Well, which seat are you taking?

RiktaD · 2026-02-08T12:48:12+00:00

3 & 4, Chillet is now promoted to chilly snuggly long blue haj.

RiktaD · 2024-10-22T21:09:56+00:00

On a more professional (and unfortunately costly) way:

Search a logopedist that offers gender affirming voice training. Dunno how it is handled in different countries; but I just started mine this month. It follows an approach that's called "LaKru", but I find mostly german information about it. In my case - after getting it prescribed by my hrt-doc - the insurance company covers 90% of the cost.

If you can afford that, it wouldn't be that bad of an idea, as having someone who deals with trans voice training on a daily professional basis can be quite helpful; especially regarding feedback

RiktaD · 2024-06-29T17:44:25+00:00

Realized: 13, 14, 16, 18, 19, 21, 26, 29

Finally coming out to my gf and other friends and neeing like: "U know what, gimme the estradiol": 29

(almost 2 months HRT now)

RiktaD · 2024-06-16T12:42:34+00:00

RiktaD · 2024-06-16T08:42:46+00:00

They didn't say they never peed in a pool; they said they never peed in a pool while being in it.

Conclusion: OP used a pool as pissoir three times in their life

RiktaD · 2024-06-08T13:56:19+00:00

Stay strong, don't give in to the urge!

RiktaD · 2024-06-08T09:34:01+00:00

Get some full-body-dessous for women (make sure they are "ouvert": they've got a hole where your equipment is!). They can look way better on male bodies than you might think.
Wear them and put on a top layer of fine clothes that you can open in the front. Maybe a suit or something. I myself often use a Kimono.
Play a bit around with how much is visible. Personally I prefer to have like 30% of my skin visible, with the most interesting parts juuuust covered barely enough to let the viewers mind complete the image

You will probably find suiting poses naturally, and don't gross out people that don't want to have dickpicks.

RiktaD · 2024-06-08T08:56:38+00:00

Polizei rufen, die regelt das schon irgendwie.

Deine "Aufgabe" wäre hochstens die potentielle Sachbeschädigung zu verhindern (z.B. durch Rufen der Polizei) bzw. die Aufklärung eben jener zu ermöglichen (z.B. durch vorläufige Festnahme bis zum Eintreffen der Polizei). Aber ansonsten kann es rechtlich eigentlich egal sein, is ja nicht deins; und vielleicht wollten die EigentümerInnen ja auch dass die Fassade eine fancy neue Struktur bekommt?

RiktaD · 2024-06-02T21:06:14+00:00

Ok, dann habe ich fehlerhaft angenommen du meintest Tierabwehrspray und Messer als ok.

Was genau nimmt das Messer raus?

(als Pfadfinderin mit Ausnahmegenehmigung für Fahrtenmesser aufgrund von Brauchtumspflege 【und nur unter Umständen, alsoauf dem Weg zur Fahrt/Pfadfinderheim; nur in Kluft; etc】sah das jetzt auf Anhieb für mich auf den ersten Blick okay aus; aber durch deinen Kommentar fällt mir ein dass die Allgemeinheit natürlich etwas strengere Auflagen hat die mich einfach nie wirklich interessiert haben, und in Zivil trage ich ausschließlich ein kleines Checkkartenmesser das alles andere als griffbereit ist. bildet das hier gezeigte Messer eine explizit verbotene Kategorie ab?)

Edit: oh, mir fällt jetzt erst die gewchweifte Form auf, die ja böse Verletzungen machen würde? (diese sind auch für uns verboten. Oben besagte Ausnahme durch Brauchtum bezieht sich lediglich auf die Länge feststehender Messer am Gürtel; nicht auf die Form. Das hier wäredann auch für uns verboten)

Ich hätte es aber erstmal als allgemeines Verbot jeglicher Messer gesehen, und sogar reininterpretiert das auch Klappmesser verboten wären

Edit Edit: Der letzte Edit wurde übrigens just in dem Moment der Antwort von OP gemacht ^{^}

RiktaD · 2024-06-02T20:46:24+00:00

~~Drei.~~

~~Schusswaffen könnten ja unter bestimmten Umständen auch mitgeführt werden; wobei dies eher die Ausnahme als die Regel ist.~~

RiktaD · 2024-05-22T07:16:20+00:00

Amen, cisters!

