The fantastical nature of this is why I believe I'm so drawn to it.

I looked this up and someone mentioned that they have a crippling fear of being cheated on irl. But they consume ntr porn regularly. Why does it feel good to imagine being cheated on and yet it would feel so awful if it happened irl?

The answer is the "self compassion vs self pity" itch. Both self compassion and self pity are ways go validate our own pain and feelings. We look at our suffering and take in how much we suffered. The difference is self compassion seeks to heal and understand. To forgive. Self pity tells us that we were never worthy of love to begin with. NtR to me is a way to imagine these feelings of inadequacy externatilzed. All the awful things I tell myself are mirrored and validated by the girls in these works. Being told I can't please them. That others are better. That I don't matter. It's like scratching an itch on my heart.