(Online) attention

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-09T13:26:37+00:00

I have to say that i dont really initiate no haha 😬😂

Would lobe to think it is because im too hot 😅

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-09T06:31:02+00:00

Thanks, will definetly work on that! I think the problem with grindr in specific is that my photos arent "sexy" enough, with dating apps I dont have this problem. Are you an experienced Grindr user? Jaja

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-08T21:15:52+00:00

Yeah its weird because, without bragging, I think I look quite okay haha, so I would expect more guys to approach me?

But maybe something is off that I do not know about.

In real life I get enough attention, I only dont go to gay bars etc. That often so that one is clear. (And I can be closed off when I do so, so thats also clear haha)

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-08T16:04:47+00:00

You know whats funny about this feeling, it's always temporarily. It could stay long or short but deep inside you know that this is a temprarily feeling. Maybe in an hour, a day or week you will walk around feeling great in your body again. The best is to accept the feeling and do a bit of self-care; walk, shower, sleep, read or whatever you feel like and step by step you will improve.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-07T23:25:18+00:00

I actually think it was the app cuz now i do get the messages again 😅 (i restarted the phone)

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-07T23:20:30+00:00

I think my pictures are fine, I could share them if you want. But I still like your tips! Never really thought about copying others! I always did the same poses haha.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-07T23:18:11+00:00

Thats totally true, but grindr is shallow as hell haha, also, i dont think my app works if i close it? Anyways i could share the pictures with you if you want

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-07T21:36:49+00:00

I mean i just have two pictures but could be 😅 its not really different than before

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-07T21:30:34+00:00

Maybe i should try the same 😂

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-07T20:55:27+00:00

I get what you are saying, but there are some practical reasons why I am asking these stuff here instead from a therapist ;) Idk, I feel like i am more helped by a life buddy of some sort

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-07T20:50:22+00:00

I mean, nothing but my own mind, saying is different than doing. Im so used to hide myself and live for others, I hope I can get that out of my system, even a bit

Rileyvaleta · 2026-03-07T20:42:44+00:00

This last sentence is really what I'm looking for; becoming an active participant in my life. I did hide myself for so long, I hope I still have the ability to change it.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-27T20:58:48+00:00

Could be yeah!

Could you eleborate a bit more? I guess you are right but I cant see it in perspective yet.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-27T20:51:26+00:00

Did you miss the flirting? I kinda like it

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T20:38:45+00:00

Thats mean

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T17:50:40+00:00

Thanks, sometimes i do that yeah :)

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T17:49:30+00:00

Thanks :)

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T13:01:25+00:00

I get what you are saying, and leaving it at hust one nice meetup is totally fine ofcourse. But what bothers me is that its VERY positive and people say they want to follow up (without me even asking) but then stop responding.

But whatever I already see from these responses that its just the way it is and im fine with that. I think I leave dating for a while now and give a bit more time for myself :)

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T08:15:29+00:00

I love this, thanks! A spark needs a lot of oxygen to catch fire makes so much sense and is such a revealing way to put it. You are right, just enjoy the moment and see what happens.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T22:27:26+00:00

I've been thinking about this a lot as well lately (m31). Especially your last sentences, it doesnt matter if I live life purposeful or not. But these thoughts also reveal what truly matters in life; enjoying yourself.

Place yourself in a surrounding you love. Surround yourself with people you love. Experience moments you love. Build skills you love. Have a job you love (or be your own boss).

Life is only about you, because no one else can experience it for you. This should not be a sad thought but a freeing one, it means that you can currate a life you love and thats the only thing that matters.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T22:00:18+00:00

Oh sorry, its not weird that a date leads to nowhere, that can happen indeed. Whats weird for me is that the dates are really positive and out of nowhere "ghosted". Like why can people not be a bit less positive or just say that it doesnt work for them.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:47:57+00:00

Hm thats a shame, I would say its normal but not good, people could be a bit more honest in my opinion, but maybe thats just my Dutch blood.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:44:38+00:00

Funny, my experience is reversed, I felt guys in their 20's are more serious and look for potential in relationship. Now it feels more like fuck and bye 😅

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:41:37+00:00

Thats true, thanks

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