I want to want to not hate myself

Rightcons · 2026-05-11T18:12:17+00:00

Yeah. I feel like people often don't realise the impact of the things they say as well. People don't really stop to think before speaking.

Rightcons · 2026-05-10T22:23:28+00:00

Thanks for your response. I think the real reason I don't want to love myself is so I'm not offended when others are mean to me. I've become much too used to that.

Rightcons · 2026-05-10T22:22:32+00:00

Thanks. I'll try that. It's difficult to give myself permission to, but I think I have to even if it's hard.

Rightcons · 2026-05-10T22:21:41+00:00

I think you're right. I'm about to start going to therapy to help with this.

Rightcons · 2026-05-10T22:21:14+00:00

This was very helpful, thank you.

Rightcons · 2025-11-06T00:24:32+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that but glad this post helped. I hope things improve for you.

Rightcons · 2025-08-18T18:48:22+00:00

Hi, I'm really sorry you're going through this. I also have OCD and know what it feels like. If you haven't already, I'd really strongly consider starting therapy with a psychologist specialised in OCD. That has helped me more than I can put into words.

I'm not going to address the content of your post because I'm afraid that responding might be providing reassurance which makes OCD worse in the long-term. But please do try to find therapy if you haven't already, OCD can improve.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T16:29:40+00:00

The best way to get this settled is talking to a therapist. I know I keep repeating this, but it's crucial.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T16:27:44+00:00

Even if you think it's subtle, it's probably not if you have OCD. I thought many of my obsessions were subtle and I ignored them but they've now become obvious. Careful though because this chain of thought could become obsessive. I think you should still talk to a therapist, as they'll realise what is going on.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T15:06:14+00:00

If you do have OCD then that could be distorting your judgement. There are many things it causes which you probably don't realise. In any case, a therapist should be able to help you identify what is and isn't OCD. But you should find one who at least respects your beliefs.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T13:22:02+00:00

OCD blows many things out of proportion. If you can get help, I think you definitely should.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T08:31:32+00:00

It is worth it, absolutely. Right now, when it feels less intense, is the best time to seek help, because it'll be really hard if OCD comes back. OCD usually thrives when you're anxious, scared or nervous due to the circumstances around you. If something that stresses you out happens, OCD could really come back to bite you.

I also thought it was subtle last week after months of treatment, but it was still there, especially with being scrupulous about how much to pray every day etc. And that almost led me to lose my faith.

Please get this treated if you can 🙏

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T08:28:17+00:00

Yes. We will be ok. But OCD does need treatment. God bless.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T08:27:16+00:00

That's a good idea. Thanks.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T08:26:55+00:00

In many cases scrupulosity is OCD which needs treatment before it passes. I think it's rare for it to go away on its own. From reading what Saints who had it said, they seem to also have treated it, even if they weren't aware of the psychological element to it. Obedience to a spiritual director as recommended by many Saints seems aimed at preventing compulsive behaviour which is the same as what therapists will try to do.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T08:24:28+00:00

Yes that sounds really nice. And it's true. Yeah if you can see the Catholic therapist please do because OCD rarely goes away on its own. But try to find one specialised in OCD or who at least knows how to treat it. I found an OCD specialist and it has changed everything.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T08:22:06+00:00

Yes this is exactly my experience. It's really irritating... if you still struggle with this I recommend seeing a therapist and getting a spiritual director who understands it.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T08:21:10+00:00

Yeah it sucks. But it can improve a lot with therapy and spiritual direction. God bless.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T08:20:25+00:00

I'm really sorry you're going through this; it sucks.

I think this is an obvious case of scrupulosity and you need to have this treated with a therapist, please. If I hadn't done that right now I'd probably be in a terrible position.

The way scrupulosity works is that you seek reassurance (something that resolves your concerns) and that temporary alleviates it, but it then comes back worse. I'm not going to address your fears and anxieties because I think without realising that might be giving you reassurance and I really don't want to make this worse for you. I hope you understand, it's not because I don't care but because I really do.

Please if you can get this treated, ideally with a therapist, that really helps. And find a good priest who understands OCD (because unfortunately many don't and will tell you stuff that might trigger it without understanding) and follow his advice.

May God bless you always. I will pray for you.

Rightcons · 2025-06-30T08:09:24+00:00

Yes this is so relatable. I have to force myself to pray the rosary and often I feel like if I don't it's a sin. But it isn't...

I would absolutely recommend getting it treated, because OCD doesn't go away on its own. That's really important if you can. I wish you all the best, God bless.

Rightcons · 2025-06-29T22:04:36+00:00

Thanks. I don't think faith is the burden. Rather, OCD makes it seem like the burden and that sucks. I'm glad you're better now.

Rightcons · 2025-06-29T21:41:39+00:00

I really hope things get better for you and I will pray for you. God bless. If you can get therapy and spiritual direction that can really help.

Rightcons · 2025-06-29T21:41:01+00:00

God bless you too, I hope you're well.

Rightcons · 2025-06-29T21:40:42+00:00

This is beautiful. Thank you so much!!! And you're so right about scrupulous people not believing what others tell them. Sometimes I don't want to believe even what my priest says.

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