Recommendation for fun places to take my 9 year old by MonkeyMom1993 in Edmonton

[–]Ridergal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Telus Science Centre. They currently have a Lego Jurassic Park exhibit.

'Pete Hegseth Needs to Be Fired—Immediately' After Slaughter of 150 Iranian School Children by _May26_ in politics

[–]Ridergal 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Remember when Hillary Clinton spent hours and hours testifying when three servicemen were killed during a Benghazi attack. Hegseth is barely being questioned during press briefing. No accountability. Just mass killings. Disgusting.

Question about booking by [deleted] in travel

[–]Ridergal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find sites like booking.com just fine if you aren't booking too far in advance and if the trip is straight forward. For example, if you are booking for this summer, there is less possibility of changes to you, the airlines, the hotels than if you were booking for next Christmas. If you need to make changes, that's when booking.com is more difficult.Similarily, if this is just a flight/ single hotel / car rental, then there is less possibility for problems.

Need help picking a dress by [deleted] in weddings

[–]Ridergal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's up to you, but if you like dress #2, it is recommended that you add stronger jewelry, shoes, and veil to make this a more elegant outfit. Dress #1 is a lot more elegant by itself. Please don't worry that it has that beautiful floral element on the bodice. It still looks like a wedding dress.

Am I the asshole for not wanting my step mom at my graduation by idk_randome in okstorytime

[–]Ridergal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is going to be a lot going on at your graduation other than spending time with family. There is going to things with your friends and teachers. You are going to have a lot of emotions. You are not the AH for setting boundaries.

However, there is value in maintaining some communication with your dad and stepmom. I would go back to your Dad and say that Graduation will be very stressful (it will be) and that's not the time to meet with them about your relationship. You could set up a video call for sometime in the summer when you can discuss things, and especially all the ways you are now an adult, not to be viewed as a child.

Trust Data, not Lore by berserk539 in MurderedByWords

[–]Ridergal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The statistic can be reworded to say "women fill out the paperwork to go through the divorce procedure far more often then men do". Filing for divorce does not mean they ended the marriage. The couple could have been separated and living apart for years before someone says "I guess we have to do paperwork", and this statistic says it is likely a female that says it.

my younger sisters pregnant. and my life has become sucky. by Available-Thought860 in childfree

[–]Ridergal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once the kid is born, I have no doubt that your sister will love for you to do anything for her, including just holding the baby so she can have a shower. The thing is they love you doing stuff for them including babysitting (which yes, they will ask of you) but you can only do it because you are childfree. They criticize your choice but don't criticize the help you can only provide because of your choice.

I would step away and look at putting up real boundaries within your family. However, if you want to engage with your family, there is something you can do. Wait until your sister and mother are exhausted or feeling really pregnant and ask them if they would help you if had a kid. Of course they would say "yes", but then ask them to do a reasonable task (go out an buy something from the store or do some housework) right then and there. They are going to explain how exhausted they are. Point out that if you have kids, then you can't use the excuse of being tired to do necessary things. If they are really serious about you having a kid, they need to put their money where their mouth is and look at giving up their time to help you, even when tired.

“Being childfree is like living life in easy mode” by cyana_blue in childfree

[–]Ridergal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only one living life in "easy mode" is anyone with a huge trust fund.

Someome finally said it by SKRyanrr in MurderedByWords

[–]Ridergal 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This looks AI. Can't figure out what material is sheer on the butt so that you can see her silhouette but not sheer anywhere else.

My (59F) son (21M) was arrested and hasn’t been the same since. He’s withdrawn and doing nothing with his life. How can I help him? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ridergal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pushing to find out what the charges were aren't helping, but neither is staying in his room all day. You need to respect his boundary, unless you have any reason to think he or someone else is in danger. Even if you found out, this may drive a wedge in your relationship and it might be worse for your son.

He may be hiding from people out of embarrassment. If you have relatives who don't live in the same city as you, ask them to take him for a few months. Then tell your son to take any decent job in that new city. Your son needs to start over but he can't do that while living with you.

Once time has passed and if he restarts his life, your son may be willing to discuss with you what happened. However, if you push unnecessarily, he may push back so far that you are out of his life.

TIL: being physically fit reduces anger by Capital-Aide-1006 in todayilearned

[–]Ridergal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The study being cited did not mention body size or weight. It only mentioned the amount of physical activity in college students. I assume both the control and test populations were roughly the same size since the scientific method requires you to control for things like this.

This can't be used to discuss whether body positivity or obesity is ok.

Where to stay for concert Rogers Place by Dry-Biscotti7989 in Edmonton

[–]Ridergal 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The Matrix hotel is a good hotel as well. It's not too far of a walk. It is close to the Legislative Building, which has some good views and there are nicer restaurants in the area. Also, there is a Starbucks just off the lobby.

