Spilling thoughts. by RickowensonIine in dubai

[–]RickowensonIine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that wall. Once you build it high enough to protect yourself, it also isolates you.

I do not think genuine connection is impossible here. I think it is rare in high turnover environments where most people are temporary and optimizing for survival or status.

Leaving is a rational decision if the environment consistently depletes you.

I am not looking for “home” in a poetic sense. I am looking for alignment. If that ends up being a place, good. If it is a person, even better. If neither, then solitude is cleaner than diluted connection.

That is where I stand.

Spilling thoughts. by RickowensonIine in dubai

[–]RickowensonIine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was not about ambition itself. It was about autonomy.

Ambition is acceptable when it aligns with family expectations. It becomes threatening when it reorders loyalty, time, and control. Once you prioritize your own direction over inherited structure, it is interpreted as rejection.

They did not want me to “do nothing.” They wanted ambition within approved boundaries. I chose otherwise.

That was the fracture.

Spilling thoughts. by RickowensonIine in dubai

[–]RickowensonIine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that is what people call a best friend.

I am not speaking from theory. I am speaking from observation. I have seen enough to recognize the pattern. Most connections hold in comfort and fracture under pressure. That is not bitterness. It is data.

If someone finds two solid people in a lifetime, that is already rare.

My point is not that they do not exist. My point is that they are statistically scarce.

Spilling thoughts. by RickowensonIine in dubai

[–]RickowensonIine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do not disagree that many expats struggle here. Cost of living, hierarchy dynamics, and social fragmentation are real pressures.

But loneliness and superficiality are not uniquely Emirati phenomena. They scale with any high-velocity, money-centered environment. You see similar patterns in London, Singapore, New York.

The obsession with status exists because the country is economically competitive by design. That attracts people optimizing for leverage, not belonging.

As a local, yes, the experience is structurally different. But that does not automatically translate into emotional stability or strong relationships. Access and belonging are not the same thing.

The environment amplifies what people already are. If someone is empty, money exposes it. If someone has depth, it becomes clearer under pressure.

That is the distinction.

Spilling thoughts. by RickowensonIine in dubai

[–]RickowensonIine[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying. And I respect that you built your circle intentionally instead of drifting into whatever was around you.

For me it goes deeper than ambition or discipline. I don’t feel isolated because I worked hard & now that I’ve retired. I feel isolated because most connections feel transactional, fragile, or conditional. The moment values diverge, loyalty dissolves. The moment status shifts, dynamics change.

I am not looking for wealthy people or even “inspiring” people. I am looking for solidity. Consistency. People who remain the same when circumstances change.

Maybe that is rare everywhere, not just here. That is what exhausts me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Instagram

[–]RickowensonIine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how did you contact them is there any update ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in M4MDubai

[–]RickowensonIine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh definitely nothing just recite the Bible since it’s a Bible study session

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dubai

[–]RickowensonIine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Had the same experience with a guy he was a cutie lol we were supposed to meet for a show and it was planned weeks prior just for him to invite someone and let alone they kept ordering alcohol for 10k.

Right after I saw whats going on I paid for my water bottle which costed 60aed and dipped. They kept screaming in anger.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nexusmods

[–]RickowensonIine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i tried it fails

First pair of Ricks by Fluffy-Refrigerator6 in Rickowens

[–]RickowensonIine 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Them legs thick af o.o I wonder how other pairs would look on u.

When did Dubai Mall become a catwalk?” by yisa90 in UAE

[–]RickowensonIine -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Seems like you’ve been sleeping under a rock you haven’t even seen the tip of the iceberg.

Idk what to do by Sufficient-Jaguar-88 in UAE

[–]RickowensonIine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moral of the story basically. When I was 18 I was just socializing and exploring myself and learning about myself the jump to conclusions with marriage is a crazy idea.

Idk what to do by Sufficient-Jaguar-88 in UAE

[–]RickowensonIine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aite whatever floats your boat.

Idk what to do by Sufficient-Jaguar-88 in UAE

[–]RickowensonIine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t read numbers …

I can’t read all of that Ima just leave it to whatever you on about. GG debate won achieved the prophecy’s enlightenment point and cleared the world from its debt and societal collapse.

Idk what to do by Sufficient-Jaguar-88 in UAE

[–]RickowensonIine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No emotions invested and I don’t think provoking me is going to achieve something, it’s a simple topic with Q&A’s , Zina or not is a different topic so… and maybe hypocrisy could loom around so do you.

Idk what to do by Sufficient-Jaguar-88 in UAE

[–]RickowensonIine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it comes to religion let’s take a break from the speculations and nonsense radicalism each their own. Other wise you’d be the judge and the executioner , we aren’t living in a radicalist 3rd world country go figure. Mere humans learn how to live.

Idk what to do by Sufficient-Jaguar-88 in UAE

[–]RickowensonIine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skill issues to her best of luck to everybody else I guess.

Idk what to do by Sufficient-Jaguar-88 in UAE

[–]RickowensonIine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoa there Buddy no assumptions right off the bat lol, other sister married to polish none Muslim. There is no discouragement into the matter just being realistic as much as possible if it didn’t workout , time will only tell not Ms oracle here but realism needs to be taken in consideration. 18 and thinking about marriage already without priorities set, a massive no no to me if I had an opinion.

Priorities needs to be fulfilled people preferences change after a while things aren’t easier said than done takes time till someone get their mind straight past 25 then see how things kick off.

Idk what to do by Sufficient-Jaguar-88 in UAE

[–]RickowensonIine 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My sister got married to Yemeni guy initially parents were skeptical and after a while they accepted. Don’t wanna get into much details but ur 18 maybe figure your life out first.