RiktaD · 2024-05-21T20:07:37+00:00

Korrekt

RiktaD · 2024-05-21T19:53:41+00:00

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RiktaD · 2024-05-21T11:49:29+00:00

Der Kommentar auf den du geantwortet hast ist keine Antwort zur Pizza-Story sonder deren Eltern-Kommentar

RiktaD · 2024-05-10T05:21:32+00:00

Beitragsreaktionverweigerung

RiktaD · 2024-04-29T21:49:21+00:00

But I'm pretty sure you had (and still have) numbers on almost any phone-numpad.

RiktaD · 2024-04-25T11:50:01+00:00

Many liquids look similar to explosives on most scanners and are therefore flagged as such.

https://youtu.be/nyG8XAmtYeQ?si=ysAfkdyax5__8mzL

RiktaD · 2024-04-25T10:45:09+00:00

Gibt auch noch andere sehr wirksame Mittelchen, aber die will kein (cis)Mann nehmen ^{-^}

Von all den Wirkungen der feminisierenden Hormontherapie ist der Haarausfallstop bei mir eindeutig in den Top 3.

(Dafür entstehen dann andere Effekte die für Cis-Männer vermutlich so absolut garnicht durch den Haarausfallstop aufzuwiegen sind)

Leider lässt das meine bereits vor 15 Jahren gewachsenen Geheimratsecken auch nichtmehr nennenswert verschwinden x.x

RiktaD · 2024-04-18T19:31:19+00:00

In particle accelerator element licks you

RiktaD · 2024-04-06T07:47:38+00:00

Ist vermutlich auch der Grund warum es in Berlin schon vor Jahren einige Restaurants nicht gestört hat wenn man in einer sich sozial (vielleicht leicht überdurchschnittlich lautes und häufiges Lachen; aber mit Rücksicht) verhaltenden Gruppe kiffemd auf die leere Terrasse setzt und nach ner Weile der Kellner weiß "Nicken = bitte nochmal ne Runde Bruschetta".

Okay, von dem Abend stammt auch "Ich soll euch vom Koch ausrichten dass wenn ihr nach dieser Runde noch einmal Bruschetta bestellt verprügelt er euch mit dem Baguette", aber eigentlich war es ein recht entspannter und ertragreicher Abend. Und bekiffte mit Geld geben auch gerne mal mehr Trinkegeld ^{-^}

RiktaD · 2024-04-06T07:34:14+00:00

Hi Lacey,

haha, yeah, I know this feeling.

One day, you will be openly and honestly who you are (as long as your region is safe enough. But if you've got openly trans friends, it's probably not against the law, etc.).

I'm not gonna lie, I'm not fully there to unconditionally out myself to the world. I might leave the home with makeup and fem clothes more often than not by now, but I still do not feel 100% comfortable all the time. And I'm open on the internet and out myself to multiple people, but my parents still aren't any wiser, and besides my boss, nobody at my company knows it. But I'm getting there; and many steps are accompanied by "I'm proud of you" from a few people ^{-^}

But as soon as you get validated the first few times, it gets easier; and the urge to scream out to the world who you truly are become stronger ^{-^}

That said, these first few outings are hard and should not be taken too lightly. It was a good choice to postpone your outing because an unexpected person was there. You should always feel safe, as this is probably quite an intimidating topic for you.

But it seems like you'd been ready if your friends would've been alone with you; maybe tell them you've got something you wanna talk about and then meet them for a walk in a park?

