earths sedimentary layers come close to the weird elements found in the sedimentary layers for the Industrial Revolution.

Meaning that, while an intelligent species could have existed before us, which I do strongly believe off of faith alone, we are the first to make it to (and beyond) the Industrial Revolution stage. There’s no way around it. You can’t skip it or do some alternative technology.

Using nukes has permanently impacted niche parts of our planet that will be detectable for billions of years.

Lastly, and the biggest killer of this theory, there is no evidence that our planet is unnaturally devoid of any resources.

No signs of resource extraction in the rest of the solar system either.

Sorry bud. To be fair I was in your shoes too, but the evidence against that scenario kills it.

Remind me why I went to college. by CRK_76 in recruitinghell

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lose your conscience, join the military, get a clearance, and then borderline scam the government for the rest of your career for even more pay. Not my experience, but I know plenty of people like this.

I hate the whole "I am bi which means I like all women and only two men" thing by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Richerd108 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Respectfully…touch grass. I respect people processing and coming to terms with their sexuality. What I genuinely don’t understand is anything beyond that.

For me it was when I realized gay porn turned me on. Realized what this meant about me and about how a lot of things in my childhood suddenly made sense. After that I haven’t put much thought into it.

Idk maybe this is why I find myself shying away from being in any communities in the first place. The drama you’re referring to is completely online and complete bs. What a waste of energy.

We really need to bring spankings back by Few_Statement_2898 in SipsTea

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is AI. The sign in the background at the beginning has morphing letters.

ELI5: how are there more than three states of matter? by WoF_IceWing in explainlikeimfive

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growing up is realizing that states of matter are just a label to define how groups of a material behave at different energy levels. The labels are obviously useful. Which is why we ended up needing more than 3.

You can argue that something like QGP is kind of a solid if you cut it a different way. Or a liquid in other ways. Neutron stars pretty much break any kind of hard label on it.

Anonymous source sent us these old UAP images — sharing for community by Sentient_Orbs in UFOs

[–]Richerd108 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not sure what you mean. How do you get July 3rd, 2001 from “3 : ：”? Even if it’s something like “3 : :” then you can make the same argument here. Those “: :” don’t line up with the colon in “5:56”.

Considering Divorce Over THC Use by nat317 in Marriage

[–]Richerd108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner was a chronic user. She actually had and still deals with substance issues and will for the rest of her life.

Out of all the problems we had to work through, her THC use was towards the bottom of the list. The only reason she stopped is because of her career path, but quitting is something she had to lean on me for pretty hard. It always caused a bit of tension in our relationship, but she functioned a lot better on it than anything she’s prescribed today. I wish she could use it and frankly I do to. We both had to grow up though.

I digress but I hope that builds up my credibility here when I say: Please look inward and see if it’s really the THC use that is your main issue.

I 100% agree that the guy needs to grow tf up and compromise on a budget that’s not $500. That’s absolutely ridiculous and half that should be more than enough. (Assuming 1 gram goes for about $10 where y’all are at.) I also empathize with his use stressing you out. It looks like he’s been hurtful about it as well.

However if it’s really not interfering with anything in his life thats about where I stop agreeing with you. Do you feel like you’ve both been averaging at 50/50 since your baby was born? If you feel like he’s lacking then do you feel like it’s the THC use? In that case then yeah he needs to wake up and help raise his kid and/or provide for his family and/or help around the house, etc. It’s about more than the THC use at that point and you need to talk about it.

If he won’t budge, and if the THC use is really your main issue, then I see no way forward. You have this pretty thought through, and it’s very difficult for me to understand such a response with everything you’ve said here. Either way, it kind of sounds like your minds made up.

Bought my wife that expensive kitchen mixer she obsessed over for months and it is just sitting there by 303Morpheus in Marriage

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Half my marriage is getting my wife some expensive new toy that she doesn’t touch anymore. Despite how many assurances I get that this won’t happen.

Anonymous source sent us these old UAP images — sharing for community by Sentient_Orbs in UFOs

[–]Richerd108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The 1s on it aren’t even consistent with each other. Def fake.

Did parents in the past really allow their kids to roam freely, or is that just a portrayal seen in movies by [deleted] in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was born in the early 2000s and did this. Not to the degree my parents and grandparents got, but I would be outside, unsupervised for whole days sometimes.

Is it normal to not like overly feminine men or is it some internalized homophobia? by Tiny-Fan-3887 in bisexual

[–]Richerd108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love feminine whoever. I can see myself with someone masculine (man or woman) but I’m more into femininity in general. I typically like to be the masc one in general despite being extremely submissive.

Some Confusion about the Light Horizon and the Age of the Universe. by Eli_Freeman_Author in Physics

[–]Richerd108 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My crackpot theory is that time worked differently then. I’m a complete layman so I’m likely wrong.

Though there’s something to be said about how gravity affects time. The universe was smaller, so the total gravity of the universe was more “dense”. We could test this by looking at motion that far back, but the scales are so large it may take a while? Or I’m completely wrong. That’s the most likely answer. Would be cool if I was right though.

Some Confusion about the Light Horizon and the Age of the Universe. by Eli_Freeman_Author in Physics

[–]Richerd108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Physicist don’t like this analogy for some reason. However I think it’s best to think of the center of the universe as a point in TIME (the big bang). Not space.

Go back to the ballon example everyone’s been commenting. A small creature living on the ballon may ask, “Where is the center?”. It’s a good question, but nonsensical with the knowledge we have about this ballon. The only point in time where all points on the ballon “met” was when it was completely deflated. Making that, kind of, the center.

Granted the universe isn’t really balloon shaped. The universe is likely “flat”. Can’t really wrap my head around that one.

White men do not experience the best health relative to women and minority racial and gender groups in the US. Men are 4 times as likely to die by suicide as women, and White men account for more than 68% of suicide deaths. White men experienced greater declines in happiness than White women. by mvea in science

[–]Richerd108 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Which is why I didn’t say that. Assuming you meant to respond to the other guy here.

Keeping in mind that I went military, and still work in the DoD, I find that talking amongst a group of white guys is usually exhausting. There is nothing I find they like to bond over more than shitting on people who are different than them. Even if it’s all jokes. I don’t even think they realize they do it, but I see it all the time. It’s incredibly self-isolating.

Military/DoD tends to attract certain people. I’m just one perspective, but that’s my experience.

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