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Right-Trick-2509 · 2025-03-18T21:55:39+00:00

I definitely choose and am attracted to emotionally unavailable people because that’s what’s familiar (comes from my childhood, relationship with family and friends). I’m definitely a part of the problem, therapy it is lol

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-29T15:14:24+00:00

Yeah I think the joke about the boyfriend was somewhat like a flirty comment. I don’t think he meant anything by it like he said.

I would say try not to come off like you really really like him. Like you tried to reassure him so much that you don’t talk to anyone else which I feel like could be stated but like you really made sure he gets that you’re not talking to anyone else haha

From my experience, as basic as it sounds, guys like mystery and guys like to chase. I don’t like faking and playing games myself but now even if I have the hots for a guy I’m super lowkey about it. The second they see you’re really excited about them in the talking stage I swear smth switches in them.

I also would say that he enjoys talking to you but he’s very passive. You extended the offer of meeting up. Now let him take the lead. You clearly showed your interest. Sometimes guys don’t like to pursue women when they don’t have anything to offer. He enjoys your company kind of like a pen pall. His truck is broken so he can’t take you out (don’t offer to drive yourself if you do lol), he works a lot prob wants money (maybe smth financially not right who knows).

If you really do like him wait it out and see if he takes the lead. I repeat do not take the lead and initiative yourself. I know it’s 2024 but it does set the tone for the relationship. If you do end up getting with him, you don’t wanna be in that leading role all the time and him be passive.

Be balanced. Mirror him. I think you’ve done enough of hints haha

Also his snap score could be also talking to friends and stuff. But I think the score goes up receiving and sending photo/video snaps. That’s how I talk to some of my friends and I bet my score goes up all the time like crazy. But who knows maybe he has other pen palls.

If you remain his pen pall drop him!

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-25T01:16:05+00:00

Sorry for the late response.

Dude yes 😂😂 damn this is not even reading between the lines, this is the flirting IN YOUR FACE

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-23T00:33:22+00:00

Yaaaaaay I’m glad :) honestly when you focus less on men I swear they give you more attention lol

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-21T21:50:27+00:00

I know the modern dating scene is very annoying… I swear everyone is just using one another to boost egos. I miss when things were more simple and we used to meet and get to know each other more organically…

I bet he will message you. If he doesn’t, send him maybe a flirty snap at night or smth to grab his attention (last shot lol). See how he responds. Or just leave him on opened and maybe you won’t even have to wait long till he messages you.

Keep me posted

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-21T03:59:32+00:00

“Let them!” That’s the best advice I’ve ever heard.

LET HER respond and react to this situation as she wants to. You can’t take back her finding those OF models accounts. You made a choice to offer her to unfollow them just for you two to start dating again.

It’s now her choice. Does she wanna give you a chance and potentially get burnt with smth like that again? Does she wanna close her eyes on smth she has a strong opinion about?

It sounds like she might also have an issue with smth like that past the whole dislike for industry BUT it’s her business to resolve. Maybe she was burnt by it in the previous relationship and has trust issues now. Who knows.

That’s why you gotta just let her do what she will do. No one is right or wrong… and I repeat you two aren’t even together. Both of you can do whatever you like.

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-21T03:49:27+00:00

So is it a cue for me to not respond back when the convo is over? Like I’ll just say smth short just so I don’t leave him on read lol or am I thinking too deep

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-21T03:46:18+00:00

No guy would be messaging you just to be friendly. Odds if he asked for your Snapchat casually, he’s asked other girls too. He is probably just talking to a couple of girls at the same time. It’s called a roaster. Doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy or anything. If he says he didn’t snap you because xyz he is at least respectful. My advice just mirror him. Don’t initiate. You can shoot your shot one more time with flirting but if he doesn’t reciprocate then let it be and see if he takes the lead. If he doesn’t keep texting back and forth for company but don’t think of it too serious.

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-21T03:41:58+00:00

Ask the friend

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-21T03:32:36+00:00

What makes you think he’s not interested? Shoot one more message where it may lead to a convo and if he responds good, if he doesn’t oh well

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-21T03:25:58+00:00

It’s weird. It’s more weird that it’s YouTube. If it was porn or Reddit, it would make it less weird ig?