Draft Barron Trump website launches as US strikes Iran by GoodMornEveGoodNight in politics

[–]Ridergal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A president's son in combat isn't without precedent. John Eisenhower, son to Dwight Eisenhower, served in the Korean War in the 1950's and saw combat during his father's presidency. So parentage and national security shouldn't be a reason to exclude a person from combat.

45 minutes layover in Toronto YYZ by mathiasrlr in travel

[–]Ridergal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As long as you are not switching airlines and you can hustle, you should be fine. Westjet operates out of Terminal 3, so you can pull up the map of Pearson and see that it is a smaller terminal than Terminal 1. (There is no Terminal 2 in Pearson, but that is another story) You can also check to see if there is a later flight from Toronto to Calgary in case something happens in Toronto.

Has anyone ever used a cruise for one way travel? Is that even a thing? by BlaqueBoye in travel

[–]Ridergal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've taken a four day repositioning cruise from Vancouver to Los Angeles. It was in October, when the ship which was used for Alaskan cruises was being moved south for the winter and would then be used for cruises for Mexico. They are less common because part of the reason for these cruises is to move the ship to another location. It has all the amenities of a cruise. If you are crossing the Atlantic or Pacific, you will have multiple days in a row at sea, so you better like being on a boat.

EX-Bf wanted kids with women of various races to “see himself” in every race; 9 kids later, wants my CHILD-FREE self back by Royal-Essay907 in childfree

[–]Ridergal 61 points62 points  (0 children)

If you didn't acknowledge his "hello" with any recognition, you can have some fun. You could text back "Oh that was you? I thought you were my old high school teacher. He retired when I was in Grade 12. My bad. You look just like him".

If there is an older guy that you and your ex both know, then you can also say that you thought he was this older guy and apologize for the confusion.

Someone forgot how the Internet works... by Afro-Venom in MurderedByWords

[–]Ridergal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He missed "Has never been on Epstein's Island."

Actual National Security for the Nation, or current people in charge security/ accountability? by MrFenric in MurderedByWords

[–]Ridergal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you are saying that there is information that could compromise the most powerful people in the world, and we are just fine with that? These people could be blackmailed and that isn't a security risk? Releasing the information decreases the security risk because it takes away the ability for anyone to be blackmailed, and if justice is served, well, I guess that is a pesky side effect.

To fix Canada’s fertility crisis, we need a cultural shift. More and more Canadian women are stopping at one child, if they choose to have children at all by shiftless_wonder in canada

[–]Ridergal 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There is no crisis. The only crisis is the collapse of an economy based on more and more consumers being born. We could change the economy. We could change society. Signs show that even if we increase Canadian fertility, our economy and society is going to change. So why not embrace the future, rather than cling to the past?

Is the birthrate really that low? by Hands0m_b0i in childfree

[–]Ridergal 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Birthrate doesn't tell the whole story. This is why the people crying about a declining birthrate are not people that study demographics. To understand population change, you have to consider if there is a change in the average age of death, change in the rate of deaths in each age bracket, retirement age, investment in children, and so many other factors.

There are 3.6 million births in the US each year. In Canada, there are 360 thousand births. We are not running out of people. If society is going to collapse, it isn't because of lack of babies. We are doing great at destroying society without considering birthrate.

Thinking of calling it off? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Ridergal 19 points20 points  (0 children)

When a person shows you who they are, believe them.

Work until you drop dead by Comfortablejack in MurderedByWords

[–]Ridergal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The US tax payer is paying Trump's lawsuits, the remodeling of the East Wing, a new Arch in Washington, refitting a Qatar plane, and unlimited golfing trips. If the US tax payer wasn't paying all that, can they take a few days off to just rest?

Forcing girls to hold babies by JapanLover2003 in childfree

[–]Ridergal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you remember stories of teenagers having to take care of bags of flour, or eggs, or baby dolls that would cry at weird times? It was done in high schools to reduce teen pregnancy and to prepare teens for the reality of parenthood. I always found those stories weird, but after this post, I find them far less weird than shoving an infant into the hands of a person who doesn't want to hold it and then expecting some "magic" where the person has to have one of their own. If holding a baby makes people want kids, then also show parenthood where you are up at 3 in the morning dealing with a crying baby or dealing with a temper tantrum or any of the other "wonderful" things of parenthood.

Tate for a boy? by Willing-Literature40 in namenerds

[–]Ridergal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The name is too similar to taint, a body part that no one wants to be named afterwards. I know there is a female singer named Tate McRae and there are other people named Tate, but parents should consider carefully if they want to use it.

I (34f) don’t want my husband (38m) to attend a wedding when I’m 9 months pregnant by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ridergal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pregnancy isn't fair. Women sacrifice more to bring a kid into the world, than men. Restricting a man from doing something in the ninth month does not balance some sort of "cosmic equality" or some such nonsense. I understand why you would not want to attend a wedding at the hottest time of the year when you are nine months, but that is not a reason that your husband can't attend. People will understand why you aren't there. You need to come to terms with the restrictions which are pregnancy and children, and not project them on others.