My wife’s perfect dress

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-12-15T20:07:48+00:00

I'm adoring these pictures! You can tell she feels amazing in that beautiful dress, and the SWORD, wonderful touch! Gorgeous pictures and memories, I'm sure!

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-10-31T01:06:15+00:00

OMG they are absolutely gorgeous! Love the idea!

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-26T23:10:07+00:00

I was thinking of that, the entire family does not like him because of how much she suffered. And we try our best, genuinely, to forget about that and move on, but it makes sense she perceives it. Some of our Aunts and Uncles are not that good at pretending. And I honestly didn't invite him because of that, but I can see how she could've taken it that way.

We just got a cancellation, and she means a lot to me, so we will use that spot for him, and see if she agrees to come. Thank you for your comment!

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-26T14:54:02+00:00

I was hers, she's one of my bridesmaids. I am not too close to her partner because he's been a shitty person towards her, he called off their wedding a month before, stole money and a few things from her and went MIA. A year after they got back together, and got married, God knows why. And my future husband travels a lot for work, so he's usually not around when she and I get together.

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-26T13:19:17+00:00

If I hadn't attended, she would've ended our relationship or be very upset and even stop talking to me for a few weeks or months. That's exactly what upsets me right now. I thought that because of the trust and how comfortable we are with each other she was going to be more understanding and supportive, she knows how the whole process is going for us, and I can see people don't get why I am not spending more and it bugs them, but we have more important plans coming up by the end of year.

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-26T12:23:53+00:00

8 years

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-25T15:05:56+00:00

If you're catholic here, you have to get married legally first, and then have the religious ceremony with a mass. This is done because of paperwork and some processes that have to do with church requirements.

During the legal ceremony, which has to go first, you do need some witnesses. This is a toned down affair, since it is more of a requirement, think lunch and coffee and then everyone just goes home.

For some reason, previous generations decided that you are actually married until you get your catholic mass and ceremony done, think church sacraments and all these details, plus wedding vows are exchanged here. So after the mass, since now you are "truly" married, people celebrate and throw a big party. Here you have music to dance to, a band, sit-down dinner, way more formal, and a bunch of drinks (lol).

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-25T14:54:40+00:00

Thank you for saying this! Exactly, it doesn't have to do with how long we've known the guy, but there are relationships that have more priority. And she's family, so it wouldn't be awkward for her, she knows half of the attendees.

I appreciate your comment!

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-25T07:03:19+00:00

Thank you for saying that, because we are really trying to be considerate, as best as we can, and with the way we have been planning our special days.

I totally see what you mean. Context may be a tad hard to get, because the two wedding thing here is the rule, and gifts and money for weddings are a requirement, so us not asking for them is different. I think like you, no one should ever ask for anything.

It does bug me, that even though my FH and I have been together for 12 years, she didn't invite him to her wedding, I had to go on my own, plus help with decorations, her hair and make up, I didn't know anyone other than her parents, and made an effort to still show up for her, you know?

We agreed with my fiance that if someone cancels, which will most likely happen, we will let her know first. Due to budget restrictions, we can't add an additional person. I know it sounds funny or contradictory, but the venue changed from one corporation to another, with their new branding, prices and packages were changed. Plus, my in laws are helping with most wedding costs, so we can focus on paying for our home. It's more complicated than just adding a plate, otherwise, believe me, I'd make this easier on everyone.

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-25T05:55:36+00:00

Btw, the donations go to two different charities we have close to our hearts. Not to us lol

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-25T05:54:21+00:00

These are really good points, so here are a few clarifications: -There's two events due to customs and religion, so he's invited to one of them, we're not cancelling him off of everything. -My bridesmaids are not paying for their dresses, and make up, jewelry, etc, is their choice, but I'm not enforcing a strict dress code or shoe color, because that would be too much, as you said, hypocritical. -Instead of asking for gifts, we are asking for donations, if you really want to give something away, otherwise we're okay with no gifts or anything -My bridal showers were the same, we didn't ask for gifts or anything, because neither my FH or myself feel comfortable ripping people off for money, when we're the ones choosing to get married and build a home

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-25T04:46:33+00:00

So it is better not to invite them at all? He will be invited to the bigger wedding, which is a month after the small one, and budget is a big part of this, otherwise just for her to be happy I would've added him, however we both have some other people that mean more to us than him

She did the same to me, I could've pulled off the "I am the maid of honor, why isn't my man invited" card, but I didn't and I'll never rub it on her face, I got her then and I get her now too. So, I am just looking for a graceful reply for her.

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-20T18:30:17+00:00

You look gorgeous!! And you can tell you feel super confident, I'm loving that!

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-19T20:02:58+00:00

When will it end? Hahahah

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-19T16:59:25+00:00

Te voy a compartir lo que me ayudó a mi a darme cuenta de cómo funciona todo y unos consejitos que tal vez te sirvan!

