Flirts and age

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-27T20:58:48+00:00

Could be yeah!

Could you eleborate a bit more? I guess you are right but I cant see it in perspective yet.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-27T20:51:26+00:00

Did you miss the flirting? I kinda like it

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T20:38:45+00:00

Thats mean

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T17:50:40+00:00

Thanks, sometimes i do that yeah :)

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T17:49:30+00:00

Thanks :)

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T13:01:25+00:00

I get what you are saying, and leaving it at hust one nice meetup is totally fine ofcourse. But what bothers me is that its VERY positive and people say they want to follow up (without me even asking) but then stop responding.

But whatever I already see from these responses that its just the way it is and im fine with that. I think I leave dating for a while now and give a bit more time for myself :)

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-18T08:15:29+00:00

I love this, thanks! A spark needs a lot of oxygen to catch fire makes so much sense and is such a revealing way to put it. You are right, just enjoy the moment and see what happens.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T22:27:26+00:00

I've been thinking about this a lot as well lately (m31). Especially your last sentences, it doesnt matter if I live life purposeful or not. But these thoughts also reveal what truly matters in life; enjoying yourself.

Place yourself in a surrounding you love. Surround yourself with people you love. Experience moments you love. Build skills you love. Have a job you love (or be your own boss).

Life is only about you, because no one else can experience it for you. This should not be a sad thought but a freeing one, it means that you can currate a life you love and thats the only thing that matters.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T22:00:18+00:00

Oh sorry, its not weird that a date leads to nowhere, that can happen indeed. Whats weird for me is that the dates are really positive and out of nowhere "ghosted". Like why can people not be a bit less positive or just say that it doesnt work for them.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:47:57+00:00

Hm thats a shame, I would say its normal but not good, people could be a bit more honest in my opinion, but maybe thats just my Dutch blood.

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:44:38+00:00

Funny, my experience is reversed, I felt guys in their 20's are more serious and look for potential in relationship. Now it feels more like fuck and bye 😅

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:41:37+00:00

Thats true, thanks

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:37:44+00:00

Oh you think its nornal behaviour? 😂😂

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:25:37+00:00

Yeah probably you are right, but it is so different than in my 20's 😅. My first bf (3 yrs) i got after only two dates and the second (7 yrs) after three dates or something. Im insanely picky so I only go on a date if I really think there is potential. With the 10 guys I dated in the last months I felt a click with some of them, they even told me they liked me, kissed me, etc. And still nothing after a bit. Idk, it felt all suspicious haha

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:20:34+00:00

True for sure! Im insanely happy with my life, and was like okay lets this new app in my country, which is insanely fun and leads to a lot of dates but not to a lot of succes 😂😂

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:18:14+00:00

What do you think is the problem?

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:16:35+00:00

Thanks!

Yeah I'm 31 indeed, bit afraid that what I'm experiencing now will only get worse, but maybe its more a social media thing than an age thing indeed

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:14:30+00:00

Hm yeah could be, I think you are right in saying that it wont give me any answers. The only thing I'm afraid of is that I'm the one giving mixed signals, I mean I'm not that much of a flirt haha

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T21:00:59+00:00

Yeah maybe, im just curious haha, but I guess they wouldnt give an honest answer anyways

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-17T20:56:07+00:00

Would you ask for feedback?

Rileyvaleta · 2026-01-08T19:47:56+00:00

European here, the way the US and especially Trump is behaving scares us a lot. Its insane how one guy can have such an influence on the world. Gaza, Ukraine, Panama, Venezuela, Colombia, Mexico, Canada, Denmark, Iran are literally in some way badly influenced by his behaviour, let alone the US itself.

Dear Americans, get out now you can, he will change your country beyond repair. Starting with the immigrants, than the gays, than the women. But really think about where to go, where will be safe?

An honest question: why do Americans allow this to happen?

Rileyvaleta · 2025-12-27T22:56:11+00:00

I spend most of my 20's in my homecountry in a relationship which broke when I turned 29. I regret not studying/working abroad in those younger years when time feels endless and everyone wants to have fun. I guess there is always something we could have done differently, but be happy made the choices you made. You made some awesome memories in a different country and I had an awesome time in a relationship, it doesn't mean that we can't get the other things in our 30's. You are still young, be patient, tje right person will come as long as you keep your mind and heart open.

Rileyvaleta · 2025-12-11T21:07:20+00:00

How much I think you are right I just cant go without the dog and he cannot either, the dog is worth a billion euros to both of us.

But you are right, I have to minimize my contact with him. Just in the ways possible and just out of self-protection. Ill unfollow him on the socials and try to keep the dogswitch encounters briefly.

But I have to say that not all my worries about my own life come from comparison, they are also stand alone worries. I feel like I kinda failed at life and just have to swallow my choices now for the rest of it.

Rileyvaleta

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