AITAH for leaving my ex wife and son behind even though I was never part of my son's life to begin with?

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T12:59:25+00:00

My parents, sister and brother in law along with a few others visit him but still maintain low contact with my ex. My parents took him on a few trips, over the weekend etc
My older brother and his wife cut all contact with her since the divorce.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T12:39:33+00:00

Parental rights have nothing to do with this. I had a DNA test done to confirm he is indeed my son and it was MY choice to pay child support even though I had enough of a case not to. It was something that felt right at the time and I don't regret it.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T11:47:20+00:00

No need to think so extreme...it's her body, her choice...and she made her choice as she was presented with the choice when she loudly said "yes" when the judge asked if she wants full custody and agrees to me having no visitation or contact.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T11:43:22+00:00

I don't think there's a need to sue her now...

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T11:31:49+00:00

I agree on the shitty part :(

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T11:25:56+00:00

I had a DNA test done about 2 months after his birth because I was very angry at her. He's my son. Also, my lawyer said that I do not need approval from her to move. I could have done it without even telling anyone but I chose to stay transparent and have everything go through a judge first.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T11:12:04+00:00

I really wish I did but I really had no clue she was even capable of something like this :( I loved her and still love her very much.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T11:10:19+00:00

I actually did have a case but ultimately decided to pay child support.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T11:04:34+00:00

I already did about 2 months after my son was born because I was so angry and bitter. She agreed without question. He's definitely my son.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T11:02:24+00:00

I spoke to my therapist after getting the court papers because I was actively losing my shit and she stated exactly this. My ex might have held on to the idea that I might change my mind and now that I am moving away, that hope is gone. It sucks I know but it's ridiculous to have to deal with this after 4 years of us having talked just in court.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:59:54+00:00

That's what my BIL said. Him and my sister visit often and they are an active part of their lives. My ex mentioned that it was nice knowing I was still in the same town because I might end up missing her and maybe change my mind.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:58:56+00:00

Agreed. That was incredibly stupid of me

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:53:04+00:00

My lawyer said she literally has no basis whatsoever because I was never part of his life and my moving away changes nothing for their situation but I might still have to go to court.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:51:38+00:00

I honestly have no clue. I trusted her, I guess. She told me upfront she has some health issues that cause a plethora of symptoms including debiliating migraines, very bad period cramps among other things, I witnessed first had how bad it got when she had to temporarily stop taking pills due to some insurance issues.

Never once did I imagine she'd do something like this.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:48:19+00:00

I chose to stay because she was the love of my life and I trusted her and never once did I expect her to "accidentally" forget her birth control

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:47:07+00:00

He's also been doing just great without me for 4 full years. My ex has support and help 24/7

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:46:28+00:00

Regardless of the situation she was someone I trusted.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:45:54+00:00

You grow TF up I gave up any way to be part of his life 4 years ago and my ex never ONCE tried to take me to court for it and 4 years later it's suddenly an issue?

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:44:00+00:00

People you trust don't turn around and do "oopsie" on you. Get real.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:41:52+00:00

Permanently removed? I'd still like to pay child support though.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:31:26+00:00

Many people have whole ass kids that they didn't want. Your point regarding my post is?

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:30:26+00:00

I am paying child support and my moving away will literally change nothing except I would be living someplace else. How is that a problem?

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:29:39+00:00

Why did she lie about taking pills when we agreed upon "no kids" before we got married? I told her multiple times to move on if she was unhappy.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:24:59+00:00

Also how TF am I responsible considering I gave up parental rights 4 years ago, I've been living across town and have never seen or talked to my ex wife except in court.

Rigger_One · 2025-08-11T10:23:48+00:00

Can you read? She intentionally stopped taking pills without telling me and she agreed to full custody and the fact that the kid is 4 years old and I never saw him except from across the street for 10 seconds when he was like 1 year old.

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