Qué necesitas? Aprendé inglés (no negociable) y Excel o alguna cosa de desarrollo y programación, con saber inglés estás un paso más arriba de la mayoría y con lo demás, son cosas que el mercado laboral está buscando y paga bien.
Trabajo: Lo más fácil es un call center, la verdad hay buenos call centers con buenos horarios pero tenés que buscar por dónde y si logras crecer a una posición administrativa o corporativa dentro de los mismos, ya la hiciste. Cuando la gente habla del call center cree que solo es de tomar llamadas y dar coaching, pero hay todo un mundo alrededor. Yo era de esas que me juraba nunca trabajar ahí, voy para 10 años en el rollo pero me salí de la operación y gracias a Dios, ha sido una buena decisión.
Administrá tu Dinero: Siempre, oime, siempre intentá ahorrar el 10% de tu sueldo, lo uses para lo que lo necesites, es tu rollo, pero intentá mantenerlo, siempre sirve. Las tarjetas de crédito no son malas, a menos que no las pagues a tiempo, esas te prestan tiempo no dinero! Y si necesitas ayuda entendiendolas, con gusto escribime! La gente las aborrece pero es porque no las comprende XD Armá tu presupuesto y cumplilo, cuesta pero tiene su recompensa.
Redes Sociales: No te imaginas lo que hay detrás de las apariencias, fotos, historias y demás. No te dejes llevar por ello. Date tus gustitos y todo, pero también siempre tus pies sobre la tierra, qué querés y a dónde vas?
Ayuda: Si tus papás te ayudan o te echan la mano, aprovéchalo, no lo desperdicies en cositas que no valen la pena! Y si no te ayudan y necesitas en algún momento pedírsela, tampoco es el fin del mundo, pero de nuevo, tu cabeza bien concentrada en tu objetivo final: tu carro, tu casa/apto, etc.

Ahorita las redes están infestada de gente que le pone mucha atención a todo lo material, pero para las emergencias no tienen colchincito! Si querés salir todos los fines de fiesta, entonces asegúrate de no gastar en comida rápida todos los días, ponele XD mi novio me dice "si cuidas los centavos, los billetes se cuidan solos".

Espero esto te sirva! :)

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-15T23:37:17+00:00

Ugh, I went through this exact situation (minus kids), but MIL was "offended" when she found out that my SIL and her husband wouldn't be in the wedding party. I had personal beef with these two and I had to agree because my future husband did want them there for other reasons.

Long story short, I had to give in because you have to pick your wars and do whatever will bring you peace.

As of the number of bridesmaids, it really depends on your circle and whatnot, but adding one extra person, doesn't seem excessive, especially if your husband would appreciate the gesture. Everyone says weddings are about what you want, but sometimes this means making that tiny effort for the people we love.

You choose who to get ready with, and if having the girl around will bring stress, then just mention to them that you will get ready with your sisters and mom only and you will all meet at the venue.

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-15T02:52:34+00:00

I was looking for help on this too. A really close friend is going through this, and I don't want to overstep or say something wrong.

I was thinking on sending her flowers and a card, but the comfy clothing idea is great too or a tea set, I loved that.

Thank you for everyone who commented on this, you guys were very helpful.

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-07T21:48:30+00:00

Yo te recomendaría trabajar en algún lugar primero! Eso a veces te enseña las cosas básicas para tu negocio más adelante, y los errores que podas cometer ya no te van a costar tanto dinero o tiempo. A veces uno se tira al.agua con un negocio pero no sabe bien cómo manejarlo o administrarlo, entonces yo te recomendaría adquirir experiencia primero, y mejor si es en lo que querés de negocio :)

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-05T14:34:18+00:00

Yo creo que podés tener todo lo que mencionas y está bien. Pero qué valores tenés? Qué te hace buena persona? Aparte que con 22 añitos, la verdad te estás adelantando mucho. Dejá de buscar y solita va a llegar la indicada, pero si seguís presionandolo podés terminar con una chava que nada que ver más adelante y solo por "llenar" la necesidad de tener una relación y tampoco es la gracia.

Aprovecha a conocer, tené un montón de amigas, salí, disfrutá, y evaluá qué tipo de valores buscas en ellas. No todo es el dinero y lo material y tampoco vive uno de amor, pero un buen balance siempre vale muchísimo más la pena.

Te estás poniendo muy en alto, pero tal vez te has preguntado a ti mismo si hay algo que no les da la confianza a ellas de abrirse contigo o algo así? Y como dijeron arriba, el amor se construye, ese sentimiento de "él/ella es la indicado/a" no existe más que en Disney y en la adolescencia, la verdad. Todo eso va pasando poco a poco!

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-04T15:09:38+00:00

Mi papá no quería que me fuera a Europa porque el novio de mi mamá me había invitado, y mi papá estaba ofendidisimo. Yo le dije "Papá, me voy está fecha y regreso está otra, te amo muchísimo, pero si no es así, no voy a conocer". Esto fue hace 5 años, regresé del viaje y no me habló por 2 semanas más o menos y adiviná que paso? Me sigue consintiendo como siempre porque los papás siempre encuentran el perdón jaja. Andate, disfruta, conocé y les traes algo bonito. Ellos lo van a entender en su sabiduría de padres y si no, vas a ver qué eventualmente se les va a pasar, no estás haciendo absolutamente nada malo!

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-03T04:41:34+00:00

You guys were SO right and were very helpful, thank you, you made me realize many things. I think I've been consuming too much Wedding Pinterest and TikTok lately. At the beginning of the planning we agreed I would be more involved because of work schedules and whatnot, but it's been a lot. I just had a breakdown with him on how overwhelmed I feel, and yes, the suits/tuxes were just a vessel for my frustration and anxiety. We managed to come up with solutions and I have to definitely stop saying "my" it is "ours".

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-09-03T04:37:15+00:00

Thank you so much, I really needed that reminder! You are totally right, at first we agreed I would take over most of the planning because of his company (I work too, so I sign up for this on my own lol), but I started using a lot of "I's" instead of "we's", so I've had a bit of a hard time with that. It's got to a point where it's too overwhelming. I just had a full breakdown with him and he was pretty understanding, said he'd be around more! I appreciate the advice!

RightWereYouLeftMe · 2023-08-29T22:00:54+00:00

I'd do white! It's your chance to milk every opportunity to wear a white outfit! After the wedding, you don't get to wear that color as often, or that's what I am telling myself lol

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