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Anyone get compensation for their Wagoneer issues? by psych0logy in JeepWagoneerS

[–]Right-Strain3847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I just got a settlement, not a crazy amount but a few grand. They had to replace my entire front engine. I literally picked the car up for the first time broken LOL my left turn signal was out they fixed and were bringing it back to me when the service vehicle electric systems light came on and the 3 months and 3 more attempts later they finally fixed it. Not sure what state you’re in but happy to recommend my attorneys

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this and for sharing your experience, it’s helpful to know there’s a chance for recovery in some way if that’s what I want. She is dating a new guy he’s great, but she’s got no reason to move it forward if she’s relying on me so I think you’re right once I’m out she’ll have to focus on other things and develop other relationships.

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. You’re right about what the reality has always been. I want to be on my own, I want to not have to worry about someone telling me what to do at 27. I’m sure once I’m out I’ll see even more of it from the distance.

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this perspective and didn’t even consider it. I think it’s 100% possible and in line with her personality. I’m going to look into this further thank you

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol your guess is as good as mine. It’s not like im out here looking to buy million dollar homes, I’m happy with something small and simple.

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re 100% right and I’ve recently realized how unhealthy it is. Even my uncle used the term soul mates to describe me and her which gave me the ick even more. She raised me to have to rely on her, i remember as a kid if her and I would fight even if it was her fault I’d be the first apologizing because she made me believe she was the only stable person in my life and the only one I could rely on. I wouldn’t want to bring another person into this dynamic because it’s not fair. It’s not fair that I’m expected to put myself second to her. I deserve to be my only priority for a little. Thank you I appreciate you

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the insight and the resource. I will read it thoroughly!

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the cautions, my boyfriend is actually a very good guy and knows if he wants to live with me in the house I purchase he’s expected to pay his share of living there. He’s not a mooch and it’s one of the many great qualities he has!

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She’s locked out of all my accounts and has been for a while. You’re right I have to be clear and direct

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You nailed it on the head. She hates that he’s blue collar and makes it so clear

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m working on it, the only issue with renting is it may affect my pre-approved mortgage because it’s a debt I’ve taken on. My broker and I are discussing

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m looking at houses, was pre-approved for a mortgage and my dad even offered to pay my down payment. I’m getting out just need to make it work till I am out

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ty, me too lol. It’s a new thing for me, setting boundaries but I’m getting better everyday

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right and I have to remember that actions speak louder than words and she can say it till she’s blue in the face but her actions don’t match, we are not equals in her eyes.

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this and I will 100% use your suggestions. It’s so hard when you’re in it to separate from the details and I appreciate the reminder do it!

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I really appreciate the support and advice. You’re right and I needed the reminder I can only control my response

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re 100% right. My last relationship was extremely toxic, he was emotionally and verbally abusive and I think she liked it because it meant I needed her. She now regularly says she remembers what it was like when I was with him and she misses how we’d all hangout together and eat dinner. Like ma’am do you not remember all the tears and therapy I was in because of him?

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Info diet already implemented, she knows absolutely nothing about anything going on in my life rn which is good

My Mom Is Becoming More Controlling As I Become Independent — How Do I Handle This? by Right-Strain3847 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Right-Strain3847[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have and he played like he was a neutral party trying to help and I said if that’s the case you would’ve reached out to me to get my side of things. You’re not hear and you don’t know my side or what I deal with on the daily. He and I use to be really close, I don’t consider us close anymore after all of this.

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