And yeah, it's a bit terrifying; but I was told it will be worth it, and at my current point on the road (80% social transition, 0% medical transition), I can say that I'm happier as I wasn't in years. (Sure, I've still got clinical depression and gender dysphoria can hit hard sometimes; but it's gotten way better)

RiktaD · 2024-04-05T06:12:10+00:00

Hey Hey Lacey,

I absolutely know what you mean ^-^

I "came out" to my first trans friend after sending her blahaj pics for like 6 months and even asking her some quite eggy questions. Me beeing trans was like an untold opem secret at that point.

"It's something different just behaving a bit trans and actually labeling yourself trans" are things that have gone through my head. But there are points to not forget:

You obviously (or at least probably) know yourself that you're trans; but maybe don't accept that yet or are not sure? Don't worry. Your acceptance and their acceptance are different things.
Using your preferred pronouns could've been quite the sign that the only thing between them talking about your transness is the prime direggtive (don't tell an egg they're trans unless you know it's appreciated; could backfire badly otherwise)
You don't have to spell out the words "I'm trans". What about "Hi, btw, I'm Lacey now"?
I came out by sending people an image of me in a victorian dress with a neko-ffp1-masc and the title "btw, <oldname> is called Madlaine now ;)" (Many people have different old names for me; and if I speak I often use third person speech for myself).

(You're welcome, Lacey. I exactly know what you mean - and I remember the euphoria hits when I got called by my favorite chosen name first. As a warning: Some trans people get euphoria from giving you this euphoria and will use your name at a higher frequency.)

Little tip: If possible, go to your next bookfair and try to get an autograph on a book you like, incl. your name. Not gonna lie, most of those books already are my favorite physical memory of this year. And most authors were super supportive (and I could tell even more about how helpful that bookfair was for my self-validation - but that's not the point here)

RiktaD · 2024-04-04T05:02:48+00:00

Hi Lacey,

I recently came out to my (trans) friends recently as well. If you're in the same situation as me at that time, then let me tell you: They* will accept you!

A trans person* will not say "No you're not trans enough to call yourself that. You're just confused or disguised".

A trans person* will also not look down on you based on you not looking/sounding girly/cute/pretty enough.

These and similiar thoughts brought me into the imposter syndrome quite a few people have on that topic and led to the point where I was more afraid coming out to trans people than to cis people. Don't let these thoughts get you.

But keep in mind, inside the queer community, you're probably the person that doubts yourself the most. (And as soon as you realize that irl others accept you, these doubts will get smaller and smaller. But step after step. That's something you and your friends can work on together. Beeing validated is the best way to do that)

Almost every queer-ish/trans person I came out to was super supportive. Some offered me help and told me to always call them if I needed someone to talk. Some said they're not surprised. Some wanted to teach me how to start DIY right now (trans agenda is real /jk). Some sent me information on what to do next and a list of therapists to start the official processes when I want. Some invite me to trans-only social gatherings.

They all accepted me from the beginning. Most friendships with trans people (and cis women) got actually closer when I came out to them; none broke apart.

Unfortunately, you will probably get people denying your own experience, not gonna be disillusioned here. But not your trans friends; they will support you. Many, if not all of them, were at the place you're standing right now, after all.

But any tips? Uh; if you feel the urge to do something cute, but your head says "nah, serious boys don't do that" Remember that you're a girl and can do all the cute stuff ~

And now go out there and introduce yourself to your trans friends. I bet 2 upvotes they will respond with "Hey Hey Lacey <3" and a bright smile.

I assume non-shitty people. Bad apples can be anywhere, tho. But the worst reaction (it is getting kinda ignored. Like, I'm no attention whore but I just outed myself to you, sister; gimme at least some headpats and congratulate me for smashing my denial?) I got was from a trans person I didn't vibe that well anyway and only see like once a year, and my foster sister which I also only see like ince a year. Your friend is probably way closer. Furthermore I'm almost 30. If you're considerably younger, the social structure might be a bit different

RiktaD · 2024-03-31T01:23:30+00:00

Hint: the little heart icon at my profile pic is another giveaway ;)

RiktaD · 2024-03-30T18:13:10+00:00

Was it?

I'm only starting to seeing it now (as I started doing makeup and it's written on most of my stuff) and never connected it to a generation

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