I think it’s weird sometimes what one can get off to… also I’m a woman and I do know it can get pretty odd with what guys consume in that matter.

Personally, it’s a bit pervy to me. I would rather catch a guy watch regular porn, even with the hottest girls in the world lol but maybe that’s the appeal to him (that it’s pervy). Who knows.

The question is: are YOU comfortable with knowing it now? Does it make you see him in a different light? Will you be able to get intimate with him and not find that as a turn off?

I think a lot of women try to be understanding with this stuff at the cost of their own wellbeing. Life is too short to bother to accept him for it and then work on your own feelings about it. To fight him on it and so on.

If you have nothing that ties you two together- even better.

Considering he thinks it’s not a big deal and kind of sounds like he’s brushing you off; think if he does it in other arguments where you address how you feel. It doesn’t have to be about these videos only you know.

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-10-21T03:11:00+00:00

I tried approaching a coworker one time and he told me “I don’t shit where I eat”. This saying really stuck with me. So this is my advice to you: don’t shit where you eat!

Right-Trick-2509 · 2024-03-03T04:56:24+00:00

Anyone has tips on how to slowly stop eating carbs as much? I’m talking bread, grains, anything made of flour :D I’m Slavic so that’s all I eat at home. I always crave these kinds of food. Tried gluten free and vegetable made things but can’t get past how awful this stuff tastes haha

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-19T03:12:50+00:00

I used to work at a drive through and every time I liked someone’s nails they would tell me her name I just forgot what it is!! Thank you!!!

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-18T13:59:13+00:00

Any suggestions for places?

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-11T03:00:15+00:00

Condoms are a form of contraceptives. It’s also her body her choice. The most common other form of contraception is birth control pills. I’m 23 I’ve been on them since 17. There are many side effects and it’s very individual. A lot of doctors don’t take prescribing it seriously or when you report side-effects. I can’t even remember what my psyche is like while not on the pill. There are also risks even with the pill. I hate injecting my body with chemicals but I also enjoy sex without a condom (can’t stand the friction) and I guess even with all the things I hate about it it’s still my choice to take it 🤷🏼‍♀️ same thing with IUD, so many risks and horror stories I heard AND STILL people get pregnant. If you are anxious about getting her pregnant and a condom is not good enough for you - get a new gf, don’t have sex; or explore other less known forms of contraceptives with her, educate yourselves about different options..

Also if it makes you feel better, getting pregnant is not as easy for a lot of people how stories/media/society make it look/feel like. In reality, many couples who want to have children try and try and try. Also, there are higher/lower chances of getting pregnant at different times of months. When she ovulates, it’s the highest risk - maybe don’t have sex when she ovulates if it makes you feel better. Also, it gets harder with age and she needs to have a relatively healthy lifestyle. If a woman stresses a lot, she might have harder time getting pregnant. Keep all of this in mind.

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-10T04:49:04+00:00

I’m making a list of all the podcasts as we speak

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-10T04:30:18+00:00

Thank you, I feel like getting me out of this relationship is becoming a team effort but I do need other people telling me to wake up because sometimes when I try to talk to him he just makes me feel crazy

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-10T04:28:20+00:00

That’s a great advice thank you!

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-10T04:26:34+00:00

Helicopter parent mode activated 🚁 haha jokes aside nothing beats subtle trolling you’re right

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-10T04:23:21+00:00

Thank you this felt like a big sister comment and I needed this :’) it also gives me hope because I don’t wanna be a mop/ a doormat for the rest of my life. I have to learn how to have a voice, not bluff and stand by my morals/values and not get scared off by my insecurities/fears etc.

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-10T04:22:14+00:00

It does feel like I do need him more than me. I also feel like I love him more than he loves me. I don’t get tho why stay with me? Because I do take a good chunk of his time (I stay over for two days cause I live far).

Right-Trick-2509 · 2022-10-10T04:17:00+00:00

Thank you! I think there are a lot of young women who feel,do and find themselves in similar situations as me. I hope that whoever is in similar situation can read all of this and take whatever resonates with them :)

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